to hate cannabis?

[Dunin]

I’m not a smoker and never have been but I live with one. He’s a “recreational” user but I find his moods unpredictable (when he’s not smoking) and he has weird/paranoid thoughts/feelings. It’s very hard to have a normal adult conversation with him. Grumpy one minute, high the next (when smoking). Does anybody else (non smoker) live with a smoker? How do you feel about it? How does it impact your relationship? Wondering if I’m BU to hate it and wondering if I’m OTT about it and it’s impact?

I had a related lightbulb moment about a friend and her dp who seemed to have really entrenched life problems, then for six months or so they would sort themselves out and function well, then it would all go wrong again. It occurred to me that despite her denials of being drug users, I am almost certain weed is behind it (and when they quit for a bit they can do life).

pregnantsea I agree so much. It’s not the drug as such but how and why someone uses it. Like alcohol.
I know so many people that smoke occasionally (or in my case pre kids enjoy a hash cake occasionally) and it was a laugh for a Saturday night and that was it. No damage done.

oh god the conspiracy theory thing and weed! such a rabbit hole, so dangerous and for the most part utter bollocks. The things they believe! Completely nuts.

Another one here to say i wouldn't choose a partner who had any addictions. Likewise i wouldn't choose someone who ate meat as i don't want my lifestyle or values to feel challenged on a daily basis. It would be good to have a think about what matters to you and then look for a partner who fires that picture rather than try to make anyone values and preferences fit around a currently available partner.

Yep the conspiracies are getting more and more nuts. Government. Changed everywhere to diet drinks to poison us with aspartame. Obviously I k ow that aspartame is bad but really?!?!

I definitely don't think you are over reacting but he likely will.
I smoked constant and daily for years and it was never a problem because, it's natural, it's medicinal, it's legal in so many countries, it's less dangerous than alcohol, the only side effects are it makes me happy and sleepy.
That is until you don't have any and have spent all your money, then you realise how shit everything seems without it.
I convinced myself that it wasn't true that it could cause MH problems. Now a few years dry I suffer severe anxiety and still occasionally paranoia, directly down to my bad habit.
If your OH can quit he may change drastically so I would give him a chance but if he won't I would re-evaluate if you can stay with him.

I occasionally partake (every month or so) as a way of helping my insomnia.
DSis boyfriend became very lethargic and stupid from overuse. I would leave someone if it began to change who they were.

@NotHeightyButMighty your house got RAIDED??? Was he a dealer??

@Birdsgottafly I know a lot of stoners and can say not one of them has ever smoked weed mixed with heroin... that's a massive fucking leap and highly unlikely