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to think that nearly everyone has

377 replies

NutElla5x · 05/02/2019 18:29

a vice. Mine used to be the booze,but I knocked that on the head when I found myself drinking up to two bottles of wine a night. Now it's shopping. I just love to shop,be it for food,stuff for the kids,make-up,clothes,shoes,household goods or anything else. I just get a buzz out of it. What's your vice? Is it something you worry could get out of hand, or do you see it as a simple pleasure that you deserve even if it might be bad for you and/or your bank balance?

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goose1964 · 07/02/2019 12:47

crisps

roundturnandtwohalfhitches · 07/02/2019 13:17

For those who say holding grudges. Mine is forgiveness. I let people away with far too much far too often. I used to see it as a virtue- but it really really isn't. I get treated like a mug and people don't tend to appreciate it. I think somehow I get a kick out of being the bigger person but all it brings generally is misery. It's my biggest flaw I think. I'm working on it though.

outpinked · 07/02/2019 13:20

Online shopping. Terrible for it, especially eBay.

CharlyAngelic · 07/02/2019 15:04

Mumsnet is my vice. My OH hates it and expresses his displeasure so that is a bad in a way .

BBInGinDrinking · 07/02/2019 22:25

Maybe OH has a point, CA, after this breach.Angry

LaBelleSauvage · 07/02/2019 22:49

Roses. My rose garden has around 500 climbing or bush roses, but I just love them so much that every year I end up getting a more...

I love all the names! Falstaff, A Shropshire Lad, Penny Lane, Darcey Bussell...

OOOooooh and Madame Alfred Carriere
-swoons-

CharlyAngelic · 08/02/2019 07:29

I know@BB
I have not said anything about it to him for obvious reasons. Barn door and horses!

Rockmysocks · 08/02/2019 07:47

Cat food in sachets. Nearly every time I open a sachet I get a little splash of the wet fishy sauce stuff on my hand or the work top. Hate it.

Rockmysocks · 08/02/2019 07:54

Sugar. Lidl sell packets of squashy, foamy sugar coated red 'berry' sweets that look like giant nipples (the brand is 'Sugarland'). They are pretty much IV sugar with flavouring and are the crystal meth of the sweetie assortment.

CharlyAngelic · 08/02/2019 09:41

@LaBelleSauvage , your garden sounds divine . The fragrance must be exquisite.

troubleswillbeoutofsight · 08/02/2019 10:38

Seeds, bulbs, plants. Having a newish huge garden I spend every spare minute planting, buying, planting
I know it's a bit obsessive as I'll be invited out and my immediate thought is 'oh dear can I spare that time from the garden?'

josbd · 08/02/2019 17:49

Coke Zero by the case. It used to be vodka (not quite by the case!) I had to give it up

Freshly squeezed fruit juice....... I am diabetic

VanillaSauce · 09/02/2019 08:11

Lsd, wispas and tea

BowStreetStunner · 09/02/2019 15:04

As a recovering addict (heroin) been clean eleven years I stay away from vices as I can not control them!

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NutElla5x · 09/02/2019 15:29

Very well done to you BowStreetStunner. You are a stronger person than most of us so it seems Grin. Stay strong x

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Ellyess · 10/02/2019 12:19

roundturnandtwohalfhitches. I was and sometimes still am the same.

I was a "people pleaser" who was snapped up by a 14 yr older man who was a covert narcissist.
I learned about setting my boundaries from YouTube's Stephanie Lyn. She makes the point that you need to understand why you need boundaries in the first place.
In "How to set BOUNDARIES with a Toxic Person!"
she points out that you need to love yourself and know your standards and how you expect other people to treat you. I had such low self-esteem I took all sorts of dreadful abuse and evil treatment.
Her other talks are excellent, such as:
Understanding Projection and How to Handle it! (Stephanie Lyn Coaching)
Teach People How you Want to be Treated! | Stephanie Lyn Coaching

. This one talks about learning how to say "No." among other things.

There are other good people on YouTube too, but Stephanie has been absolutely wonderful as far as I am concerned because she addresses everything I need.

Good luck with everything and Congratulations on realising what you've been doing and how it has not been good for you! It took me so long to get that message!

Ellyess · 10/02/2019 12:21

BowStreetStunner. Heartfelt Congratulations!! You're a star! Star

Ellyess · 10/02/2019 12:23

troubleswillbeoutofsight. That is not a vice!!! It's a great big virtue!! Keep up the gardening! Growing from seed too! Excellent! Grin

Chocolatedeficitdisorder · 10/02/2019 12:26

Food, especially sugar.

Binge-watching Youtube. In the last week I've watched 100s of 1st Amendment audits and learned lots and lots about snakes.

Ellyess · 10/02/2019 12:27

Rockmysocks. Me too. It's amazing I'm not dead/diabetic/massively fat/dreadfully ill. I have such a sweet tooth it is a real problem.
See my Curly Bars from Asda (and Lidl similar ones) addiction.
Oh hell! I'm going to go and get them now....

Ellyess · 10/02/2019 12:34

BBInGinDrinking. Daily Mail?! Oh my dear Girl! You seriously need help!

Perhaps we could set up a fund to get you to the Priory.

Ellyess · 10/02/2019 12:35

Rockmysocks.
I've done it again.

They're WIRLY bars!

BBInGinDrinking · 10/02/2019 13:15
Shock

No, no, no Ellyess! It wasn't me reading the Fail - I was commenting on some poor shameless soul pp!!!

I can't read the Fail. I would spontaneously combust.

Moilgrove · 20/02/2019 19:30

You can't beat a good old grudge. Have a long standing one with my in-laws. It started with them forgetting my birthday they also forgot to invite my kids to their wedding, I'm usually ignored on their whatsapp group.

Ellyess · 21/02/2019 13:20

BBInGinDrinking. I prostrate myself with shame!
How could I make such a mistake?
Of course you do not read that despicable rag of lies!!
Sorry sorry sorry
I was in error got wrong impression up a gumtree being a twerp

Soooo glad you don't read the Fail/Mail
You would never do such a stupid thing

It isn't even good enough for loo paper.