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Original poster

OH put DS back to bed in shitty nappy

42 replies

noneofyourbusinessx · 09/02/2019 07:41

We've been up most of the night with DD so I know we're both tired. I came up to bed early and he sat down stairs until 12 or 1 when he came up dd was crying so he woke me up you would think he would just feed her as I was asleep. Anyhow she woke again at 3 and I got up with her for about and hour. DS just woke up at 7 crying at the stair gate outside his room I told OH to get him and bring him in bed with us so he lets him in bed with us for 5 minutes until gets fed up and plonks him bank in his room with a shitty nappy and locked the gate.

No matter how tired I am I would never leave my kids in a dirty nappy. AIBU to be angry? I really feel like leaving him it's just one of things that annoys me. Since he's stopped working he's just become a lazy bastard.

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katienana · 09/02/2019 07:43

YANBU that sounds really neglectful.

SnuggyBuggy · 09/02/2019 07:44

YANBU, that's gross as fuck

endofthelinefinally · 09/02/2019 07:45

He isn't working?

GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 09/02/2019 07:46

Awful

silkpyjamasallday · 09/02/2019 07:47

Leaving a child in a dirty nappy is pretty cruel, won't your son end up with nappy rash, or at the very least sore skin? If he's not working then he should be putting his all into parenting, most parents of young children are exhausted, but manage not to be neglectful. Did you go and change him?

IWonderedLonelyAsACloud · 09/02/2019 07:48

YANBU. That is gross.

ineedtostopgooglingsymptoms · 09/02/2019 07:50

How cruel Sad I’m sure he wouldn’t want to sit/sleep in his own mess.

YANBU at all

ambereeree · 09/02/2019 07:50

What did you do or say? My DP did this once all all hell broke loose. It's so lazy.

Ooplesandbananas · 09/02/2019 07:52

YANBU. I have had similar incidents with my OH, who doesn't take well to having to do anything during the night and has ignored DS crying because of a dirty nappy or has not changed one and claimed to have not noticed.
Its neglectful and I have given him a right earful about it many times so now he actually bothers to do it.
Unfortunately some men are just lazy and think if they don't do it then us mother's will end up doing it instead.

Original poster
noneofyourbusinessx · 09/02/2019 07:55

It's fucking lazy I jumped out of bed and went and got DS were downstairs now.
He said I got up last night to make DD a bottle so you could feed her your the lazy one.
He has his own business but they don't get much work this time of the year so he just does nothing.

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noneofyourbusinessx · 09/02/2019 07:55

OMG yes and him pretending he can't hear DD crying Angry

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converseandjeans · 09/02/2019 07:55

YANBU and also surely 7 is start of the day for DS so he should go downstairs for TV and breakfast? Not great to take him back to his room.

Beansonapost · 09/02/2019 07:57

LTB!

Purplecatshopaholic · 09/02/2019 08:14

Why did he have 2 kids if he cant be bothered with them?? YANBU

ambereeree · 09/02/2019 08:27

Who owns the house or lease? I would tell him to pack his stuff if he can't be bothered.

Costacoffeeplease · 09/02/2019 08:29

Yuk, he sounds like a real prize Hmm

CallMeOnMyCell · 09/02/2019 08:45

My DP is pretty lazy at times but he would never leave our baby in a wet or dirty nappy.

GertrudeCB · 09/02/2019 08:51

Well, it's all about him and his own comfort isn't it ? I could not and would not put up with it. Your poor dsSad

Stormwhale · 09/02/2019 08:53

Completely unacceptable to leave a child in a dirty nappy. I'm not sure I understand how this happened though. If ds was put in bed with you, could you not have said to dh that he needed changing? You shouldn't have to, but I'm not sure why you didn't? If you knew about the dirty nappy, I feel you are also responsible for making sure it is changed. Again, you shouldn't have to, but I wouldn't leave a child like that to prove a point.

dawn96 · 09/02/2019 08:54

Poor little one

FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones · 09/02/2019 09:02

YANBU. So you're the one working and he still wakes you up in the night to deal with the kids (even though he was up anyway?) and can't be bothered to change his son's nappy? That's not even just lazy it's neglectful parenting.

paintinmyhairAgain · 09/02/2019 09:04

i'd kick his arse to the kerb.

lottiegarbanzo · 09/02/2019 09:09

That's horrible. DD used to get really sore skin from pooey nappies, if not changed straight away.

I just can't comprehend 'I was asleep. He came upstairs, dd was crying, so he woke me'. There's no 'so' there, no reason, no sense. Unless you're breastfeeding, why on earth wouldn't he have dealt with her and left you asleep?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/02/2019 09:10

That's really bad, you can't leave a child in a poo nappy, it wrecks their skin the poor little beggars!

What a horrible thing for him to have done - that far far outweighs any "good" he did by (hello) taking his turn to feed your DD.

YOu're not lazy, but he's an idle bellend who doesn't care enough about the wellbeing of his offspring against his own wants. Angry

Quartz2208 · 09/02/2019 09:12

Hold on he got fed up at his son so just picked him up and put him in his room and shut the gate - that is an awful way to treat a children even without the nappy issue

He is an abusive father OP and a lazy man

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