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To ask what's the cruelist thing you've done?

198 replies

Mummyto2munchkins · 29/01/2019 22:01

Just wanted to know if any of you have done something mean?

I've use to make my ex SM a cuppa with 1 sugar and 1 salt! (she still doesn't know!)

Oh and I once made my sister eat a worm by telling her it was a sweet! (she was 5)

Have you guys got any interesting things you've done?

OP posts:
eniledam · 31/01/2019 10:21

When I was 6 or 7, I drew a picture at school of a scene from a book we were reading. The teacher came over and asked what it was. I had drawn the girl in the story being frightened by something, but for some bizarre, inexplicable reason, I told her it was a picture of me.

This led to some more gentle questioning in which I claimed I lived with a terrible abusive family and was made to sleep on the floor. In reality, I had a lovely childhood with a very loving family.

Teacher was obviously very concerned and contacted SS. I still remember the awful moment my mum confronted me about it when she found out we were having a home visit from SS. I still have no idea why I did it. And I still feel absolutely terrible when I remember how upset my mum was. God, I was a weird kid.

Gilead · 31/01/2019 11:29

Funny, all my children are at uni. I went to uni. I was a lecturer at the local uni. 'Uni is chav'. Bollocks!

Smotheroffive · 31/01/2019 18:16

I wonder at anyone who throws around comments out of nowhere like its a chav word [uni] what their intention! I have little care for what the cohort around you called 'it', whatever 'it' was. I think its not teaching much, or some not learning much rather, if words like 'chav' are levelled at people.

I would presume to know because of the balance of probability that you are not forced into putting laundry on! Who actually is? If you were forced to do laundry....well I doubt it and dubious.

Where you at uni then? As pretty much everyone I know calls it uni? Also pp, maybe you call it college or school, or whatever, doesn't give excuse for using horrible expressions like 'chav' to others, anyone for anything.

Thisnamechanger · 31/01/2019 18:19

Killed a bird.

Shamelessly strung a very naive boy on at university because he fancied me and I was bored/insecure. He ended up dropping out.

Thisnamechanger · 31/01/2019 18:24

Actually I scratched my brother's name into our downstairs loo wall so he'd get the blame for it.

Also locked my Mum out the house when I was 5 and I was mad at her.

VictoriaBun · 31/01/2019 18:26

When I was about 9 ( a million years ago) I was being looked after by my neighbour. She had a vase on her table that had pampas grass (!) in it. If you gave it a shake loads of seeds / hairy bits came off it . I gave it to her 18 month old little boy to shake about. I then went out to the kitchen and after a few minutes told her what he was doing.I was a horrible child

joystir59 · 31/01/2019 18:26

Bored in a lesson when I was approx 12. I was sitting behind a girl with a very long blond plait of hair. I had some nail scissors in my pencil case. I started snipping tiny bits of hair at various points down her plait. I did it through most of the lesson. That night when her mum unplaited her hair quite a lot of it fell on the floor. I confessed what I'd done to the teacher and was very apoLogetic. I still feel ashamed when I think about this.

Thisnamechanger · 31/01/2019 18:29

I was sitting behind a girl with a very long blond plait of hair. I had some nail scissors in my pencil case. I started snipping tiny bits of hair at various points down her plait

This is the kind of thing I'd have done to myself just to see what it looked like and be promptly murdered by my mother

arwenearlythereyet · 31/01/2019 18:36

"I bit a hole in her dolphin"

Brilliant.

Kemer2018 · 31/01/2019 18:41

Disposed of all my ex's vinyl collection. Decades worth of stuff.

elfycat · 31/01/2019 18:49

I handled a new colleague being a bit stalkery with me in an unsympathetic manner. I had become her 'best friend' within days and she'd breached rules getting my contact details from a file for emergencies medical and had been calling me at 3am because she couldn't sleep due to anxiety. I'd been a bit British about asking her to stop and complained to my manager.

She ended up with a final written warning, and left shortly after. OK it was warranted by the data rules and she was a bit odd, but she'd had a massive (near fatal) head injury a couple of years before and it was possibly related to that. I just feel I could have asked work to give her a verbal warning, or even just a friendly-chat in the first instance. I was young, I was tired and I was anxious about her fixation on me.

I'll never know if it was for the best (my safety) or if she could have been better handled. I think the latter.

BlueJava · 31/01/2019 18:57

One of the bosses at work was horrible - he sort of leave me alone, but it seemed he always picked on a friend of mine and gave her a hard time. He'd openly shout at people for minor things - "How much time are you wasting drinking tea?" "Why don't you trying thinking for once?"

One day I was asked to go to Stockholm with him to do a presentation. I didn't really want to go but agreed. The night before we took a cab to the airport from the office to catch our flight. As he got out at the airport he said to me "Pass my bag" (No please, or could you help). Of course being a helpful employee I did pass his bag out the cab to him... it was just really unfortunate that his passport fell out the bag first. Such as shame I had to go on alone and did just fine on my own. Left him ranting at the airport.

