AIBU Kitchen disaster

[Tinkerbelleisatheif]

Before I start, long time member but had to make a new account! Softzilla, Mexican house theif, stately homes etc.

I did home made chicken tenders for dinner today. My AIBU is this: I didn't tell my boyfriend that the oven tray was hot and he grabbed it and tried to put it in the oven for me. He watched me take the tray out of the oven, to be fair he didnt know how long i had pre heated the oven for beforehand, and I said 'be careful' before he grabbed the tray. His position is that I should have told him it was hot, mine is that he should have known it was hot given the above points and the fact that I was using a towel to handle the tray. Who IBU? We are both looking forward to seeing what you all think.

Glad to hear they were homemade chickens tenders OP and not frozen nuggets

Or could theu be Goujons perhaps?

@roastox I wanted to put it to the MN jury.

@roastox because we are disagreeing and I don't think I need to warn a 36yo man that something he saw come out of an oven is hot.

Sorry. 37 year old man

Deffo blame him- otherwise whats the point in having an OH ? 😂😂

He did not know how long the oven was pre cooking for.

So? Common sense would lead you to assume if it had been in the oven at it might be hot!

Yanbu but it’s a bit worrying that he doesn’t have the mental capacity to realise from your actions that it was hot, and also surely most people check to see if an oven tray is hot before picking it up?

He's trying to blame you for his own idiocy? Watch out he doesn't sue you.

Good grief! I could not be with a man this moronic who would not be aware that something coming out of a heated oven is hot. How did he manage to live this long? If he he swallowed a fly, he’d have brains.

OP your post at 16:57:23 is a perfect summary of why it's not your fault

Mine does this type of thing regularly. He seems to have a kind of self preservation blindness when it comes to kitchens.
I just fix him with a basilisk stare as he pours boiling pasta over his hand rather than in the colander or stabs himself on a fork unloading the dishwasher.
Entirely his own fault!

Firstly. I'm surprised you didn't immediately grab a fish slice and the sex lube, as all mner's know, this is the go to in a kitchen emergency!

Secondly. How can you agree that you were both at fault. Stand your ground woman.

Thirdly. You warned him, he didn't listen woman flapping gums = auto switch off

Fourthly. Tell him to take some responsibly for his own actions.

Hilarious. He can't even admit he was a doink and feels you should accept half the blame.

What a man-baby you have there. Tel him to take some responsibility for himself ... he saw you take it out of the oven! He's a doink to be blaming you for his inability to think 'hot tray' before picking it up.

He actually takes care of everything. He is super responsible usually, but in this case he didn't know how long the oven was pre heated for. I did not let him know whether it was 3 or 20 minutes.

*YABU for "Chicken Tenders" unless in the USA. HTH

Who made you the food police what a pathetic thing to post.

I say he is, as an adult he should have known better, however it’s just an accident where there is no blame.

It wouldn't take 3 minutes for the tray to get hot, metal is a very good conductor.

Your BF needs to improve his dynamic risk assessment skills.

Tell him to follow a recipe. Viola! Cooking!

How do musical instruments come into this??

Ha...must have been my ipad autocorrect. Voila!

I agree with @MitziK.

If my husband acted this way I would start passive-aggressively pointing out every potential hazard in the house any time he tried to do anything. Just in case.