To leave DD at home alone sick

[SoWhat21]

So DD is 12. Very mature. There’s a vomiting bug doing rounds at school and she got sick this evening. Just once but still feels unwell so sure more to come! Normally I can work from home but as luck would have it tomorrow I have some absolutely cannot be missed meetings. I’m due to be gone from 7. DH is away. Nanny due to be here from 7am until 9 when she leaves them to school. She has another job from 9.30 to 12.30 then back at mine for 1. Would it be terribly unreasonable to leave DD here by herself from 9 until 1? She’ll watch TV, read and has her phone to contact me if she needs. Normally I would go hesitate to leave her for this long when she’s well but feel a bit awful when she’s sick? AIBU?

I think it’s daft posters saying she will be fine. How do they know?

If she was still actively vomiting with the norovirus then no I wouldn’t leave her as she could pass out or something. If she had been one-off sick then ok but if you have grandparents around I would at least ask them to call in for an hour.

variousartists she isn't leaving her all day, it's only a few hours. She has people calling in, the nanny! For goodness sake! This child is in secondary school. Of course she's fine!

I wouldn't leave her if she was vomiting, tbh.

I was at home with DD (12) who had a sickness bug last week. She needed no help from me whatsoever and just got on with it. She would not have noticed had I not been here.

She might be perfectly fine or she might not be! How do we know? It’s the parent’s judgment based I assume on how she has been during the night and this morning.

I started leaving my eldest in year 7- aged 11- I work five minutes drive away so can nip back if she needs me and only work 9-2 . I pop back once in the day to check she's ok.

Thanks all. She vomited twice more once just before bed and once about 2.30am. Re asking my mother she absolutely would have done it but as I said I didn’t want to expose her to the bug. Also she normally works Weds herself and although she can switch it is a big imposition in addition to exposing her to a possibly nasty bug shortly before she’s due to take a holiday of a life time. My FIL equally would have done it but MIL is not in good health and they also provide regular childcare to SIL who has a high risk pregnancy so cautious about exposing him to bug as well. Considering how mature she is and that I’ve not had to supervise her puking/ clean up after it in years (and she’s not vomiting excessively) I had decided this morning to leave her. However when nanny arrived it turns out she is not working her other job this morning! She has a meeting straight after drop off but happy to come back to mine after that. So DD will only be alone for an hour to an hour and half tops. So we’re all sorted. Fingers crossed none of the rest of us will get it. DH safe enough ensconced in his hotel room in London!!

Glad it all worked out.