She’s 3, and tells me regularly she’s a grown up girl now. I am separated from her dad and I find when she comes back from contact with him she’ll say she’s a baby, she’s clingy wants to be rocked to sleep, needs a baby book (like one of the That’s Not My books) at bedtime, and tends to sneak into my bed in the early hours of the morning (she was breastfed so I would dream feed her in the early hours by moving her from her cot into my bed).
So I do it. I wrap her in a blanket (she used to be swaddled between feeds as a baby) and sit rocking her until she’s asleep, I read her the story she wants, and let her co-sleep. She sometimes asks for a bottle, and I give her a Sippy cup with milk in.
It’s just me and her (and a cat) since my husband left. And I feel that if she needs that comfort then why not?
I told a friend with a similar aged DC and she said she’d not do it, she says DD needs to learn she’s a big girl now and that it’s behaviour of a baby. She’s also a single parent, so wondering if I’m setting my DD up for future problems.
It’s not every night, it’s literally the night she’s had tea with her dad and then the night she comes home after being overnight, so at most twice a week. I don’t think her dads harming her in anyway, I just think because he literally sees her twice a week and nothing else she is clinging onto me in the only way she can in the hope I don’t disappear too (I do everything else alone)
AIBU or do I need to stop treating DD like a baby?