Football before due date

[legalseagull]

AIBU

DH really wants to go watch a big football game about two hours away, which will inevitably involve hours either side of the game in the pub with friends drinking.

I am due our second baby three weeks later. We have 1 DC aged 1, who arrived 2 weeks early.

I know the likelihood of me going in to labour is slim but I don't want him to go, just in case. What if I went in to labour? I'd be home alone with our toddler as we have no family nearby.

I'm nervous about the birth (previously traumatic) so maybe IABU??

Should I 'let' him go?

Tbh I am different from
Everyone else here I suppose and I would be telling DH (make of
That what you will) not to go. Just too big a risk of him
Missing it or
Not being around etc and you never know how these things will go.

Wouldn’t bother me but I’ve never had a baby arrive before the due date. You have experience of this but obviously not ever birth is the same and also you will be 37 weeks, not 38. I wouldn’t really mind, it would be sheer bad luck for the baby to specifically arrive on that day and chances are you will still be very pregnant when he returns.

Im sure you've not been able to go out and have a few drinks for the past few months. Heavily pregnant. Toddler. Why would he want to leave you? Ynbu!

You're not being unreasonable to not want him to go. There'll be plenty of matches he can go to in the future. Leaving his heavily pregnant wife with a toddler to go off on a jolly is pretty selfish.

I'm 6 months pregnant with my second. I also have a busy toddler. I'm Lucky to have several sources of support when I go into labour (parents plus other relatives). I had a quick labour last time and it ramped up fairly quickly. I would not want to be going through strong contractions while looking after a busy toddler. My partner works half an hour away which I understand but would not be happy for him to go to a football match two hours away, and I'm pretty relaxed/encourage him to go out, etc.

I hope you can sort it soon. :)

I think he should be able to return if needed, so agree with those who suggest car and no drinking. Though if he is a glory seeker and not supporting his local team or somewhere he comes from, YANBU to voice criticism of his choice to go in any case, pregnancy or no pregnancy.

My DP was wanting to go and see his friend in Germany - for 4 days - at the beginning of March, when I’d be 37 weeks. Both of my previous babies came early and my labours were very quick (3 hours and 4 hours)

I was having the same dilemma as you - worried that he’d go and I’d go into labour while he was there or if I told him my concerns, I’d feel guilty for him not going. I’m also like you with no nearby family/friends and he is my birthing partner.

In the end I just said to him that I was worried that while he was away I could potentially go into labour and he would miss the birth. He completely understood and isn’t going now.

I’m also in agreement with other posters that husbands/partners shouldn’t be going out on the piss when their wife is heavily pregnant. Especially where there are other children to be looked after.

I also think there’s the issue, if he did go and got drunk, would he even look at his phone if you were trying to contact him?

I really don’t think you’re being unreasonable by asking him not to go.