To want to know how much financial help you’ve had from your family, and how much you will give to your children as adults

[LardLizard]

Such as uni funeral education, first car, first house, weddings, grandchildren being born

Any other things you’ve had financial help with, or hope to help support your dc with

Had driving lessons paid for but didn’t drive for 10 years

My parents paid for me to have driving lessons & go to private school. I inherited £10k in my 20s & lent it to my dad.

We’ve paid school fees. driving lessons & rent at university. I have subsequently inherited more money & divided it between my children. Not life changing amounts but more help to them than me.

Had driving lessons paid for, my parents paid my rent and student loan at university and contributed towards my (inexpensive) wedding. They didn’t help with house deposit but have been good at buying bits and pieces for the house and children (utensils, clothes and books etc). They did help me loads when I was homeless temporarily after leaving ExH.

I would like to help the children with driving lessons and the cost of university and with what I can towards a house deposit. I am slowly building up a savings account for these. I suspect ExH will not be able to help them as money runs through his hands like water.

This is the third thread you've started about money in the last couple of hours. Perhaps cut back to 2 holidays a year or get a job if money is on your mind this much.

I’ve had no financial help apart from DM & DF buying the pram when I had DS, and I never expected it, unlike my enititled DBro who wanted everything given to him on a plate.

School fees, then when I had a breakdown and needed to be hospitalized dad paid for me to be put into a private psych ward. He paid for me to go to university (twice) and then I got my deposit from my first house as inheritance from my grandad.

Financial support when I was too unwell to work in my twenties and then needed to retrain because my original career wasn't possible with my MH worries. He also gave me a lump sum when I was on maternity and has offered to pay for school fees for DCs and does pay for DN's school fees.

Having said that, when he was unwell and needed looking after, DSis and I took it in turns to go home every weekend to look after him, batch cook, check that everything was OK. When our DGF was unwell, he didn't go into a home - he moved in with us. When MiL was terminally ill, DH and I took unpaid leave from work and nursed her until the end. We both come from families who believe in sticking together rather than proving yourself as an individual.

I intend to help my DCs as much as I can, and I hope they'll repay the favor. I love being part of a really close tight knit family and I really want that to continue through the generations.

When I went to uni it was ‘free’ (Ireland) although you did have a registration fee (approx €800 per year) I usually paid that myself as I worked every summer and every weekend throughout uni. My parents paid for my accommodation fees (4000 per year) and I paid my own food, travel etc.

They gave approx 5k towards our wedding.

We bought our first house ourselves and second house off profits from first.

DH’s parents are very kind (and well off)and have set up quite hefty trust funds for each of our children so I won’t need to provide for their university fees and house deposits because of that (I’m am sooooo thankful every day for this!!)

£30 a week while I was at Uni from my dad to help with bills. Nothing else. I've got a savings account for my daughter.

Why do you need to know what happens in other families?

None, we did it all ourselves.

I'd help mine with education or a house deposit but wouldn't pay for a wedding. Waste of money most of it.

Why do you want to know? Are you writing an article?

Care to share how much help you’ve had?

Nothing financial given. My mother "taught" me to drive herself using her own car, then I paid for my own handful of lessons just before the test to fine tune the test requirements. My parents gave me a loan to buy my first car, but I had to pay them back. I didn't go to university, I paid for my own professional courses which I did part time, out of my wage. I lived at home (paying rent for my room) so I could save up the deposit for my first house. I'd say my parents "facilitated" me to do things for myself, earn my own money etc, rather than just giving me money for things.

I got a grand for my 18th and same again when I got married. Bought my pram when I had my son. 2.5k towards my husband’s funeral. Moved out at 17, no help towards living costs, uni fees etc. Paid for my own driving lessons. Son has a decent sized trust fund from his dads pension, I will pay for his driving lessons but that’s it. My funeral is already paid for and I have no mortgage so should anything happen to me he’ll be set up for life.

Nothing. No driving lessons, wedding cash, house deposits or lump sums here - we both left home after GCSE’s and have worked for every single thing we have.

