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Genuinely curious--photo of bedroom without permission?

37 replies

Waytooearly · 25/01/2019 15:48

I'm staying in a long-let airbnb while completing on new home.

It's a home share, separate bedrooms and shared bathroom and kitchen.

There are photos of all rooms online (relevant).

I got home last night from a run and the letting agent was showing some people around. She had given notice, that's all fine, a few people peeked in my room whilst I was in and out, taking off trainers and making supper.

One guy took his phone filming a panorama video of my room. Right in front of me. I was so surprised that I blurted out, 'No, this is my bedroom, please don't.'

To be fair to him he stopped immediately, just saying 'no? OK.'

But the letting agent and other people looked shocked.

No one said anything else and I went off to the kitchen.

No trying to cause a bun fight, but am I now old and out of touch? (48) Whatever happened to at least a cursory request for permission? Is there just a rebuttable presumption that EVERYTHING is okay to photograph now?

To be clear, the bed was made but there were clothes and work papers and other personal things around. If he'd asked I'd have said okay, maybe just cleared away my pyjamas and the work-related stuff.

OP posts:
SoupDragon · 25/01/2019 17:26

OP should have locked her room.

During a pre-arranged viewing of the property? How would that work then?

DonCorleoneTheThird · 25/01/2019 17:27

I would have assumed that you were happy with the state of the room and would have hidden all personal stuff before a viewing.

Once properties are opened to viewing, I don't consider them private as such, sorry. I was a bit shocked when I recorded people opening all my drawers and cupboards when they were viewing the property I was selling, the furniture not being part of the sale for a start!, but taking photos is fair game.

nicoala1 · 25/01/2019 17:30

Unlock door if/when asked to do so.

It is not clear if the viewers were looking to rent OP's room anyway.

Waytooearly · 25/01/2019 17:33

They were looking specifically at my room to rent, when I move out. Otherwise why would I be letting them in to look?

OP posts:
WinnieFosterTether · 25/01/2019 17:35

OP says he was considering moving into her room.

nicoala1 · 25/01/2019 17:35

OK that clears that up.

BoomBoomsCousin · 25/01/2019 17:39

It probably wouldn’t have occurred to they should ask in that situation - my expectation of people coming to look around a place they’re going to let/buy would be that they’d want to take photos and I’d need to remove anything I didn’t want other people seeing or recording. And I think I’d assume I could take photos if I was looking round too.

BoomBoomsCousin · 25/01/2019 17:40

*occurred to me that...

Wholovesorangesoda · 25/01/2019 17:53

I would probably have asked out of courtesy and have done in the past, but I wouldn't have thought taking photos/videos would be an issue either. I'd also have removed any personal items I didn't want anyone to see, in which case it wouldn't have been an issue. If the problem is they're taking photos/videos and your personal items are in view, why does it matter about the photos etc but it's ok for them to be seen in person?! If it's the fact he was taking photos or videos, I also dont really get the problem as they are looking to possibly rent it, so they probably do want videos of it "in person" to refer back to. So...even if they hadn't asked I might have thought they were a bit rude but wouldn't have stopped them

SchadenfreudePersonified · 26/01/2019 10:36

I was a bit shocked when I recorded people opening all my drawers and cupboards

Cheeky sods!

Shock
FullOfJellyBeans · 26/01/2019 11:06

Meh I don't think I'd care. He was looking around anyway so would see your PJ's on the bed etc. he probably just wanted to show his girlfriend or someone who wasn't there.

FullOfJellyBeans · 26/01/2019 11:06

People opening drawers etc is not OK though.

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