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To ask if you think you are a lucky person

43 replies

Asta19 · 02/02/2019 19:19

I’ve had hard times in my life, some very hard times. But every time I worry about things they just get better somehow. I was pretty broke this weekend, then I suddenly got a £1000 back payment from something I did not think I would get, and had even forgotten about. And I was thinking that whenever I really need something I get it. I don’t really believe in God, but maybe I believe there is something out there that just looks after me. Or maybe it is just a positive attitude. I brought my DC up to believe that everything you need will come to you, and now they believe it too. For example, my DS had applied for jobs in a country he wanted to move to. He didn’t get one job and got depressed about it, but then he was offered an even better job. So then he had to reluctantly admit I was right Grin

So do you consider yourself a lucky person in general? If you do, why do you think it is? Is it just how you view things? We all go through hard times but maybe if you expect the best outcome you will get it?

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Mummymummums · 02/02/2019 19:26

I am a believer that everything happens for a reason so when everything is crap I try to remember that and things do seem to come right or better in the end. So a slightly different perspective to luck I guess.

Lovingbenidorm · 02/02/2019 19:28

I believe we make our own luck
Be positive
Go out there and grab life by the nuts!

IamPickleRick · 02/02/2019 19:29

No, I am very unlucky. Unlucky in the sense that if something bad happens, it will always be me. That one thing that would never ever happen, it’s always me it happens to. Too many to even tell everyone tbh. Some are little like almost being locked overnight in Stansted car park because of their computer error, through to rare cancers and childhood abuse.

I ate a fingernail in a tin of beans just last week.

Neverender · 02/02/2019 19:32

No, but I'm a "coper". My DN equipped me with the strength of steel that I need and I've been through so much shut that I know I can cope with anything.

I've lost my job - coped.
I lost my home - coped.
I moved away from all my friends - coped.

I can deal with whatever life throws at me and that makes me confident and ducking triumphant. Life...bring it....

I will survive. And I will do better. And I will make a shining success out of anything that is chucked my way.

caringcarer · 02/02/2019 19:36

I am lucky. I once bought 2 strips of draw tickets, so 10 tickets. 7 of the tickets won. I have worked hard but still feel lucky to be married to man i love and who loves me. My 3 ac all have jobs. I have 2 wonderful fc, a holiday home and we are comfortable financially. I feel lucky i could afford to retire at 55. Generally good things happen to me. I do feel lucky and very thankful too.

Knittink · 02/02/2019 19:37

Yes, I think I'm lucky. Not in a 'random lucky stuff happens to me' way. But in the sense that I was born into a stable, supportive, comfortably-off family in a wealthy country, have no major health concerns, have never suffered abuse or violence, and am happily married with lovely children.

I'm not particularly lucky in the other sense - I never win raffles or have windfalls etc.

LEELULUMPKIN · 02/02/2019 19:37

I'll give you a definitive answer when I win the lottery OP.

Omgineedanamechange · 02/02/2019 20:18

Yes, I’m lucky. There’s been a few times in my life which could have been horrific, (DD almost dying for example) and I’ve wished, (for want of a better word, I’m atheist so don’t pray) really really hard, and it’s come right. Often against some pretty high odds. I don’t kid myself it’s anything other than sheer damn luck though.

RoryLeighGilmore · 02/02/2019 20:27

Sometimes I think I'm so lucky that I'm just waiting for the terrible things to start happening. I had a stable childhood, I've got the most unbelievable husband and a beautiful little girl. We have a nice house and due to good jobs should be able to get our dream house in a few years. I still have 2 grandparents alive who are wonderful and spent a lot of time with the others, my parents and siblings are healthy and nobody in close to has ever had a really serious health issue.
Sometimes I dwell on things that aren't/weren't perfect (awful PND, job is well paid but I don't enjoy it and it's draining with a commute of 2.5 hours a day) but then realise if that's the worst I have to deal with I'm insanely lucky.
I still feel terrified that I've maxed out my luck and something devastating is around the corner but try not to worry about it too much.

lanbro · 02/02/2019 20:27

Twice in the last year I've had a big bill to pay, once had a go on online bingo and won £300, then tried the slots and won £200. Only ever play very sporadically so lucky that I won when I needed it!

I'm very lucky to have a fantastic family, when I left stbxh I had nothing but support. I'm lucky that I've recently met some new friends who have become really valuable and are really amazing people!

I'm lucky to have 2 amazing dds.

Some might say I'm lucky to have to successful businesses but that has been down to long hours and a lot of hard work!

DareDevil223 · 02/02/2019 20:27

I'm lucky I think but I think I make quite a lot of my own luck as I'm positive and resilient. I've had really hard times (bad marriage, lost a baby, unemployment etc) and after my marriage ended I had to basically walk away and rebuild my whole life.

But, when I've been at my lowest ebb something has always come along that helps to turn things around. I have a life I love now, my DS is grown up and doing well, I have a career that I love, my lovely DP, the best Dcat in the world, friends and family and I think that I'm a very lucky person.

