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To ask what's the cruelist thing you've done?

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Mummyto2munchkins · 29/01/2019 22:01

Just wanted to know if any of you have done something mean?

I've use to make my ex SM a cuppa with 1 sugar and 1 salt! (she still doesn't know!)

Oh and I once made my sister eat a worm by telling her it was a sweet! (she was 5)

Have you guys got any interesting things you've done?

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JoeElliotsMullet · 30/01/2019 17:25

@YouBelongHere
Someone did that to me. It was really fucking painful. Did your school begin with N?

Smotheroffive · 30/01/2019 17:32

I should think its probably happened to lots in sporting viscious point scoring endeavours. I'm sure there's also many a hockey game with deliberate injuries

ChestOfFields · 30/01/2019 17:36

I suppose my ex would find this cruel, but other people I've told consider it just desserts, or just funny! As do I. .

My ex told me in detail that he'd been having sex with prostitutes, and why I didn't match up.. (he was very cruel actually)
So, anyway, I went to kwik save the day after and bought an expensive small tin of dog food and made him a pie. I was sat peeking over the top of a book I was pretending to read, watching him eat!
'This tastes a bit strange, is it the gravy?'
'Don't think so, it wasn't a cheap tin of pie filling!'

Still not sorry!

YouBelongHere · 30/01/2019 17:50

@JoeElliotsMullet no it didn't. I'm not proud of it but had done it before I'd even thought about it!

BitsOfYellowFallingOff · 30/01/2019 18:19

I can't imagine some of you have peaceful and content lives. These behaviours are not normal and I believe some of you continue to behave in these nasty ways in your personal and potentially professional lives.

The thing is though, they are normal behaviours. Many people make bad judgements, have mean thoughts and act on impulse sometimes, I think every one of us is capable of doing both good and bad things. But, doing one bad thing doesn't always make you a bad person forever more.

LordPickle · 30/01/2019 18:29

When I was in school, a friend wanted me to talk to a boy she liked and get him to take her to the upcoming dance. (I'm American) but when I talked to him, he said he only wanted to go with me, so I went with him.

The worst thing is, I didn't fancy him at all. No idea why I did it but our friendship never recovered.

BlackPrism · 30/01/2019 18:39

My sister used to put super high calorie powders in her mates food. she knows she was horrid how's

I once stole a girls earrings at a party because she'd bullied me for years. And because I wanted them, I do feel bad now.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 30/01/2019 18:39

Personally I am very aware of my dark side and make a conscious decision to be a good person every day. But don't cross me; I don't forget.

I do have very dark thoughts though: if I could have done away with my nasty violent Bil who was fucking up my sister and her kids' lives without being caught, then I definitely would have. I spent an unhealthy amount of time trying to work out how I could get him to visit a cliff edge with me and that sort of thing.

Also have dark thoughts about DFil, who is very ill with an awful quality of life and not going to recover, and stressing DH out beyond belief. I think euthanasia is a good idea.

DH says he would be terrified to ever leave me. I think he's joking.

Smotheroffive · 30/01/2019 18:41

I tried to help a friend when I was at college, she was working and a bit older, but had come to a college Christmas rowdy college knees up and met a guy in the year above. These started dating. A couple of months later I saw him out with someone else. When I next bumped into him at college, I did ask him about it, as was feeling a bit Hmm for my friend. He told me they weren't dating anymore. I could see how she fancied him, but I wasn't into him, but I wanted to see his reaction. I called her to see if they were over, she said not, I then stupidly naïvely made myself the honey trap! We hooked up as friends, but he definitely wanted more despite me saying no I'm ready to go, tried to kiss me etc bleeeur slimebag whilst in his car, so I welched on him to my friend who promptly walloped me one!
Fuck that!

darkriver19886 · 30/01/2019 18:44

Turned my ex husband's computer off whilst he was using.

BlackPrism · 30/01/2019 18:56

@aethelgifu hahahahaha that is GLORIOUS

DragonKiller · 30/01/2019 19:01

@BitsOfYellowFallingOff
Exactly! We've all made crap decisions, some more than others. To dismiss it as unnatural is really the height of dickheadedness.

