I left stbxh 7months ago due to his aggressive behaviour when drunk. It was the 2nd police call out and we have 2 v young dc and enough was enough
We have a court order for dc contact and finances are sorted so we should be moving on
I put in a claim with cms as he refused to pay maintenance. He is now desperate for me to cancel cms and come to a private arrangement. I don’t want to because he had given me a million reasons not to trust him so I think he will cancel payments as and when he wants.
The thing is he never stops messaging me about it. This week he has sent me so many messages including hoping my best friend dies a slow painful death. That he will move in with his gf of 7 weeks to reduce cms (she has 3 dc), that he will register as self employed to reduce cms, that he will move all salary into pension to reduce cms etc etc plus veiled threats that he will “motivate” me to cancel cms
He won’t let the dc take there toys home from his ( dc are 3 &1)
He swears at me on his weekly Skype with dc.
He messages me through the night when he is drunk and then deleted them so I just see he has sent me loads of deleted messages between 2am and 5am
Tbh I have had enough. I am living in rented whilst he kept the family home as he bullied me into a seperation agreement. I cannot cope with the sheer volume of message from him.
I recently made a statement to the police as I feel I am been harassed, they agreed and said I should message him saying if he contacts me again about anything other than the dc I will press charges....But I am worried that when I send this message everything will get worse for me and dc.
If I do press charges and he is convicted he would lose his job
Would it be unreasonable to tell him one more message and I will press charges? And wibu to then follow through?