Am I too young to get married?

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Name changed so it's not linked to my other threads. Not looking for any nasty comments.

I'm 19, DP is 21. We have a toddler together and have been together for 3.5 years (a bit rocky until we had DS but we (he) completely grew up).
I just love our little family. Each to their own and some people see it as such a negative to settle down so young or say you're 'missing out' on stuff like travelling etc, but I couldn't imagine my life any better than it is.

I'd love to get married. Maybe not right now but I'm thinking in about a year! We have an incredibly strong relationship and good communication, a child together, a home, the only factor that makes it 'not the right time' is our age, I suppose. I'm not interested in a big, fancy wedding do (so we wouldn't be forking out a ton of money!)
DM looks at me like I'm crazy every time I bring up the concept of marriage. We openly discuss careers, running a home, plans in getting a mortgage, other children, but when marriage gets brought up with her, I feel like she looks at me like I'm a 14 year old saying I want to get married to a boyfriend of 3 weeks!

Am I too young? Is everyone going to look at us like we are crazy if we consider it - and should that even matter to us?

It’s not the age, it’s the person. I was 23 when I married my XH. The problems we had weren’t caused by my age - they were caused by the fact we were totally incompatible —because he is a twat—

DP? I could have married him at 16 and been happy forever because we fit like Lego.

My final thought is that you're going to get a lot of confirmation bias on a thread like this.

So better to travel with someone you love than with some otter random. You're experiences will not necessarily be the same anyway as you already have a child. That's not necessarily a bad thing either. No reason why you can bring them along to enjoy all these other experiences that people your age enjoy. Get married so you have security, it'll push you to follow through and really test things when the going gets tough. The idea her is to stay married assuming there's no abuse etc. You're not missing out on anything in my opinion. You can still have a great career whilst married and travel etc, but you will just have to prioritise the order you do things in.

Not too young for many, for some marrying in their late 20s is too young. You observe your future DH has 'grown up' in your words, so probably OK.

I was 23 when I got married. I think it's pretty bloody obvious that those who marry younger are more likely to get divorced because they live longer on average too...! My opinion is that you need to both be committed to it - I'm worried that you say things are rocky. But ultimately we got older, we changed but we grew together and closer over the next 20 years. It hasn't always been perfect but we've always been committed to each other completely. I really can't imagine my life without him, he's been there for my full adulthood.