BluMalloy · 30/01/2019 19:05

I dumped my boyfriend to go out with his older brother. My boyfriend was devastated and took to his bed for a week playing 'bridge over troubled water' over and over again on his cassette player....
Said brother is now DHBlush

ABigBraclet · 30/01/2019 19:08

In some ways dark impulses are a natural and normal part of human character, acting on them, is more apparent in some than others. But even so, I think we should do our best to hide our dark secrets, keep them to ourselves. This confession thread seems very distasteful and equally enthralling. Confused

iklboo · 30/01/2019 19:16

I dumped my boyfriend to go out with his older brother. My boyfriend was devastated and took to his bed for a week playing 'bridge over troubled water' over and over again on his cassette player....
Said brother is now DH

Does that make Christmas awkward? Grin

Weightsandmeasures · 30/01/2019 19:18

Smotheroffive, how do you know someone hasn't returned a similar favour to you? Nasty people often attract nastiness from others. People can see the nasyry streak in others and will themselves not hesitate to undermine or betray nasty people. People feel less inclined to do something to hurt or undermine people they think are nice, decent people.

I can honestly say I've never wasted my time to do the wicked things that people say they did. When you think about it, they are all pointless.

I can't see the point of these sneaky wickedness. If a person crosses, I leave them in no doubt of my displeasure and they will be well aware of any action I'm taking.

mummmy2017 · 30/01/2019 19:25

I could have sat back and watched as someone lost their whole life, business and home.
Instead I got a cheque for the money he needed and order extra products to ensure he survived....

ChestOfFields · 30/01/2019 19:46

I'm glad a pp has mentioned having a dark side, all I was taught was nastiness, abuse and violence.
I am aware now (well probably since I met my xh at 16)
that my go to in my head is lashing out with vile words. I've worked all my life to be aware of that and not act on it!
Nowadays if I can't say anything nice, I'll say nowt at all.
I'm not a pushover, I'll not reply to nastiness till at least an hour, and 24 hours for big decisions.

If that's all you know, all you've been taught, it's not easy to fight your way to the other side of it!

I made a decision not to be like that with my DC, I used my memories to do the opposite of what I'd had done and said to me.

BluMalloy · 30/01/2019 20:01

iklboo it was 35 years ago! we all get on now although the brother I dumped is still single after a string of failed relationships. He dotes on our DC tho.

Bamchic · 30/01/2019 20:07

I let a child I was responsible for menstruate through her clothes, all over the chairs.

My first school placement when I was at uni, I was 19 and teaching in a really posh all girls grammar, with really strict rules. I am very rough round the edges and was feeling like shit because I had misscarried dc1 on the Thursday and was back on the on the Monday.

Anyway, I didn’t let a year 11 go to the toilet, because I was trying to assert myself and do behaviour management and whatnot. So I kept saying no. She was asking every five minutes and I was getting short, she knows the rules? She didn’t move at the end of the lesson (which was the end of the day) and stayed there until everyone had gone. I snapped at her “you can’t need the toilet that much or you wouldn’t be sat here would you?!” (Because I was an insensitive teenager who was having a miscarriage, who desperately needed to change her pad and milk herself, and shouldn’t have been teaching a flipping class anyway in hindsight)
She got up and was swimming in blood. Their uniform was custard yellow and maroon, and the blood was crimson. It was awful.
I saw her stand up and I burst into tears.
I called our pastoral lead, we got her clean uniform and I gave her a pad and some chocolate.
I couldn’t go back after that 😭

Ofalltheginjoints · 30/01/2019 20:08

I was visiting a friend and another one of her friend was there, this other woman doesn’t like me and the feeling is mutual, any time I see her she makes digs about me and comments on my disability insinuating that it’s faked.

As she is a friend of my friend I really didn’t feel comfortable making a scene about it especially in front of my friends DS so I made her a cold drink with water from the dog bowl.

Next time I visited DP was with me and he thought I might’ve over estimated the previous comments when he heard them from this friend of my friend he pissed on her toothbrush.

Subsequently I don’t see either of them now and life is so much better, and no regrets at all

Smotheroffive · 30/01/2019 20:09

Can you explain that first para again please weights? How do you mean? how do I know someone hasn't returned the favour and nasty people see nastiness in others ! Not sure what it is you're saying exactly.

pintsizedblondie · 30/01/2019 20:10

Wiped my bitch of a flatmate's toothbrush round the toilet a few times.

Put a laxative tablet in a microwave burger because someone was stealing my food at uni...

Onlygirlinmyhouse1 · 30/01/2019 20:14

We had some awful pictures on our staircase growing up & I used to turn them upside down when passing, they were always fixed soon after so I’d keep doing it. My dad thought it was his dead mother sending him messages 😂 my mum told me this so naturally I done it more then I eventually told them it was me 😂

TowerRavenSeven · 30/01/2019 20:16

I would break up with my boyfriends over the phone, one I had dated for three years!