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to get rid of cleaner because she won't accept a bank transfer?

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changers5 · 03/02/2019 21:27

She's really nice, I like her, does a decent job, but she always wants cast and charges £17.50 each time she's here. I have a 3 month old and am very disorganised/exhausted. I almost always forget to get money out for her and end up having to make an early morning trip to the shops (which are miles away as I'm rural). She's through an agency so pays taxes and isn't tax dodging, but just won't accept me putting money in her account. She wants cash. That's fair enough but it's a PITA for very disorganised me... would it be harsh to get rid of her and hire someone else for this reason alone?

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BIgBagofJelly · 03/02/2019 21:55

Even if you can't pay her weekly you could take the money out for a few weeks in advance and keep it somewhere safe in enveloped per week.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 03/02/2019 21:55

Weird that you keep using that you're disorganised as an excuse - you do know that that isn't actually something you can't change, like eye colour, don't you? I mean - how hard is it to get out her cash once a month and keep it in an envelope or something to pay her out of? Presumably you manage to dress and feed youself, and do shopping and so on? You don't starve yourself because you're too disorganised to buy food?

Designerenvy · 03/02/2019 21:56

Yabu. If she prefers cash, pay her that way. Just be more organised

HollowTalk · 03/02/2019 21:56

You don't know her situation, though - maybe it's the only way she can keep some money for herself.

ivykaty44 · 03/02/2019 21:56

Why can’t she just get the cash out herself?

You put it in her bank and she goes to bank and gets money out - then it is cash

gamerchick · 03/02/2019 21:58

gamerchick I asked her on her first shift how she wanted to be paid and she said it has to be weekly, and has to be cash. You'd turn me down as a client for that?

No, it's clear. Why would I turn you down?

I would bin if you tried to change that and I had to keep saying no though.

Look if you want to and can change then change. I doubt she'll be that bothered. I'm free up a spot for another client, you don't have to feel mean.

MereDintofPandiculation · 03/02/2019 21:58

If she has a lot of people paying £17.50 into her bank it’s a pain for her to check who has/hadn’t paid especially if she doesn't do on-line banking and has to check her monthly bank statement.

If she wants cash, then surely she can give you £2.50 change?

Purplecatshopaholic · 03/02/2019 21:59

She cant take a bank transfer?? WFT? I dont generally take cash out - who does these days? I would personally get someone else....

watsmyname · 03/02/2019 21:59

Tbh it's about supply and demand - ime it's difficult to find a good (trustworthy) cleaner and so I suppose you have to decide whether the bother of having the change outweighs the risk of bit finding an equally good cleaner. If it were me I'd keep some change around the house.

ivykaty44 · 03/02/2019 22:00

She can ask each bank transfer to be dated and initials added - then she knows who’s paid or not

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changers5 · 03/02/2019 22:00

@TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross I actually don't always manage to dress myself. I have a 3 month old, GAD, OCD and PND. It sucks, and makes me forgetful and disorganised. I'm trying though! That's not a drip feed btw. Didn't feel the need to describe my forgetfulness in my first post.

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Mycathatesme · 03/02/2019 22:00

I'd round it up to £20 as well; I'd be embarrassed to be paying only £8.75 per hour.

HaggisMcPhaggis · 03/02/2019 22:01

Geez. Do you run out of milk? Tea bags? Coffee? ? No, you just kind of plan it into your life.

Just get to a bank. Get a couple of bags of £1 and 50ps. Make a note in your calendar of when you need to next go to the bank/when they will run out. Put a note in your calendar on every Friday to make sure you have £15 notes in your wallet.

Just get organised?

gamerchick · 03/02/2019 22:01

You put it in her bank and she goes to bank and gets money out - then it is cash

Maybe it's permanently overdrawn. That's why I suggested PayPal as a compromise, she can send that to anyone to draw out for her.

HaggisMcPhaggis · 03/02/2019 22:02

Sorry - didn't see about the GAD etc. So I sound snippy now. But same advice. Take this anxiety away by getting some bags of coins in and diarising when to next get some.

oldowlgirl · 03/02/2019 22:03

I know the feeling - my cleaner was the same but then agreed to back transfer which is so much easier.

I'd give her £20 each week & then £10 every 4th week, unless she gives you £2.50 change each week.

It is meant to make your life easier & she doesn't sound like that's what she's doing.

Yabbers · 03/02/2019 22:03

Decent cleaners are hard to find.

And just wait til school starts, they always want cash for something or other so it’s a good habit to get into to make sure you always have some.

I’d get rid of her, we’re rural so I know it’s a real pain if you need to get cash out, especially if there’s no real need for it.
If you’re rural, so is she. Just as difficult for her to get to the bank.

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changers5 · 03/02/2019 22:04

@HaggisMcPhaggis no don't worry I don't tend to mention it in posts because it seems like I'm using my poor mental health to justify everything I do. I like opinion on how it comes across, as my cleaner doesn't know about these things!

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TwigTheWonderKid · 03/02/2019 22:06

I agree, it may be inconvenient but there may be many good, and possibly quite personal, reasons why she needs it in cash. So why not say you'll provide cash but she has to agree to bring £2.50 in change? That way all you have to do it draw out £70 a month.

Wingedharpy · 03/02/2019 22:07

Maybe she doesn't have a bank account at all.
Not everyone does.

Laiste · 03/02/2019 22:07

If it's to be accepted that the OPs personal circumstances dictate that she is unable to orgainise getting cash out periodically then it should be accepted that the cleaner's personal circumstances dictate that she needs her wages weekly in cash.

One's needs shouldn't outweigh the other. There are other cleaners out there just as good who will work for less than £10 per hour (are there ... ?) and there are definitely other clients. No need for either of you to be stuck with the other.

Magenta46 · 03/02/2019 22:07

A cash transfer would be the simplest method for all. Is she not declaring her earnings?

TeacupDrama · 03/02/2019 22:07

maybe she wants cash as its a faff going to withdraw cash, maybe having cash is the only way she gets money as a partner may withdraw and spend unfortunately years and years ago before I met DH his mother had to do this and hide cash as his father would spend any cash on alcohol and gambling when she moved into care we found cash in some pretty unusual places

after brexit maybe only those with cash will survive ¬!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CrazyOldBagLady · 03/02/2019 22:10

Could you maybe compromise and give her a cheque? Your bank might have to send you a cheque book if you don't have one already.

TeacupDrama · 03/02/2019 22:10

maybe she thinks your disorganisation will lead to you forgetting to bank transfer or doing so a few days late, some people are too poor to be able to soak up being paid even 24-48 hours late

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