My dp has had some worrying symptoms with his testicles for the last week. Bad pain in the area for hours at a time (although it does subside), notable redness and swelling along with those attacks. He also has abdominal pain with them. Initially he was sent off to a&E to check for testicular torsion but they thought it was unlikely and so referred him back to the GP. The gp has ordered an ultrasound and urine tests but having read about the symptoms I would like us both to get tested for chlamydia/STDs, as these particularly chlamydia can cause testicular pain and swelling. It’s an awkward topic because we have been together 2.5 years and we are monogamous, but I know that chlamydia can be dormant for a long time and it doesn’t have to mean cheating. We both got tested about 5 years ago before our previous, 2.5 year monogamous relationships- but I have no idea if dp’s ex was tested, and he has said before he suspects she cheated before they broke up. He says he finds the GUM clinic a horrible experience and is very reluctant to go or even do a home test. I am happy to do one or go to the clinic. I want to rule out chlamydia etc because those conditions can have long term serious effects even if symptomless.
AIBU?! I feel like he is being childish about the GUM clinic and whatever infection or inflammation he is experiencing there, could affect me too as we have unprotected sex. He said that’s me being “selfish” but I’m thinkjng of both of us! I don’t get why he won’t just do a test. 5 years is a long time between testing anyway isn’t it?
AIBU please