Being a bit pissed off my baby is ill??

[chilledmumma5]

Ok, that sounds bad!
It was my birthday in jan (everyone including me!) were broke, so had arranged a night out at a very nice, poshish, restaurant for tonight...
2 of my dc decided to get a very high temperature yesterday, and with calpol seemed ok!
Today my youngest (8 months) was fine until about 12, then was burning up, whingeing etc, lots of cuddles, bf etc, and had lunch.
Decided with dh that he would probably be fine so went ahead with plans to go out
I was showered & all done up like a bloody supermodel (😂) ready to go, and then, for only the 2nd time ever, said dc childdecided after their bedtime feed to not go to sleep!!
30 mins before we were due to go out we had to cancel!!!
So gutted! Was my first night out due to life/kids in around a year!!!
Has anyone else had to cancel anything last min because of their dc?? (Lighthearted btw- I know they can't help it!!). Just a bit fed up that instead of a juicy steak i had to wolf down a salad

It can be frustrating. My DH took a day off work (to actually have some free time for once) and ended up having to collect DS from nursery and take him to A&E because his head swelled up. He wasn't best pleased.

I'm currently hoping that we will be able to do something for DS birthday, but I'm not currently sure as he has been very unwell recently. I should have planned better and not have had a baby during cold/flu season!

Why couldn't you still go out? Who was meant to be babysitting?

I had to cancel meeting a friend for a drink this week because my DD was ill. It is very frustrating. But there's never a convenient time for illness to strike.

@formerbabe my oldest (18) was going to babysit, but we felt too bad to leave him with a (slightly) unwell baby that won't take a bottle!

Story of my life. Even down to the January birthday

@Kpo58 oh that's awful- I hope your day was ok in the end?? Not the same as a cold!! Fingers crossed your dh is well enough for your ds birthday!

@Oopsusernamealreadytaken it's pretty rubbish isn't it 😂

It's my first night out in ages that I'm super excited for tomorrow and DS has been very unwell this week. To say I'm not disappointed would be a lie, Sod's law I guess!

Yes YABU, poor baby, shouldn’t have considered leaving him

@Stinkytoe I didn't!! I was just really looking forward to going out! He is actually fast asleep now!!

Oh fuck off @Stinkytoe

She didn't leave him but she's entitled to feel disappointed that her second attempt at a birthday celebration was thwarted.

Hope you get your night out soon OP

Dc2 is the king of this. Cost my hundreds we have not been on 2 European weekends away because he got ill the night before, a wedding and numerous meals, date nights. He’s a little smasher nothing seriously wrong with him he just goes down like a sack of spuds with any bug and I wouldn’t put watching him when he’s all sleepy and sad onto my parents. It’s worrying as he is normally like a Tasmanian devil whirling about. You have my sympathies. It’s very annoying but what can you do. I couldn’t leave him and enjoy myself as I would spend the whole time worrying

And yes. Fuck off @stinkytoe

I've missed the only two weekends away I've had planned in past 6 years because I've caught bugs from the DC, if that counts? Have also had to cut numerous nights out short because one of mine has woken up crying and babysitter hasn't been able to comfort them.

But the worst was the day after I had a d&c under general anesthetic (following missed miscarriage) DC1 came out in chicken pox so all the time I should have spent recovering emotionally and physically I was stuck inside looking after an itchy toddler. I'm still bitter about it years later!

@user1466690252 exactly! There would've been no joy in the meal/ wine- just constantly checking phone & feeling guilty!!

I missed my best friends hen do because my baby was poorly. I was gutted too! He wasn't on death's door but I stayed. Irritated. I hear you, op. Xx Xx

The trouble is chilled that ( like me ) you sound like you have several kids and so there is always someone being ill or having a crisis at any given moment! Nothing I plan ever seems to come off or go to plan if it does! It is the nature of the beast I guess . Better luck next time x

@pantyclaws it does count, because it's just as frustrating!
Sorry to hear you had to go through a d&c, and the with a child with chicken pox...it's amazing what us mums can deal with

First night out after ds2 was born, so he was sound 10 months old. He wouldn’t settle, really grizzly, then crying, wouldn’t go down etc. MIL arrived and he was sick everywhere. So we had to send MIL home. Personally I think she was more upset!!

@Usuallyinthemiddle and that's why it's so hard having kids! You plan and look forward to things- assuming this had been booked well in advance- and then they get a bloody virus and that's it, all adult life cancelled! I hope you managed to get to the wedding & had a good time!

@flapjackfairy I may have a fair few kids 😂! It's true! There is always something, it's just the 'something ' is on the very rare times I've planned something for me!! Thank you!! 2 weeks today..I remain positive 😉

I did and now he's a huge 8 year old and she's his god mum and he adores her!

Actually I was over dp’s, and baby ds I mentioned above is now 14. So his dad was with him and he was unwell. I was staying the night and due home the following evening. He was texting and phoning all night crying how unwell and in pain he was. I kept saying ‘wake dad’ but he wanted me. (For the record ex is an amazing dad!).

When I came home and told exdp about ds’s phone calls and texts, he was absolutely gutted, really upset. He felt like ds thought he couldn’t manage his pain, give him cuddles, etc. But really it was just a case of him being unwell and wanting mum. However when he’s well, he’s totally a dads boy!

When i first read this i thought your dh was staying home and you didnt go due to non sleeping baby, course i thought you were nuts!! With a sibling though.. i would have left dh home to settle, i think...

We dont go out often at all, maybe a wedding a year, have had to cancel a few of them due to ill kids, it IS bloody shit but its life.

We have the pox going round here, we're off to visit the sil in the middle east soon, im betting one twin gets pox a few days before

@Hugglessnuggles oh no! The frustration!! I hope you managed to rearrange! I wish our oarents were as willing, we never ask them, and they never offer!

@chilledmumma5 that's typical they're asleep now!

@Stinkytoe why the snarky comment? Baby wouldn't settle OP stayed home? Had baby settled she would've gone out for a well deserved night out (baby wouldn't of even known). I think you'll find that OP is a mother not a martyr!