"Quick run to avoid dinner with kids" - would you post this on social media?

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Saw someone (with 80,000+ IG followers) post this this evening. Pretty shocked. I know all parents need a break at times, but to phrase it like this on social media just seems wrong on so many levels.

God, it’s just a jokey throwaway comment. The kind of thing a normal person would post without for a minute imagining that a humourless, po-faced, bosom-hoiker would make a sniffy comment about it on a bloody Internet forum.

Even if it was serious I don't see anything wrong with that.
I think society should be more open about how utterly shit parenting can be sometimes.
I remember feeling an utter failure as a mother because we weren't perfectly groomed, active and happy 24/7.

My 4yo and 2yo have been an absolute nightmare recently.

I've worked with men who've admitted to staying in the office/ scheduling meetings to avoid having to "help" with their own children at dinner/ bath/ bedtime and think there's a special place in hell reserved for the self centered tossers...

peterpainauchicolat ”is this detachment meant to be funny“

Did you think it was meant to be taken with absolute straight-faced seriousness as an actual instruction to the childminder? Give over now.

I told her I didn't care if she duct taped her to the wall when she's with her she's her problem.

On nornings when youngest DS has been hard work I will gleefully tell his teacher at drop-off time "he's your problem for the next six hours!"

She hasn't reported me to the safeguarding team for it so presumably she knows that it's a fucking joke.

I’m actually feeling a bit bad as I realise that I would judge a man who wrote this, but not a woman. If it was a woman I’d think ‘we’ve all been there’ but if it was a man I’d think ‘lazy sod I bet his wife doesn’t get to go for a run’.

That you have come on to a website for parents expressing “shock” about this says an awful lot about you, OP.

Are you really so insecure that you need online validation for your fondly imagined superior parenting? That you wuv wuv wuv your kiddies so much more than this woman does hers?

She was joking, as is obvious to anyone with an adequate number of functional brain cells. We’re still allowed the odd joke in this deeply sensitive era of woke-ism aren’t we?

Stop being so fucking tedious.

YABU, bonkers and weirdly over invested OP. Do you pay them to pretend they love all mealtimes with their DC or is it your SiL/MiL?

Meal times can be really stressful with some children. YABU.

Was I the only person who read this as

Quick! Run to avoid dinner time with the kids

Caughtinanet
No, me too

Oh gosh OP, this backfired on you didn't it! I think it's hilarious that you are 'shocked' and I'm so glad you are the only one who is.

Better than "love my lickle famalam, #blessed #makingmemories" style posts which make me want to vomit.

So who is the person the OP is talking about?

Mrs Meldrum, lamo mummy blogger & insta influencer

I occasionally go for a run to avoid bath time......clearly I'm a shitty mother and I didn't even realise it 😳

This has made me laugh OP do you really have so little to do in life you are finding ways to judge other people ? Then winging that you are being judged on this thread

Seriously get a hobby

I hear running can be quite a beneficial hobby

What's lammo? I'm useless, there are loads of Mrs Meldrums - which one?! Why do I care, I'm just procrastinating..

[shrug] I go for a run to avoid all sorts of things - it is the one thing guaranteed to put me in a better mood and so everyone's a winner.

I pay a sitter to mind my son so I can run. We visit friends and family and I will ask if I can pop out for a run.

My son knows I love him, he also knows I need time to myself. I am a lone parent and this is something I do for me.

Sounds like a joke...

• I think it is a bit shitty. It definitely fails the do as you would be done by test.

I think most people would be insulted if someone wrote it about them. And it is insulting to say it. Not abusive, just low grade shittieness.*

Get a bloody grip. Kids can be selfish twats. We slave for them day in and day out with little to no thanks. So yes sometimes I want them to piss off and leave me alone.

I've posted before about how much I hate mealtimes with ours - to the point where I'd decided to give up until dd (2) is a bit older.

But no, in my wisdom I decided we'd go out for lunch again yesterday. Ds and dd argued over where they wanted to sit. Dd insisted on having a cup for her water, drank some, dropped the rest all over the table, so dh moved it out of her way. Cue massive tantrum because she wanted it near her. To keep her quiet I decided to move it back to her, by which point she was having none of that either and pushed it away - again, all over the table. She was still screaming so I ended up taking her off for a walk to calm her down, leaving dh and ds behind at the table. We returned when the food did, dd ate 2 sausages, threw potato and peas on the floor then said she was no longer hungry.

Long story short: I'd have loved a run to avoid dinner with the kids, and I'd have been more than happy to make the statement public.

From memory, it became more bearable with ds when he got to about 4 (he's now 8 and the most we have to complain about is him slouching a bit at the table). When mealtimes resemble feeding time at the zoo but with worse manners it's time to take a different approach. A run seems eminently sensible to me. Yabu.

Taking the time out isn't the issue for me, documenting it in such a manner that it was is tge issur for me. If you were a 7 yo child (who can read, and does look at their mother's social media, as far as I'm aware) how crappy would that make you feel?