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AIBU or is my husband a man child

32 replies

Scotland18 · 09/02/2019 17:46

Cake sale at the school, I ask my husband to pick up some cakes to donate, and specify it needs to be a precut cake or fairy cakes, for obvious reasons.

So I take my daughter to the sale, to choose some cakes,and on the side are two giant uncut cakes not being included in the sale thanks to my husband.

AIBU to think I didn't want a man child for a husband.

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Lovingbenidorm · 09/02/2019 17:48

You didn’t bake?!

SylvanianFrenemies · 09/02/2019 17:49

Meh. Sounds like an easy mistake to make. I can't think where you can buy a pre sliced cake. Surely someone could cut it? More to the point, did it mean you had cakes to bring home?

WorraLiberty · 09/02/2019 17:49

How/why have you leapt to the label 'manchild?'

Unless you're going to unleash a drip-feed, perhaps that was all he could get.

I'd assume there'd be at least one knife at a cake sale anyway.

Bigonesmallone3 · 09/02/2019 17:51

Think he probably just fucked up.. I doubt he intentionally two giant uncut cakes to be wasted!

Unless he was starving

Bigonesmallone3 · 09/02/2019 17:52

Intentionally purchased*

Birdsgottafly · 09/02/2019 17:52

" it needs to be a precut cake or fairy cakes, for obvious reasons."

My children are Adults, I have GC in school. All the schools have sliced up a full cake that's been sent in.

It's just ridiculous of the School.

DryIce · 09/02/2019 17:52

I guess I am a manchild (womanchild?) - I wouldn't have realised a full cake would be unacceptable for a bake sale

WineGummyBear · 09/02/2019 17:54

The reasons are obvious to someone initiated in school bake sales but if not that sounds like an easy accident.

mooncuplanding · 09/02/2019 17:54

Why couldn’t the school slice them?!

MrsTerryPratcett · 09/02/2019 17:55

More crappy planning by the school if you ask me.

outpinked · 09/02/2019 17:56

Pre-cut cake is new to me... Does anywhere actually sell that? Couldn’t you have taken it along with a knife and sliced it up or done it beforehand? Not really seeing the big deal here tbh.

StreetwiseHercules · 09/02/2019 17:57

Maybe he’s just not that invested in school bake sales. That’s really ok, isn’t it?

MrsTerryPratcett · 09/02/2019 17:58

And schools rely on the unpaid labour of women for this kind of stuff. To plan and bake and know all this.

It doesn't pass my 'would men do it' test of all volunteering.

FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones · 09/02/2019 17:58

Surely they could have dug out a knife to cut the cake into slices?

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Scotland18 · 09/02/2019 17:59

Ha ha , no I didn't bake and I don't volunteer on the school council either.
Yes, maybe the school is a bit lacking in resource and initiative. And he probably did want the cakes , lol.

It's meant to be light hearted folks. Just I knew the school and so I had said fairy cakes,or pre cut. There were loads of those crispy rice cakes too, don't they come individually in every supermarket??

I mean, he bought a giant bee cake !! Just why LOL

Should be on chat I guess.

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Eliza9917 · 09/02/2019 18:00

Why can't people running the stall cut the cakes?

Quartz2208 · 09/02/2019 18:00

I have done a lot of school bake sales and we cut a cake up. We now make sure we have plastic gloves and a knife from the school kitchen and we slice it up.

its often something you can charge a little more for as well

Now if it had contained nuts that would be a different thing as that is strictly followed

Topseyt · 09/02/2019 18:01

Why the fuck can't the school slice up the cakes? Ours did.

I don't know that that makes him a manchild. I supplied whole cakes to the odd school cake stall. They were either sliced up and sold separately or sold for a decent price as a whole cake.

I also bought the occasional whole cake from a cake stall.

I don't think he was unreasonable. School might have been though.

CloserIAm2Fine · 09/02/2019 18:01

I’ve never seen a cake sale that didn’t have the facility to either cut up a whole cake or sell it whole. I’ve also never encountered precut cake, wouldn’t it be horribly dry?

Arnoldthecat · 09/02/2019 18:03

Big deal. Cant someone cut the said cake? God help him if he made a serious error.

Justheretogiveaviewfrommyworld · 09/02/2019 18:04

Erm, just transfer them to a tray, cut them an recover with foil as you would if you'd baked a tray bake? This can't be the reason you're finding him frustrating right now.

SilentBob · 09/02/2019 18:07

I know this is lighthearted, BUT...
pre-cut cake?

Cake that is pre-cut?

I've bought many a cake. From many a shop. Never one that has been pre-cut, though. Unless i've bought like 2 slices of cake from a cake shop. They were definitely pre-cut. Other than that, I'm stumped.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/02/2019 18:08

School should own a knife or two.

Loads of bake sales I’ve contributed to ask for things uncut so they can standardise portion sizes.

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Scotland18 · 09/02/2019 18:09

All good points, it must be because I'm not on the school council, that they left me out of the urgent memo about cut cakes.

Still I've purchased from these said cake sales at the school and I obviously clocked that there were no whole cakes (Sliced or unsliced) So this was noted in my subconscious and therefore I asked him to get a pre cut cut or fairy cakes.
But it's all my fault as you have pointed out, you can't get a pre cut cake.
My expectations exceed reality yet again. Cake

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Scotland18 · 09/02/2019 18:10

I was thinking of those cake trays you get(Pre cut cake ) lol

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