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Original poster

To delete fortnight

29 replies

pippop1317 · 10/02/2019 19:28

I'm so angry. I've just had a random check on the bank and discovered an Xbox payment for £6.99. (My instant thought was "he'd never do that")
I confront ds and he eventually confessed that yesterday he purchased a 'skin'. I said that it was theft and the same as taking money from my purse.
I confiscated Xbox and all electronics.
I then told him, that in a week he can have his stuff back but I will be deleting fortnight. AIBU?

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Isadora2007 · 10/02/2019 19:31

Well. Maybe a little bit unreasonable for a first offence. The punishment for this week is fine and a big long chat about trust etc. But deleting is a step too far in my opinion.

YourFly · 10/02/2019 19:32

I wouldnt be angry, just a bit pissed off.

Its probably one you can tick of the list of things they will do.

No Easter Egg, as thats the £6.99 gone. Doesn't it have the option of parental settings so purchases can't be made?

Original poster
pippop1317 · 10/02/2019 19:34

We've had a few issues with fortnight. Especially it being dragged into school and causing confrontations, not just him. And it just seems tonight is the final straw.
I'm sick to death of this game.

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Original poster
pippop1317 · 10/02/2019 19:35

Unfortunately he's been present when dh has purchased stuff for him in the past. So obviously seen the password.

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Todaythiscouldbe · 10/02/2019 19:37

Seems a bit harsh. Change the password, don't let him see it and it can't happen again.

gamerchick · 10/02/2019 19:37

Some of the blame lies with you though, it's not necessary to hook a card up to the Xbox.

longtimelurkerhelen · 10/02/2019 19:39

Take your payment info off his account. You will need to contact xbox support to do it. support.xbox.com/en-US/contact-us

MeredithGrey1 · 10/02/2019 19:57

How old is he? You say he “eventually” confessed, so I guess for a while he denied having anything to do with it? That would annoy me possibly just as much as buying it in the first place when he knew he shouldn’t, I really don’t like lying.
I might confiscate the electronics for longer, but not delete fortnight when he gets it back.

Some of the blame lies with you though, it's not necessary to hook a card up to the Xbox.
I disagree with this. As OP says, it’s the same as taking money from her purse, and if a child took money from her purse, you wouldn’t say “well your fault for having money in your purse.”

TheFaerieQueene · 10/02/2019 19:59

How is this the OP’s fault? Her DC knew it was wrong and did it anyway.
If he took money from her purse, would it be ok because the OP had left cash in it?

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pippop1317 · 10/02/2019 20:06

Like I said at the start, I never thought he'd do something like that. I was genuinely shocked that he would do anything like that.
We have a VERY open relationship. He knows right from wrong.
He knows these purchases are not made by him.
And yes he did lie at first. Until dh said I can check the Xbox account and see exactly when u did it and what was purchased.

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Namechangedforthis79 · 10/02/2019 20:08

I would delete fortnite for the lying. It's turning him into a liar so clearly not good for him.

WendyCope · 10/02/2019 20:13

My DD did sort of the same and bought skin a few months back, she is 10 and I don't give her pocket money, so I shrugged it off and had a word. (My bank details were on her iPad, there was a reason, but I can't remember what) I deleted them straight away.

I did sort of think, 'well you were stupid to have left your bank details on there Wendy' she had had them on there for ages and NEVER abused the trust..

I think she got punishment enough from feeling so guilty.

2 months on and she hates the game now.

He'll grow out of it.

sparklytwinklyfairylights · 10/02/2019 20:13

Make sure your card details are fully removed from the Xbox too

miranda1511 · 10/02/2019 20:15

This is what games like Fortnite lead to. It's a horrible game that encourages violence and bad behaviour.

Original poster
pippop1317 · 10/02/2019 20:15

Trust me, card details have gone.

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gamerchick · 10/02/2019 20:21

It's bugger all like taking cash from a purse Hmm it's easy and tempting to use virtual money. Even for adults with a credit card hooked up to somewhere like Amazon after a few beers compared to a prepaid card which you can get for both.

Leave the card off, get prepaid credits in future and let him sweat for the minute.

Todaythiscouldbe · 10/02/2019 20:44

miranda1511 It doesn't encourage bad behaviour and violence at all. It can be addictive, like all games, but that's for parents to manage

Epanoui · 10/02/2019 21:17

How old is he?

WendyCope · 10/02/2019 21:41

I agree with Today it certainly doesn't encourage bad behaviour and violence.

No way would I let my DD play it if it did.

There is a lot of hysteria about it for some reason. Mumsnet actually did a really useful guide to Fortnite for parents.

All games can be addictive, but then the novelty soon wears off.

I think on the Xbox you can connect with other players though? I wouldn't let DD do that with any game.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 10/02/2019 21:49

Delete it..

Never hear positive things about this game at all

bridgetreilly · 10/02/2019 22:21

I don't think YABU at all, OP. It is exactly like taking cash out of your purse. He knew he shouldn't be doing it and I would come down hard on him for this too.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 10/02/2019 23:56

Depends on his age. Some children don't understand what the process behind "buying" things online really means. They can buy things with pretend money on some games. You're the fool for adding a credit card to his Xbox account really

Mrskeats · 11/02/2019 00:02

Somebody I know is currently down 500 quid through in app purchases
I hate the whole thing.

Bryjam · 11/02/2019 00:12

How old is your DC?

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