To ask if you think you are a lucky person

[Asta19]

I’ve had hard times in my life, some very hard times. But every time I worry about things they just get better somehow. I was pretty broke this weekend, then I suddenly got a £1000 back payment from something I did not think I would get, and had even forgotten about. And I was thinking that whenever I really need something I get it. I don’t really believe in God, but maybe I believe there is something out there that just looks after me. Or maybe it is just a positive attitude. I brought my DC up to believe that everything you need will come to you, and now they believe it too. For example, my DS had applied for jobs in a country he wanted to move to. He didn’t get one job and got depressed about it, but then he was offered an even better job. So then he had to reluctantly admit I was right

So do you consider yourself a lucky person in general? If you do, why do you think it is? Is it just how you view things? We all go through hard times but maybe if you expect the best outcome you will get it?

I really should be dead. About 20 times over. But I'm here. So I guess I'm meant to be here. For some god-damned reason that I haven't figured out yet.

I have thought I am a lucky person. Then I think what is ‘luck’. Truth is things to do with jobs and career etc are deeply linked with privilege in a majority of cases and with that then comes financial privilege etc.
All the rest , friends relationships experiences joy interests etc are a mix of being fortunate ( or not) to have been born in the society and family we are born into, being active and social to the level we wish, coincidences, connections etc. But we all have our own assessment of what makes us happy.
As for pure luck I do quite frequently feel ‘lucky’ - small lottery wins, just catching trains against all odds, finding lost things, getting away with things which could have been disastrous etc.

I am lucky in some ways. But I also went through very early menopause, had fertility treatment with donor eggs, had a stillbirth and then another child with fixable but still significant birth defects. So just a bit unlucky there.

Yes. I have my DD and 2 more DDs on the way. I feel unbelievably lucky.

I have a husband (who still loves me despite my pregnancy hormones and my moans and lack of bedroom time at the moment), a house, a job, the good side of my family (my DFs), pleasant ILs.

I feel very lucky and privileged. I have a lovely DH who loved me, a loving family, a job I love and enough money to have a nice home, food and enjoy life. What more could anyone want?

I watched I, Daniel Blake last night and felt so appreciative of what I’ve got.

I think I'm very lucky. I've survived attempted murder, sepsis twice, an enormous overdose because someone came home early and found me; I have my daughter after ten miscarriages, we both nearly died in labour but are now completely healthy. Last week I was broke and got £2000 that was owed to me out of the blue.
I've had bad luck but it was mostly because of decisions I've made and my own fault!

I think being lucky is less about what you have and what life throws at you and more about a state of mind and what you focus on. I think everyone/most people have things through life that could be very challenging but some tell themselves stuff happens and move on and others dwell on their misfortune.
I do think luck is a perception and positive outlook and we tend to make our own luck.

I’m very lucky, but the main lucky thing was my excellent parents who are loving and supportive. It’s given me confidence that has led to all my other ‘luck’. You could more accurately describe it as privilege. I did however achieve things myself too. I made some unusual choices that even my parents didn’t understand and I was brave and tenacious (I could be because of my family safety net but not many people choose the things I did) and ultimately those choices led to where I am not. With a pretty perfect life and home and job. Everything I want. The only other clear bit of luck was being able to get pregnant easily. That’s pot luck and I hit the jackpot.

Yup, I think I am lucky but recognise that a lot if my natural resilience comes from having a background of safety, stability and love. I haven't earned it, I don't deserve it, I was just lucky to be born in a place and time that meant I got those things and took them for granted.

I cannot imagine how I would be fundamentally different if I had been born into war, or poverty or violence. I have a huge compassion for people who need to flee their homes and country for safety and self preservation.

It’s all how you perceive things.

I think I'm very lucky. I've survived attempted murder, sepsis twice, an enormous overdose because someone came home early and found me; I have my daughter after ten miscarriages, we both nearly died in labour but are now completely healthy.

This is a perfect example of having a positive attitude. There are people with the exact same sort of life experiences who would think ‘Poor me, terrible things always happen to me, there’s no point in me trying for the new job/looking for a boyfriend etc, I’m the unluckiest person in the world.’

I think I’m very lucky, with my nice house, two kids, part time job, lots of friends.

I don’t dwell on the shit childhood, absent father, career gone nowhere, PND, husband with chronic illness side of things that could easily get me stuck in an ‘I’m so unlucky’ rut.

I'm a great believer in making your own luck and controlling your own destiny.