Strokethefurrywall · 31/01/2019 19:04

How do you know karma hasn't already happened?

And what do you want all these posters to do about it, go back in time and not do it? The majority of these posters are horrified by their behaviors, as far as I can tell they're not sociopaths and lead perfectly normal lives.

Jesus, there are no perfect people. Human beings test the boundaries of behavior and resulting empathy as they grow.

As long as there's nobody biting the heads of rabbits and not feeling a shred of guilt, I'd say everyone is pretty normal.

Strokethefurrywall · 31/01/2019 19:06

My comment was to Weightsandmeasures - I thought I'd gotten to the end of the thread but there are far many more crazies than I'd thought! Grin

Smotheroffive · 31/01/2019 19:47

@Handprints2018 not cruel, very Sad, but I wouldn't say cruel Flowers

cfmagnet · 31/01/2019 20:02

I argued with my mother when she was terminally ill. She made some hurtful comments about me raising my children in a single parent family (had chosen to leave their abusive father) which ended with her saying "You are the worst mother!"
My closing comment was "No, that accolade is all yours" as I left her house. The next day my sister called to tell me our mother had died. My comment was cruel and unneccessary and I'll never forgive myself for not just keeping my mouth shut.

easyandy101 · 31/01/2019 20:52

Forged a copy of a cheque from the national lottery so that we could convince a guy who had gone to Australia for 3 weeks that the syndicate he was a part of for the last few years had won the lottery. I'd left the cheque in his mail tray

The sting being that we'd decided to exclude him from the winnings as he was more than 2 weeks in arrears and it was just an accident that I'd put the cheque in his tray, because everyone else had got one

It wasn't a crazy amount, like I think we'd each "won" about 35k or something but we kept it going for ages (days) and he was just getting angrier and angrier. Apparently his wife was telling him he had to leave his job Shock

He actually found it quite funny when he found out

ferretygubbins · 31/01/2019 21:18

Not really mean as it was all done for fun whilst at primary school:

  1. End of term I took my Scalectrix in and wouldn't let any of the boys play until they had passed the 'test' which was to put their tongue on the track whilst I squeezed the trigger to put full voltage through it.

  2. Put bread crumbs on the back lawn and then shoot the starlings that came down to eat it. The cat was sent out to dispatch any wounded ones.

  3. Used to make nooses to hang my sister's dolls and teddy bears from anything available in her room.

  4. When walking the dog used the metal lead to check if any electric fences were live

Smotheroffive · 31/01/2019 21:38

cfmagnet you have to forgive yourself that one!! From the way u said it it sounds like you wouldn't have wanted those to be your last words. I truly think its time to let that one go.

Fuck! Ferrety you gave your ddog electric shocks! Yes mean! Not fun for primary school.

donutrehomer · 31/01/2019 21:44

I have posted this on MN before, I worked as a PA to a complete twat in the early 90s who totally loved himself. He made my life a living hell. I worked for him for 18 months and a huge part of my job was collating sales and business figures and putting them onto powerpoint presentations in all these different types of graph and I totally loathed doing it.

It took me bloody hours so after the third month it wasn't sales or business figures he was presenting at the meetings, it was my menstrual cycle over the last three years. I just used to rotate it all and tweak it a bit every month. I have to say, it totally fooled everyone at every meeting they were shown at. To such an extent that it influenced budgets, wage increases, bonuses and even publicity material. In hindsight, it is somewhat disturbing to think that people made financial investments in the early 90s that may have been based on my menstrual cycle.

The month after I left for a new job someone finally noticed that none of his figures even remotely matched the divisional sales figures.

He went on gardening leave shortly afterwards.....

ferretygubbins · 31/01/2019 21:51

Smotheroffive Well I wouldn't want to climb over them if they were live would I? I knew electric shocks weren't fun as my Dad used to shock my sister and I with the magneto from his motorbike but only for a laugh he wasn't a psycho. In fact I took the magneto to school to demonstrate it and managed to get almost all of the class with a single shock (got them all to line up and hold hands)

Besides the dog concerned wasn't the sharpest tool in the box - I remember Dad teaching him not to chase sheep by firing a shot gun at him (the shot was removed from the cartridge but the wadding left in) if he made movements towards the sheep.

Handprints2018 · 31/01/2019 21:53

Thank you Smotheroffive. I feel very awful and guilty over it. She's opened up a lot now to me which is good but the look on her face is never going to leave me. I felt very cruel in that moment.

EwItsAHooman · 31/01/2019 22:01

Jesus Christ ferrety, the apple didn't fall far from that tree did it?

Smotheroffive · 31/01/2019 22:07

donurehomer what menstrual cycle data did you gather exactly?

Smotheroffive · 31/01/2019 22:09

Why ever not ferrety better you take the shock when you know what you're doing than a ddog who trusts you not to hurt them! Comes across that you actually don't regret or feel guilty for any of this.?! Shooting the fucking ddog!!