OH put DS back to bed in shitty nappy

[noneofyourbusinessx]

We've been up most of the night with DD so I know we're both tired. I came up to bed early and he sat down stairs until 12 or 1 when he came up dd was crying so he woke me up you would think he would just feed her as I was asleep. Anyhow she woke again at 3 and I got up with her for about and hour. DS just woke up at 7 crying at the stair gate outside his room I told OH to get him and bring him in bed with us so he lets him in bed with us for 5 minutes until gets fed up and plonks him bank in his room with a shitty nappy and locked the gate.

No matter how tired I am I would never leave my kids in a dirty nappy. AIBU to be angry? I really feel like leaving him it's just one of things that annoys me. Since he's stopped working he's just become a lazy bastard.

He's a shit father, end of story. I am quite lazy by nature, I love nothing more than moping around doing nothing - BUT since I've had my son I have no choice but to get up throughout the night, get up for the day painfully early, change a hundred nappies etc etc and entertain him
All day. It's called being a fucking parent.

Wow you chose a prize specimen there.

Your poor DS . To neglect a kids needs because you are tired is unforgivable.

Wow I would be livid OP. I was livid at the first part he woke up to feed DD, although she would need another feed a few hours later, plus he is not working no 6am alarm going off.
You need to have a serious talk shout to him.
It is not acceptable, hopefully this is make him cope on.
Hide the loo roll tell him he has to stay with a dirty butt, see if he finds it so acceptable.
OP get a rest today, after you speak to him, let him mind the DC and have a nap.

I was half asleep when he put DS in the bed and I smelt him so I said change his bum please thinking he would. Then DS was crying I woke up and he was at the stair gate crying again that's when I asked him if he changed his bum and he says "no I ain't changing that"
He can't seem to smell dirty nappies though or hear the kids crying in the night 🙄

I can't wait for the day where I can leave.

I got up last night to make DD a bottle so you could feed her

Why did he get up to make a bottle for you to feed her? If he got up, surely he should have fed her? No need for both of you to be woken up. And if that was the 1am feed, he was already awake so he's talking bollocks.

You could perhaps return the favour and offer to wake him up every time you get the baby "for him" in the night?

You're already at the leaving stage then? Why do you have to 'wait to leave'?

He can smell it and he can hear it but he deliberately ignores it, knowing you will then deal with it.

He's not a good partner or father, I'm sorry.

I hope you find a way to leave too none

He's a selfish fucker and a bad father

Wtf

He refused to change a nappy ? He's a prick.

You need to get away from him.

He can't seem to smell dirty nappies though or hear the kids crying in the night

I think he can but pretends not to - a lot of men seem to suddenly become really deep sleepers when there is a baby in the house!

YANBU, lazy fucker, would he like to be left in his own shit?

Awful parenting on his part. What would have to change for you to separate?

@converseandjeans OMG that’s true my partner suddenly was a crazy deep sleeper when the baby came 🤣 also he always seems to need the toilet in the day when I ask him to do stuff quick ,he seems to poo about 50 times a week

@dawn96 and you find that funny?

@LuckyAmy1986 yeah it makes me giggle how it’s so relatable! Thought it was just my partner that did that