To make appointments with these GPs purely to tell them it’s their fault?

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5yo DD has had a wart on her hand for the last two years. To begin with I thought it would go away. It didn’t and it grew. I have never had warts and neither has any of the rest of the family - I have no experience of them. Googled, but as she was under 4 to start with, a lot of the treatments weren’t suitable.

When I showed the GP and asked what to do, she pulled a face and asked why I wanted to do anything with it. I muttered about being worried she might get teased, but the GP looked at me like I was made, so I accepted her response that I should do nothing. I felt pretty mortified for even asking.

Despite feeling like a complete tosser for wanting to sort out the bloody wart, I took her to the pharmacist when she was 4 and he gave us a gel thing to put on. This didn’t work, and a friend who had had warts suggested going back to the GP and getting them frozen off. So, I thought maybe I’d just had a strange experience and another GP might actually help. Well I got the same fucking response - a sideways, judgmental look and the feeling that he thought me a neurotic mother were all I got from this GP too. It’ll go away on its own he told me.

DD has had a bad spell of health lately, she has ricocheted from virus to virus and also unfortunately developed eczema on her face. Between the blocked, runny noses and the eczema she has touched her face a lot. Tonight I have discovered a fucking wart on her beautiful face. On closer inspection, she now also has 3 other smaller warts on her hand, along with the very large original wart. I am so upset. With myself for accepting what the areshole judgmental doctors said, but also with them. I don’t have a degree in medicine and didn’t know they could spread like that. Why didn’t they help me with the original wart? Why did they not consider the fact that they could spread?

I am a teacher and if I rolled my eyes and dismissed a concern raised by a parent which then escalated, I would have my arse handed to me, not only by that parent but also my line manager. I’ve got an appointment with another GP tomorrow who I really hope will actually help us properly with this (I’ve been told he is very good). But AIBU to want to make appointments with the previous two GPs, show them DD’s face and tell them that I hold them personally responsible for this?

Disclaimer: I would never waste GP time by actually doing this. But AIBU to want to? As I said, in my job I’d be hauled over the coals.

My dd had warts on her hand and ended up with warts on her genitals and her eye. Dr did nothing. Ended up at a homeopath and that sorted her out eventually.

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Plus I would ask for liver to be checked with constant itching and pale stools.

I am a GP. she does not need to be seen by a specialist. She has warts. they will go on their own. Do go and see your GP about the other things, but leave the warts alone. There IS no treatment that is 100% effective, and the person who said a homeopath 'sorted them out' ? They would have gone anyway !

Why do U.K. trained GPs not know anything about dermatology? I have lived in the U.K. and in other countries and the state of people’s skin and what they are expected to put up due to the ignorance of GPs is just astounding.

lilybetsy Understandable comments those and yes they were on thier way out when the local witch doctor was consulted;) but do you think theres an underlying undiagnosed condition here as well as the warts?.

You sound quite anxious OP. Your DD appears to be suffering from fairly common childhood complaints - minor eczema, warts and picking up every virus going from other little kids.

Might it be worth speaking to the GP about your own mental health? Anxiety and depression are so under diagnosed amongst parents of young kids.

The OP is anxious about her DD with good reason and angry with a GP who doesn’t appear to take the DD’s health issues seriously. It is very wrong to insinuate that the OP may have a “mental health issue”. Victim blaming of the highest order - shame on you.

And shame on a NHS that has failed to create a culture of taking skin complaints seriously.

The only thing that may point to something happening is the pale floating stools. Everything else is ordinary childhood stuff. And very common with eczema to get dry itchy skin.

There are excellent ways to treat eczema and keep it at bay.

Suffering from anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of - I haven't tried to accuse the OP of something awful.

Shame on you for contributing to the culture of shame and fear that surrounds mental health issues.

Commonly occurring childhood skin complaints such as eczema and warts can be managed very effectively. It is not because they are common that they do not cause suffering and do not deserve to be treated.

Rubbing garlic paste on a couple of hand warts worked for me in my teens - took a couple of days to go but they never came back

She doesn’t have a “mental health issue”. She has an ill child who is not being treated properly.

I didn't say she did. I asked if it was something she might want to talk to her GP about. If OP doesn't feel that would be helpful for her then she won't.

Legitimate anxiety about a clearly defined problem, such as the OP’s, is not a “mental health issue” that needs talking therapy or a GP appointment.

Wow just wow and this is why in a single nutshell why the NHS is fucked

Yeh, right

This is a weird one:

Exdp’s ddad used to ‘buy’ the kids warts off them!

Apparently he’d take a penny, pass it to the child and say ‘rub it over your warts’ then he’d take the penny back and say ‘I’ve bought your warts now’. Within a week their warts would be gone!

I smelled bulls**t with it. But exdp’s mums and exdp’s sibling all swore it was true.

Over the years we would bump into his child hood friends in the pub etc, and every single one would mention when either their warts were bought or could remember watching him do it and their friends warts falling off a few days later.

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You seem much more confident in armchair diagnosis than I am Maria. I suggest you do some research into health anxiety - the NHS suggest CBT or medication if self help is unsuccessful.

I'll leave it there. I meant to make a polite suggestion for the OP to consider - not to derail her thread.

I’m very angry about the way people with clearly defined and legitimate grievances get told they have mental health problems ie are victim blamed.

The “mental health” agenda is far from being something pure and innocent.

In the nicest way - you need to do some of the legwork yourself OP. The buck stops with you. Don’t depend on the doctors - they are not infallible. Ultimately you’re her parent - you need to arm yourself with as much information as possible and try out different solutions to the problems. You think the warts need treatment? Treat them. The GP wouldn’t do anything about the wart on my DD’s knee even though it was causing her pain when she got dressed and blood used to pour down her leg! So I removed it myself. She’s never had one since.

I don't have any agenda. This a parenting website, I'm only trying to offer help and support to the OP.

If she wants to keep pursuing further medical tests and treatment for her DD, I'm sure she will. I was just offering an alternative viewpoint for the OP to consider if she wishes.

I'm sorry you've perceived that as victim blaming in some way.

As I've said before, I certainly haven't "told" her she has MH difficulties - that would be absurd.

OP, a couple of GPs have commented here, so I'm sticking my head above the parapet as a layperson.
Have they not done blood tests at all? Any of the times?
It's just that the itching (if sort of under the skin, rather than in the areas of eczema), might indicate a liver function problem.
You would need blood tests for that though.
My only qualification to say that is that I'm under a Hepatologist, and itching is a very annoying side effect of a liver under strain.
I also have acquired warts and eczema (never had it in my life).

Just a thought, that I hope a GP can maybe look into.

I'm sorry I only came across your thread now, because I would have advised bloods being done, including liver function if I had read this before you went to the GP.

And very recently, I knew what was wrong with me. My GP knew that there was something wrong (upper abdominal pain) so sent me to A&E, but she thought it might be my liver playing up, in fact it was as I suspected, pancreatitis. So GPs don't always get it right.

The fact that you've now seen 3 GPs though, and at least 2 on here have commented, means that you really should probably ignore my advice. But just thought I'd mention it.

And I too would be upset about a wart on my dd's face. They are ugly things.