Burlea · 02/02/2019 20:32

Yes we are very lucky, when we got down to £17 in the bank (in the 80's) we went out for a meal to discuss how we could turn our finances around. Went to a pub which had a quizz, we don't do or even like quizzes but after our meal entered and won £100. Lots of other examples where we come out on top. We have never won millions but always won enough to get back on route. Lottery, comps, crosswords etc.
Even as a child I was lucky, us children were taken to places which did prize bingo. I have won a royal doulton dinner service, estaue Lauder perfume, cutlery set and money.
My brothers never did well.
My luckiest time was meeting DH and having our children which were both premeture first 7 weeks early, second 11 weeks early.

pigsknickers · 02/02/2019 20:35

Yeah, I do. I generally fall on my feet. I'm pretty nice and try hard at stuff mostly, but definitely no more than many people, so I don't feel like I've 100% earned the good things I have, if that makes sense. Things mostly turn out for the best (although I'm quite good at managing my expectations which is part of it). But it also feels like when I fuck up big-time (which I do quite a lot because I'm sleep-deprived and therefore careless), I usually manage to get off lightly. So yeah, lucky.

Florencenotflo · 02/02/2019 20:37

I'm not lucky in the way of winning money etc. But I do have lovely parents, who brought me up knowing I was loved, and have been supportive of everything I've ever done. I've got a lovely husband who works hard, who loves me, respects me. My Dd is amazing, and is happy and healthy. We're far from well off but we have enough.

I've never experienced abuse, neglect, DV, loneliness. I've never experienced loss really, I've lost one Grandad who was old and it was expected. I've never had 'real' problems. I'm well aware I've had quite a charmed life and it worries me that one day my 'luck' will run out. From being on here for nearly 10 years had taught me I am unfortunately in the minority that I've never experienced some of the things above, sadly a lot of people have experienced most of those.

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Asta19 · 02/02/2019 22:04

I look back on my life and I’ve been very lucky. I was very close to being abducted when I was just 4 years old. The man who took me very nearly got away with me and someone stopped him just in time. He ran away but I can only imagine his purpose for taking me wasn’t good. I can’t have contractions normally, in older days I would have died in my first pregnancy. I came close to death once but pulled through. I have definitely been lucky. I haven’t lived a charmed life. As I say, I have had tough times, but somehow I always make it through and that gives me the belief that I always will.

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gamerwidow · 02/02/2019 22:07

Yes I have my health, good family and friends and enough money to pay my bills. That’s lucky enough in my book. I’ve never won stuff and I’ve had to work hard too but so many people work hard and have still end up with nothing that I’m grateful for what I’ve got.

Mumshappy · 02/02/2019 22:08

I am lucky in many ways and unlucky in others. I believe as another poster said everything happens for a reason. On a general note i tend to win at raffles etc to the point when its embarrassing.

TinselAndKnickers · 02/02/2019 22:16

"I ate a fingernail in a tin of beans just last week."

GrinGrinGrin

crosser62 · 02/02/2019 22:18

I’m not sure now.

I do and I don’t as this last year has been so very challenging for those around me.
Stuff like buying my house when house prices were low, professionally I’ve been lucky, I keep thinking I’ll be caught out at being shit and undeserving, my husband is fantastic, I fell lucky when I chose him.
I’m lucky to have my children after multiple miscarriages and periods of infertility.
But the most horrific things have happened to loved friends this last year which have affected me profoundly.
There is no other explanation other than utter utter shitting bricks appalling shit house fucking horrendous bad luck sent from the depths of hell itself.

tinydancer88 · 02/02/2019 22:22

I think I'm lucky. This is probably in part to to being a real worrier, so I feel like I dodge a bullet several times a week when whatever the latest catastrophe is doesn't actually happen!

user1471453601 · 02/02/2019 22:28

Feeling lucky, or not, is very subjective. Some people think I'm very unlucky as I've had cancer three times (different kinds of cancer each time). I think I'm really lucky because, despite having has cancer three timrs, I've never had chemotherapy. It's all a matter of perspective

Pocketfull · 02/02/2019 22:30

I suppose in terms of thing that have happened to me, I’ve been more unlucky than lucky, but then many of the bad things that have happened to me are through decisions I didn’t know were wrong at the time.

In the end though I have a wonderful husband, a beautiful, happy and healthy DC, a warm home and money in my pocket, so I guess I’m lucky really.

Butternutsquashy · 02/02/2019 22:38

I am often told how I have the worst luck. Which is unfortunately true. If something bad out of the ordinary would happen it would be to me! Things just never seem to go my way and everything breaks within sight of me...

However on the grand scale of things I would consider myself very lucky to have been born in a country where I am safe, have a roof over my head, food, a loving family, a beautiful healthy child, and no illnesses myself. Hit the jackpot really!

Rockmysocks · 03/02/2019 06:01

Yes not religious but would describe my luck as divine interventions for lack of another way to put it.

LadyandGent · 03/02/2019 06:11

I'm on the fence on this one. I actually can't figure out whether I'm incredibly lucky or incredibly unlucky.

I've been through more in my life than most would go through in 10 lives.
I've diced with death more than 9 times (My mother used to call me the cat of nine lives then just gave up when it hit 10).
Someone could look at me and say 'How the hell you still alive?' Another person could look at me and say 'Hell, you still alive!'.

I feel unlucky, but recognise that something, somewhere seems to want me to remain alive for now.

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