Having a baby's ears pierced?

[MumOfOne92]

AIBU to think it's absolutely ridiculous to get a baby's ears pierced?

Each to their own but...

I had my ears pierced as a toddler, I still remember it, I developed a horrendous infection and remember screaming and pulling at my ears all night. I remember our g.p being furious at my Mum and ordering that my earrings be taken out, whilst putting me on antibiotics. Poor Mum got shouted at but it was my Dad who took me, Mum was furious herself when she found out!

I’m 36 now, I had my ears ‘re pierced’ when I was 12 and hated wearing earrings- I am very sensitive to the types of metal in the earrings - I can only wear high quality gold or platinum earrings.

I have a 9 year old dd and she has two intact ears, she knows she will get the choice of having them pierced when she is older (12). As of now, she has no desire to have her ears pierced.

Math. It’s nothing to do with whether you die or not though there have been deaths from infections caused by the piercings.
However plain and simple it’s assault of a minor so in all reality should be looked upon as so.

Claudia. Why what’s it to do with you where it’s posted

In my home country is done as the norm. It used to get done in hospital. Now a gun in pharmacy.
I hate it.

It’s awful! So chavy. Don’t know why anyone would want to shoot holes in such tiny ears and then put chocking hazards in their ears.

I think 12-13 is a perfectly nice age to get ears Peirced.

Choking*

I had mine done when I was a baby and took them out for about 4 years just before I was a teen. Earrings are a hassle if you are an active kid. I brought ear piercing earrings to keep them open when they started to close up after a year. I then added more holes as a teenager myself, and at a place where they use needles.

Having your ears pierced with a sharp needle doesn't hurt at all while using ear piercing earrings does. Apparently the gun hurts as well.

Meanwhile I had a friend who wasn't allowed her ears pierced until she was 16. She went on and on about it until the day she had it done.

Another friend of mine could have her ears pierced if she asked her parents. She didn't ask as a child, wasn't bothered about it and randomly got it done in her early 30s.

My OH and I have decided to do what my second friend's parents did - wait until they ask and then allow them.

I have my ears pieced 13 times, however I only ever wear 2 earrings if I wear them at all. However I personally don’t agree with piecing babies ears. However I won’t think anything less of someone doing it to their baby, that’s their business, their decision. It’s nothing to do with me. I wouldn’t even tell someone who had what my feelings on it are, because again it’s nothing to do with me.

It's not a great look though it does help identify the chavs quickly so you can avoid them.

I don't buy the 'their business, their decision' rhetoric. We have made it illegal to do many things to your child, including smacking them in some places (which is the go-to discipline technique in many cultures). Why do we allow parents to forcibly restrain their children while shoving needles through their ears and then keep the wound open using bits of metal?

On rereading, just to avoid confusion, I use 'some places' to refer to geographical regions, not biological one

I don't think it's a big deal at all, but it's one of those things that some people feel really strongly about. A matter of personal opinion I suppose?

I don’t agree with it personally, the baby doesn’t really know what’s going on and might be scared and confused if they’re in pain from it (and it’s not a necessary pain like getting their jabs).
Also they should be allowed to decide if they want body modification when they’re older, it’s not the parents decision to make.

I guess. My feelings might stem from the fact I hated having mine done, aged 8, and ran away from the chair, had to be forced back and held down so they could do the other one. It was horrible. I don't agree with having unnecessary, painful procedures carried out on infants because they can't object and won't remember. If they don't remember the pain does that somehow mean it doesn't matter?

Usual in Mediterranean countries, when my first baby was born friends couldn't believe that her ears hadn't been pierced in hospital before we came home.

I saw a young lass being tortured in Superdrug this weekend. Since when did they start this shit?

@tillytrotter1 crikey. I thought the umbilical stub was enough to stress about, nevermind keeping ear-piercings clean. Plus, I find that the back of stubs stab you when you're sleeping- surely that's uncomfortable for the babies?

I had them done as a baby and I have to say thatI am happier it was done by a doctor rather than questionably trained staff in Claires.

And fgs. Whoever brough FGM into this. Fucking shame on you trivialising it!

I think it's disgusting

You're all so 2018.
4 MO DD is now up to 6mm stretches.

I am very judgemental towards people that do. I really don't care if it's a cultural thing. A lot of cultures have rediculous rituals or coming of age processes that are painful and dangerous for children, doesn't men I need to agree with them.

It’s not to my taste and my daughter won’t have her ears pierced until she is in senior school. I still get a (small) shock when I see a young child with pierced ears.

However, I think this issue is probably just a matter of taste rather than anything more serious. There are probably people who find it weird that my daughter hasn’t had it done.

YANBU. Tacky and chavvy as hell.

No, I agree with you. It's inflicting pain on your child for no good reason, why would you want to do that? Then come all of the risks after. My eldest daughter asked me for hers done when she turned 5, and I finally gave in to her when she turned 6 I took her to get them done - after making sure she knew it would hurt and she would have to take care of them. I'm glad I stuck to my guns, and my youngest 2 won't be getting theirs done until they're a similar age and can look after them properly.

I would have let my dd have them done from age 7/8 but she still has no interest in them at the age of 15. I wouldn't pierce a baby