Ex MIL and kids

[Misscakes]

Can I have your opinion?

I'm newly separated from husband, we have 2 boys, age 6 and 9.
I support financially 100% and get no maintenance from ex. I work FT and ex only has kids every other weekend. I have no family to help on my side. To say it's been a shock to the system is an understatement

I suggested to MIL that she and her sister and daughter pull together and do one pick up a month each (which would give me one eve to go to evening work events). However she said no.

When I was with her son she was supportive and helped where she could, but now she is distancing herself. I have been there for her through various twists and turns in her life.

AIBU to just feel really let down? It's a 1 hour drive to my flat.. once a month should surely be doable.....

PS - her son now lives with her and pays no rent, CT, bills or food.

I don't think you are being too unreasonable as you aren't asking for too much.
Yes, your ex should be the one helping but as you say, your mother in law is your children's grandmother, not just his mother.
If my son and wife split up I would do what I could for his wife in these circumstances. His children would come before anything I would do for my son.

Seems the shitty apple didn't fall far from the shitty tree. I hope you're not doing any more favours for the MIL and SIL?

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter no I'm not

CanILeavenowplease Ah I see! He couldn't do all that stuff anyway. I do it.

Good and if they ask for favours I'd bloody ignore them (or point out their hypocrisy). Sorry they're crap, I hope it doesn't impact in your DC too much

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter thank you

I'm not sure if the complete circumstances but it seems like your dcs father had just abandoned them. It sounds like your ex MIL doesn't care a whole bunch about them either. I would have thought seeing her GC once a month would be something she would want to do. Funny people.

talktoo she will see them twice a month anyway for a whole weekend as her son lives with her.
He's pretty devastated he's got every other weekend (however not devastated enough to sort out his life it seems)

I still think it's odd. GC aren't stupid. They know if GPs are keen to make their lives better by helping out. The relationship is between the GC and GP and withholding support because you will benefit us just really odd and not going to help GP build long living relationships with their GC.

The whole lot of them sound like a bunch of bastards. She should be ashamed of her son paying no maintenance but some people have no morals/empathy it seems. You sound like an amazing person doing everything by yourself. Sorry no suggestions but wanted to say you’re absolutely not being unreasonable