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To smack DH upside the head?

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TheLostTargaryen · 28/01/2019 11:37

Of course there will be no violence but I honestly want to smack some sense into him. He's almost 40, works full time and we have three children. He is a fully capable adult (albeit a non-cooking one) and yet he simply cannot grasp the fact that emails may actually be scams. Just this morning he was telling me we need to look at our old (and never used) credit card account because apparently we owe money on it. He got an email saying so.
I told him I know there's no activity on the card and the email is spam.

"But it's from BARCLAYCARD! We have BARCLAYCARD!!!" He says.

No DH. No it isn't. It may say Barclaycard on the email address but if he were to just fucking click the sender name (which I tell him every single fucking time he does this!) he'd see it was sent from a bunch of random letters and numbers and a damn gmail account or something! The emails don't even say his name, just a Dear Client/customer/email address.
He does the same with Apple emails too.

One day he'll be paying off a surprise tax bill by buying iTunes vouchers from Tesco one day right? Maybe we'll own a bridge in San Francisco too.

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TheLostTargaryen · 28/01/2019 11:39

Oh and he doesn't have any credit cards registered with his email address. We use mine.

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Lycanthropology · 28/01/2019 11:40

Well yes, he’s being naive/ careless/ silly.

I just hope you’re around to sort it out when he gets the email from the Nigerian Prince!

SneakyGremlins · 28/01/2019 11:41

Hang on, what's the one about a bridge?

MrsWillGardner · 28/01/2019 11:42

Yeh we all love that Nigerian Prince! Proper looks after your money too!

RuggerHug · 28/01/2019 11:43

Sneaky old school one used about a bridge in New York. Rich hicks would arrive, be given a tour by a local who would show off it's wonder and say it was a shame it was being taken down for it's materials or some nonsense. 'It would only take one investment of $1000 to save it...'. Hick hands over money, told they'll own a bit, yadda yadda yadda.

SneakyGremlins · 28/01/2019 11:45

And that worked? Shock

ThePants999 · 28/01/2019 12:05

Please do smack him as planned. He absolutely WILL get scammed one day of he carries on with this level of awareness.

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TheLostTargaryen · 28/01/2019 13:30

I suppose at least he's not fallen for "Windows" calling to tell us about our laptop having viruses.
My friend's DH was furious with her for downloading viruses on her new laptop which he had to pay £85 to windows to sort. The viruses were proven when couldn't even get the laptop to work after he followed the chap on the phone's instructions... the chap who had called THEM from Windows (Not microsoft, who actually make Windows Hmm)

Honestly. How can people actually fall for that stuff?

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Willow2017 · 28/01/2019 14:00

Yes a timely 'Gibbs slap' is definately required.
You need to get him on the scam website to show him just how many there are out there.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 28/01/2019 14:02

I was listening to something on the radio today, about people who had been defrauded of their pensions - people conned into moving their pensions by people with no qualifications or knowledge about investments - some people have lost their whole pension, tens of thousands of pounds.

One of the victims said they hadn't done any checking whatsoever, of the qualifications, background etc of their 'financial advisor' - they had just handed over £65K+!!

My heart went out to them, because that's their retirement ruined - but I couldn't help wondering how anyone could still be unaware of the amount of scammers out there. It is awful that we can't trust people, and have to be on our guard all the time - but it is a fact of life, and whilst the scammers are 100% to blame for their criminal activity, people need to have a bit of common sense too.

Sexnotgender · 28/01/2019 14:03

That’s worrying!!

I used to work in fraud for a major bank and was always amazed at how many people would fall for frankly ridiculous scams.

userschmoozer · 28/01/2019 14:04

Watch out for the fake TV Licence one, because the email address is 'TVLicence.hotmail' or something similar. Apparently loads of people have been caught out by it despite the spelling mistakes.

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TheLostTargaryen · 28/01/2019 16:02

I find it incredible that there has been even one person falling for the iTunes vouchers to pay HMRC scam. It's not even currency. No government body needs £500-£1500 in Ringtones and Michael Buble albums.
Our local supermarkets have wised up to this and have actually prevented a number of frauds by pulling the customer aside and stopping them buying any vouchers over a certain amount without checking first. But they shouldn't need to.

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Sexnotgender · 28/01/2019 16:37

Oh you'd be surprised how many people fall for these scams! Believe me working in fraud is a real eye opener...

Wolfiefan · 28/01/2019 16:40

OP he’s clearly not grown up enough to have email yet. Confiscate his phone too. Grin

sleeplessinsomewhereelse · 28/01/2019 16:42

The worst one I had recently was the one about having looked at adult websites and I should hand over bitcoin otherwise all my contacts would be emailed Shock

It was very convincing!

letsdolunch321 · 28/01/2019 16:43

My fil had a phone call regards Windows - (obviously Mircosoft related) - he told the man calling he already has windows that are double glazed. Bless his heart, he is 85yrs old

CigarsofthePharoahs · 28/01/2019 16:45

Does he believe there's still a lone cosmonaut on Mir who'd really like to come home now so please send £100 to help....

I remember that one quite fondly. I guess there are probably ISS versions nowadays.

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TheLostTargaryen · 28/01/2019 16:47

I'm still waiting for my Nigerian prince to pay up. He emailed me in the 90's and still no £millions in my account. I'm beginning to think he may have been fibbing.

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Hoppinggreen · 28/01/2019 16:48

sleepless I too need to atone for my porn watching habits with bitcoin apparently

Duchessgummybuns · 28/01/2019 17:14

I’m still mining the bitcoin to pay for mine Blush

blackteasplease · 28/01/2019 17:29

I was nearly caught out by the tv licence one because it came when I was drunk!

Highonthehill · 28/01/2019 17:30

I had the Microsoft one phone me.... I went hysterical asking him to stay on the line while I plugged the computer in and asked him where the power button was as it wasn't my computer but worried about the problem...
He shouted at me for winding him up and being rude Shock I had a few choice words for him.... he hung up... the audacity of some people...

Yes give your dh a slap... or set up your own scam getting him to transfer someone you know money to teach him a lesson

Weezol · 28/01/2019 17:34

Set him up his own email address so he can't accidentally fubar your finances. Problem solved.

Better to be safe than arrested for ABH sorry and all that.

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