To tell PIL we can’t stay again unless they buy a new mattress?

[HenweeArcher]

Talk about first world problem, I know

Currently staying with PIL for the weekend. We get on really well and they love having us and spending time with baby DS. DH was up early (5) for work and then drove us all here (a few hours away) and DS isn’t the best sleeper so we all came to bed at about 8 (we’re early bedtime people anyway - PIL know this and are fine with it) but DH has barely slept and I am yet to actually sleep. The spare bed has always been on the firm side but for some reason it is now horrendously hard. I might as well be sleeping on the floor. Add to that the fact it’s a small double so hard to feed DS comfortably (and he’s used to co-sleeping part of the night), makes a noise every time I roll over (which I am doing relentlessly) and it’s hotter than the sun itself in this bedroom! I am feeling thoroughly grumpy!

PIL are very hospitable and wonderful and I would feel so rude mentioning it but I actually don’t think I would come again if I knew I had to sleep like this

gettinglike... could be they don’t want guests to stay really

I hate staying in anyone else’s home family or friends and truthfully I don’t really like them staying with me either though no issues as I have enough daughters to fill the bedrooms lol.
Always do hotels and pay for hotels for people visiting as it’s far easier for me.

I don’t think you should ask them to buy a new mattress. Either buy a mattress topper yourself or book into a hotel next time.

Well the first thing DH did this morning was go into PIL bedroom and complain (tactful!)

Bit rude

I cant imagine my adult children not saying to me “mum that spare bed is bloody awful, we barely sleep” nor can I am aging not saying “well you can always stay at the holiday inn” ... and there being no embarrassment or awkwardness from either party.

I sometimes think that the parent/children relationships on MN are so formal.

“have enough daughters to fill the bedrooms lol.”
Had you noticed that the person complaining to the hosts was their son?

I can't see why this has to be a 'thing'.

I wouldn't think twice about saying, 'that bed is so uncomfortable!'. Also I would turn off the heating, crack the window open a smidge and stop going to bed at 8pm.

It’s a “thing” because the word “in law” was mentioned. Some posters immediately jump to one of two conclusions -either the in laws are providing an uncomfortable mattress deliberately to show their contempt for the OP or she should use it as the excuse she needs to never see them again ever!
*Nobody actually said either of these things. I am using my mind reading skills for comic effect.

Exactly what I was thinking Mayrhofen!

I don't see anything wrong at all with a son telling his parents, tactfully, that he and his wife struggled to sleep due to the small bed/uncomfortable mattress - if he knows his parents can easily afford to update/upgrade and enjoy hosting.

Glad your DH brought it up OP and PIL were fine with it.

We went a bit crazy for our very firm spare bed and got a 3 inch mattress topper, then it was too soft! Get a 1 or 2 inch mattress topper today, it costs about £25. Guests can then adjust the bed to suit their preferences and it's not expensive.