We hope to be able to let our children live at home as long for as they need and gift them a house deposit each, however that won’t be until they’re at least 25 and with suitable legal protection in place so the money can’t be lost to a relationship break-up.

Some financial help at uni (I went before uni fees existed and worked). I lived at home rent-free in the holidays but moved out as soon as I finished uni.
No help with first car, but my driving lessons were paid for (I was 17).
Significant help with first house (and in fact second house, when we moved to a bigger place).
Split the cost of the wedding between my parents and me/DH (DH's parents also contributed a bit).

Planning to do similar for my DC, except that I expect they will need more help during uni.

They bought my stuff for uni like bedding, stationery, some new clothes etc. They came to visit every few weeks (I was only an hour away) and bought lunch. However nothing big such as rent or anything.

I then lived with them for a while in early twenties, paid them rent but not as much as I would pay in my own place.

However their time and emotional support was paramount. Would rather than than anything else.

Had driving lessons and then recently inherited a lot from a grandparent which helped us to buy a house I am incredibly lucky and feel eternally grateful.

When you post your details I may possibly post mine (abridged) but why are you asking for info are you working for a newspaper or something?

Oh and course I'll help my adult children when they get there. As best as any parent would I'm sure!

Not sure what a uni funeral education is OP.

a lot (to me) and i'm forever grateful as i know they saved hard for the future.

we did have quite a budget childhood and i remember desperately wanting nike things and addidas stuff and nicely decorated house (ours was scruffy, tatty, cheap furniture like the other kids but glad they didnt splurge.

a brand new polo for me and my sister to share.
when i was at uni, they helped with living costs.
they gave me £10k for post grad study to cover fees and living so i didnt have to take out another loan (the had a policy mature so avail. funds).

when i went to travel, they gave me £600 to boost the money i'd saved.

i didnt get any money for a house deposit (they'd given me post grad££ after all) but they gave me a £5k wedding present and £1k for each child's bank accounts when they were born.

they gave me £6k to go towards decorating and bathroom which needed replacing.

every birthday i get £200
at christmas about £400.

a couple of times a year, i get random texts saying they've put money into my bank account. eg £150 to help with childcare, at one point nursery was £1.4k pcm.

i think they like to help as they feel we are in a very expensive area in terms of housing, council tax and nursery costs and DH works very long hours with an expensive commute and his bonkers tax/ni means the earning whilst above average, doesnt go as far and we get no child benefit.

i want to help children with uni, not paying for it, they'll have to loan some of the cost and help with house deposit.

i work 4 days now and so want to start saving £300 ish a month now to help our children have a decent standard of living when they are 20-28.

Nothing apart from driving lessons, my parents are pretty tight with money, my dad's dad lent them £150k to buy a house outright 20 years ago, no way would my parents do this for me and I know they could easily afford it. I will give my children anything as long as I can afford it.

My parents allowed me to live at home for very little (they didn't react Mr to pay anything but DB and I both insisted on something as they aren't hugely well off) after uni so I could save a deposit. They've contributed bits and pieces, eg a laptop for uni (I paid my own rent, fees and living costs) , they paid the legal fees when I bought my first flat on my own (about £1000) and DF bought my sofa for my flat. DM bought sofas and DF dining furniture for our first house as a couple. They bought my veil and shoes and came with us long haul for our wedding. They've just paid for the furniture for the nursery (about £700). I paid for my own driving lessons (although used some birthday money towards them) own cars, house deposits etc.
My parents are working class and have worked hard and saved all their lives they've helped where they can and I'm hugely grateful for that. DM will also be looking after DS one day a week when I go back to work as well MIL which will save us a fortune our local nursery is £80 a day.

None - my family were unable to help due to their own financial situation.
DH's family gifted us £2000 towards a wedding and also gave us a few hundred when expecting first DC.
Hope to be able to help child (fingers crossed more than one but we shall see what the future holds!) with house deposits. If we do only have one child I would seriously consider private schooling for secondary too but would be beyond our means if we have another.