But I'm also very aware that some of my best luck wasn't self made but just by accident of birth. If I hadn't been born with a clever brain and parents who were very supportive of education, I doubt I'd be a partner in a City law firm, for example. It's easy to credit myself with all the hard work it's taken (it has been very hard work!) but without the initial advantages I would have had a much less privileged life.

I do appreciate how lucky I am and it's made me determined to make the most of my advantages though, and not waste them. I know people who've had advantages many could only dream of but have squandered them and are very "woe is me" when the rich parents money luck ran out.

Like various PP have said, a positive attitude is often what makes a real difference. Though maybe if you happen to have a positive attitude, that's luck too!

I don’t dwell on those things either. And I am not a poor me person, at all. Overall I am very “lucky” ie the things and people I have in my life are good and we don’t have money worries. But no positive attitude is going to take that fingernail out of my beans 😂 I am quite positive about even my bad luck actually, it does make me laugh that there are always more ways to get me!

Has a tiger ever pissed on you on a trip to the zoo? It has me 😂

I do win here and there I suppose, it’s just the bad things are always hilariously random!

I have had some really bad things happen throughout my life but I would consider myself lucky over-all.
I never win anything like scratch cards so don't bother gambling that often but I've managed to pull myself through some really shitty and trying times.
Landed jobs I didn't have skills for which tided me over some financial difficulties, nearly died when I was a child, been In quite a bad car crash as a young adult but came out unscathed, nearly drowned, managed to work things out when they've seemed impossible. I've also had dc which is the luckiest thing in the world for me as I feared I'd never have children. We are healthy and have a roof over our head with food on the table. So yes, very lucky

I’m lucky in that even though I’ve had lots of adversities- abusive child hood, domestic abuse, mental health problems, physical disabilities, not being neurotypical, homelessness, not having any strong ties to people or places, unemployment, poverty, debt, being discriminated against, single parenthood I still think of myself as lucky because I seem to survive everything that is thrown at me.

Given my history I think I’m lucky to be alive, be able to hold down a job, own a house, not have an addiction and be able to parent my dcs.

Very lucky.

We live in one of the riches countries in the world (even if it seems to want to revert to be coming a third world onevunfer Brexit).
We have a warm home.
I have a job.
I have a family.
I have food on the table 3 times a day.
I have my health.

I couldn't be luckier.

Nope. I seem to be plagued by bad luck eg. Not just one miscarriage, I had four. Divorce. Even getting a dog - I’ve had huge vet bills with him.

BUT, I try to remain positive. Be thankful for what I do have and feel lucky about that (healthy children, a lovely home, a job I love).

I suppose I’m at least getting more resilient in the face of adversity! It is hard sometimes and I slip into feeling down, but I do eventually come out of it

With the exception of illness or accident I think luck depends on temperament, judgement and resillience.

I had money as a child yes but I also had a narcissistic mother and divorced parents who each married three times and not well until the third on each case by which time I was an adult. I left home at 18 and never went back.

On the surface we have everything; few see or remember the tiny baby who died, the chronic underlying medical condition I have, dd's battle with depression and anxiety which was due to undiagnosed ADHD/ADD.

Are we lucky? We both avoided partners who weren't totally moral and sound. We married for absolute love. We both work very very hard, as do the dc. Neither of us are big spenders. Our glasses are always half full. Sometimes others have really carped about DH's hours and my compromise and graft for 15 to 20 years of our marriage; on the other side of their faces they have bitched about how lucky we are: the house(s), the schools, etc. Had nothing to do with luck.

What makes me lucky? Having dd 51 weeks after ds2 died in my arms, recovering fully from a badly broken vertebrae, having two dc who inherited intelligence although one isn't neuro typical albeit very high performing, that ds recovered from the chronic asthma of infancy.

Life hasn't been a walk in the park although 99.99% of people think it has.

My one stroke of absolute luck. 30 seconds before the Harrods bomb went off I was walkin towards the Hans Crescent exit. Those who were killed and badly injured were an arm's length away. Suddenly I turned to get stuff from Boots across the road before I potentially had bigger bags. As I got to the corner, the bomb went off, I knew it was a bomb. A 22 bus was stationery in front of me and drove off before the traffic froze. I watched it all on the news later. Only time I have ever shaken. If I have an angel, he or she was on my shoulder that afternoon.

Yes, Lucky. As I get older I am more and more of a glass half-full person. Most of my childhood I was emotionally miserable, so I've been on a long journey. Maybe the early start with ultra-low expectations is why I think I'm so lucky now. Whatever my challenges, in life, I'm mindful of a very long list of problems I never had or that I could solve easily enough when I did have them.