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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To think it's time to move to another message board

75 replies

Tooldemont · 07/02/2019 22:14

Really unhappy about the attitude of this place when something had gone wrong.

I can't get on board with the Reddit board though

OP posts:

Lweji · 08/02/2019 07:57

try www.justthetalk.com if you're not afraid of a bit of swearing and robust exchanges of view

Unlike MN?

TaMereAPoilDevantPrisu · 08/02/2019 08:16

It's MN without the data breaches! and more men.

Lougle · 08/02/2019 08:18

You're getting all mixed up here, Toodlemont. A hack is a 3rd party attempt to infiltrate a system and access their data. This was not a hack. This was a screw-up caused by an upgrade and a failure to rigourously test the impact of the upgrade. For whatever reason, email addresses for some accounts were matched to other usernames. Then there was a glitch on password requesting when logging in. It was all resolved within a number of hours, once MNHQ were alerted to it.

Generally speaking, people take MN too seriously and give too much of themselves to it. You are constantly being warned that MN is cached all over the internet. These boards are not private. If having your MN identity discovered is that concerning to you, then you've said too much, IMVHO. Keep a diary.

Juells · 08/02/2019 08:23

The recent cock-up wouldn't worry me - seems like it was completely random where a login would land, so not much opportunity for doxxing. The security problem with the intern was a different matter, that was really badly handled I thought. There seemed to be absolutely no consequences for the intern involved, apart from 'a stern talking-to', which isn't good enough on a site where vulnerable women come for advice.

CaptainKirksSpookyghost · 08/02/2019 08:26

I agree op, I'm not even going to post on this thread.

twattymctwatterson · 08/02/2019 08:28

Tbh op if you had started a thread to say you're concerned about the data breach and the way it was handled I think you'd have received a different response.

Starting a thread on MNet to say you no longer wish to use MNet and asking what other sites you can post on smacks of attention seeking

RiverTam · 08/02/2019 08:34

God, why do so many people have to be so rude?

The OP has concerns, rightly or wrongly, and is asking what other good chat forums, other than Reddit or Nethuns, there are.

That's it, right? That's all she's asking?

So why the sneers?

(In answer to your question, OP, I don't know - the only other one I use is a local one which is very men-dominated, so I don't use it much)

GottenGottenGotten · 08/02/2019 08:48

Had op made that clear in her first post then the thread probably wouldn't have gone in the direction it did.

But by the time op clarified, people had already started posting their responses, and much of the thread has been in response to that.

Ops first post suggested they wanted to leave because they were unhappy. That was pretty much it.

Deathraystare · 08/02/2019 08:49

Wow I never knew there was a flouncers corner! I love a good flounce from time to time!

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Tooldemont · 08/02/2019 10:43

Thanks river

Yes I could have been a bit clearer but I think if people had of read my op they would know I'm talking about the terrible way mn behaves when through their own incompetence they fuck up. Justine's postings have been insulting.

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Mycathatesme · 08/02/2019 10:52

Also about to dereg. Not so much the fuck up. and it being an accident really doesn't make it better, but the fuck up would never have happened if they had tested the upgrade properly. It is the whoopsie! Us girls and tech eh? Still, no harm done reaction.

So long and thanks for all the fish!

megletthesecond · 08/02/2019 14:28

I use a burner email and was even pondering a spare burner phone for MN. which tells you how much time I spend on here.

Mmmhmmm · 08/02/2019 14:47

I'd give reddit another try.

MN is nothing special it just has a large number of members for whatever reason. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Without AIBU it would probably have 10 members. 😂

Pursefirst · 08/02/2019 14:56

Christ on a flaming bicycle OP, either complain directly to HQ or take your leave if you aren't happy. All this hand-wringing and foot-stomping is a bit bloody much.

Roomba · 08/02/2019 14:58

Also recommend www.justthetalk.com (what became of the Guardian's talk board before they scrapped it with zero notice and replaced with the far inferior comments section these use now). It's quieter than MN but I prefer the humour and level of debate on there.

Also Reddit - download Reddit Enhancement Suite if you access through a browser instead of the app. Makes it much easier to customise and navigate. Reddit is so huge though it can take a while to seek out interesting subreddits to subscribe to.

Purpleartichoke · 08/02/2019 15:32

Hacks and data breaches happen everywhere. This website is more forthcoming than most which makes me respect it more.

Recently I was at a small party when I got notice that my credit card had been hacked. The people I was with didn’t understand why I wasn’t upset. I explained that this was like the 6th or 7th time my credit card had been stolen in my life (I’m old). It happens, especially if you do as much online shopping as I do. It’s just a standard part of modern life at this point and you need to be prepared to roll with it. In this case, I keep two cards active so when one is breeched, I have another ready to take its place immediately.

Fatbutt · 08/02/2019 15:40

What an odd thread.. If I am reading right, the OP has issues with Mumsnet and wants recommendations for other forums...

Isn't that akin to visiting Asda, telling them you arent happy with their customer service and asking other shoppers for recommendations to another supermarket?!

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 08/02/2019 15:44

Ih come on now - you post online then be prepared for the world and his great aunt maud to have access

Not to personal details! The only information the world and great aunt Maud is entitled to is what I post publicly, not my details because the MN IT department is crap!

YouLikeTheBadOnesToo · 08/02/2019 15:48

I’m pretty sure Reddit have had a couple of security breaches lately too. One last summer went on for days before it was noticed. Then earlier this year they forced a change of passwords too. There had been a lot of unusual activity on the sight, which had caused ‘security concerns’.

A pp suggestion of a fake name and email address dedicated especially for things like this might be a better way to protect yourself.

Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 08/02/2019 15:48

Ooh what happened? ? Is this why I found I'd been logged out earlier, and had to reset my password??

PhilomenaButterfly · 08/02/2019 15:48

It's not a hack.

PentreBachCymraeg · 08/02/2019 16:14

Mumsnet is not an airport, no need to announce your departure.. 💅

Itsallpeachyfornow · 08/02/2019 16:18

Ok bye bye then
Still here

Wow are the users on this site 10 years old

Laughable

PhilomenaButterfly · 08/02/2019 16:19

😂

SilverySurfer · 08/02/2019 16:32

Auf wiedersehen

This is just a bit of a whinge really isn't it. I bet you won't go.

I've never really understood the need to announce you are leaving. No-one really cares and I'm not sure of the purpose. If I decide to take a break, or if I ever considered leaving, I would just not log in.

Try Nethuns - lots of sparkles and no fucking swearing.

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