My DS15 hates going to his dads and I don't know what to do

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My DS 15 has gone to his dads every other weekend from the age of 2 (when we split) until now. He is now saying he hates going, it's boring, there is no WIFI?!

I think he needs to go anyway even if it's boring, it's his dad and he needs to keep in touch. His dad is a nice bloke.

I just feel so awkward with DDS moaning about staying with us at a weekend and his dad texting me asking if there is a problem? I do tell DS that he needs text his dad but he also feels guilty. So it is me left with having to explain why he doesn't want to go.

I'm hoping for nice replies as we have a good relationship, I just think it's teenagers that are difficult!

I’m wondering how your ex has been a father for 15 years yet seems to know nothing about teenagers.

And why it’s your job to teach him by explaining carefully and Apologising for your son.

I think he needs to go anyway even if it's boring, it's his dad and he needs to keep in touch. His dad is a nice bloke

His dad actually sounds like a bit of a selfish bloke tbh from what else you’ve said.

"at 15 he should be able to drop in to his dad's when he wants."

Absolutely.

Is your ex working away? Everyother weekend, when he's so local and the age your DS is, isn't good enough, unless there's a real reason for it.

Tbh, I've seen Women try to be the solver of this issue, but it needs to come from the other Parent, after being told that the child wants to scale back contact.

Do they have a good relationship or do they just sit in silence for the weekend doing not a lot? I like the idea of no Wifi but I kind of imagine the kind of person who chose this would be into wholesome activities like taking their son on bike rides, camping and fishing adventures which doesn't sound like it is the case!!

At 15 your son needs to explain exactly why he won't go. It is not up to you to make excuses for him. It is then up to his Dad to resolve the situation and maybe try harder with your son.

Sounds like his df thinks time at home just being together is enough. Your son needs to tell him otherwise.