Genuinely curious--photo of bedroom without permission?

[Waytooearly]

I'm staying in a long-let airbnb while completing on new home.

It's a home share, separate bedrooms and shared bathroom and kitchen.

There are photos of all rooms online (relevant).

I got home last night from a run and the letting agent was showing some people around. She had given notice, that's all fine, a few people peeked in my room whilst I was in and out, taking off trainers and making supper.

One guy took his phone filming a panorama video of my room. Right in front of me. I was so surprised that I blurted out, 'No, this is my bedroom, please don't.'

To be fair to him he stopped immediately, just saying 'no? OK.'

But the letting agent and other people looked shocked.

No one said anything else and I went off to the kitchen.

No trying to cause a bun fight, but am I now old and out of touch? (48) Whatever happened to at least a cursory request for permission? Is there just a rebuttable presumption that EVERYTHING is okay to photograph now?

To be clear, the bed was made but there were clothes and work papers and other personal things around. If he'd asked I'd have said okay, maybe just cleared away my pyjamas and the work-related stuff.

To clarify I don't think he was being creepy. He is considering moving into the room. Just incredibly thoughtless.

I think he definitely should have asked and maybe if he'd explained that he would be sharing the room with his girlfriend so wanted to show her, for example, I'd have let him but asked that it didn't go online.

He was thoughtless and should have asked permission first. YWNBU to say no if you had personal items out that you didn't want filmed. Were the others shocked that you'd said no, or shocked that he was filming? I wouldn't want my personal things filmed, even if it was for the person's own perusal.

Agree he should’ve asked - we’ve just sold our flat and a couple of viewers that came round asked if they could take their own photos and we didn’t mind (we wanted them to buy it after all!) but I’d have been a bit if they’d done it without asking when I was right there.

Maybe he had asked permission of the letting agent?

It wasn't the letting agent's pyjamas on the bed.

YANBU!

URG I'd have been miffed too. Definitely should have asked permission, that's your room, your stuff, your privacy. What a batshit thing to do.

People were filming a poor woman who went into labour in public at a train station last week. So your PJ's wouldn't be viewed as off limits.

News Flash: People Suck 😶

No need to record anything if photos online.

“Long term Airbnb” sounds like a convenient way to get round registering as an HMO tbh so who knows what your legal rights are but I think you are not unreasonable to not allow filming - in fact they shouldn’t have been in your room at all.

TrollQueen - and an awful accident in Dublin. The victim's family allegedly found out from them before the Gardai could notify them.

Photos can be deceiving about scale eg depending on what type of lens is used so I do think a video is different from a photograph. Honestly, if I'd known a letting agent was showing people round, I wouldn't have left personal stuff lying around. I'd think the room would be left ready for viewing so if people wanted to video it would be ok.

I wouldn't rent anywhere without being able to take my own photos and video - they're essential for comparing multiple properties and showing anyone who is helping you make your choice. Letting agent photos are notoriously shite.

I would ask permission first though so YANBU about that.

Are there locks on each room door?

Yeah.

YANBU, not asking permission when you were right there is intrusive but you’ve called it correctly, filming anything, even fatal accidents, seems to be fair game for some.

Excellent use of rebuttable btw 😁

Until the most recent time I was house-hunting (when it came up in conversation) it wouldn't have occurred to me that this could be an issue, and it wouldn't bother me at all if someone took pictures of a room I was currently renting. Now I know it's an issue, so I would always ask first, but I still can't really understand why anyone would care

I would have asked, but I would have been a bit taken aback if you'd said no (though I would of course have stopped immediately and without question). You knew a load of strangers were seeing the room - I can't see a massive difference between a stranger seeing it and a stranger photographing it? I sympathise with it not being very nice having to endure viewings as a tenant - I remember once the new people viewing clearly didn't realise I was in as they were walking around making fun of all our stuff - but to me the (unavoidable) intrusion is them being there, not them taking a photograph or video.

I was just saying maybe he thought he had permission from the letting agent.

Very discourteous - even if the letting agent had told him it was okay, as long as you are paying the rent, this is your private space, and common courtesy demands that you are consulted.

Cheeky fucker. He could have just taken a still photo. And yes, he should have asked.

He could have just taken a still photo.

I honestly can't see what difference that makes? Not trying to start an argument, I just can't see why one's ok and one isn't?

What flori says
That's so cheeky.

OP should have locked her room.