I'm very very lucky to have a wonderful dh (blech, I know that sounds twee) and after completing our family I had a copper IUD fitted. Twelve months down the line and I'm having horrendous pains, next level bleeding and it's just not working for me at all.
I've had the pill, the implant, the injection, used condoms and tbh our second dc was the failure of the pill and a map (wouldn't swap them for the world though and pleased it work out that way).
Dh has said that he will have a vasectomy and to get my iud out (obviously after testing etc has come back all clear).
He suggested it and I have asked him if he's 100% sure, he has assured me that this is what he wants to do.
He had an appointment at the doctor's today and they actually tried to dissuade him saying if we divorced and met someone else would he not want to start a new family with them (a whole other thread in itself 
, though I know they have to be thorough) and now he is waiting for a referral.
He is happy with his decision, we have our two kids, I am certain I do not want anymore as does he, we have a good life and a comfortable income, but why do I feel guilty he's doing this? It all feels a bit final and even though I didn't suggest it, or encourage it, it feels like it's all because of my issues with contraception. I even felt weird making the phonecall to book the appointment for him as if by doing it I was forcing it upon him. Daft, I know!
I know that I should be pleased dh is happy to do this and it feels like the right decision but I can't help wonder that, because contraception is so weighted to the female that I actual feel some sort of warped guilt for it.
I know I'm being silly but why do I feel so guilty?