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I don't like my days off work

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namechange103 · 27/01/2019 19:24

I don't love days in work, but I am overall happy and get on with the day and get a lot of stuff done.

On my 4 days off (I work part time), I'm just miserable. I'm always exhausted, impatient with my toddler, just feeling generally crap and like getting out of the house is a massive task, I'm left feeling so guilty by the time DS has gone to sleep because I feel like I've just been the worst parent ever.

I only started working part time about 6 weeks ago so it's a fairly new set up for us. Before that I did struggle as a SAHM with finding the energy to get out and about and not feeling crap/miserable.

How can I help this? I feel awful now on Sunday night as I've been pretty much useless for 4 days

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HebeMumsnet · 27/01/2019 19:48

Feel for you OP. I was part-time for years when the kids were little and you feel like you're meant to be enjoying 'having it all' but sometimes it's hard to settle into either role.

I'd second the routine thing. Or, if you don't want to be stuck with going to certain groups every week, give your son something that feels like 'an event' or a routine, but actually allows you to do what you need to get done. I used to 'theme' days. Sounds brilliant, takes so little effort. The kids thought it was amazing.

Sometimes they were pretty cool and we'd do an activity and some kind of outing on a theme, eg 'the farm' (go to farm, get out plastic horses in the garden when you get home). Sometimes they were total lazy parent days. I did once do 'sandwich day' (they made their own sandwiches. For every meal. I'll collect my parenting medal on the way out.) Point is, they went to bed tired and happy and feeling like they'd had an event. And I felt like they'd 'done a thing' and I didn't have to feel bad.

Honestly, you reading him a story in the morning and taking him to feed the ducks in the afternoon is masses of activity to him. Don't rush to get out of the house. He probably quite likes just being at home with you anyway. Sounds like you need a bit of time for you, too, just to chill out if that's possible somehow?

I'd take those days at home easy. He's probably tired from busy, activity-packed days at nursery or wherever he is when you're at work. Quiet days with not much going on a few days a week sounds like it might be a pleasant thing for both of you.

Hope you settle into it all. Six weeks is all pretty new still. And yes. Starting anything this time of year sucks, as a PP said.

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