To tip of this mum that her ex posts her texts on fb?

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Old friend of mine, not a new thing that he complains about his daughters mum but he's up to it again.

Posting screenshots of their conversation with her full name for all his friends to see and then slagging her off.

I don't think she's being unreasonable he's basically asked to have his daughter for extra time and she's said no, then explained how he gets the fun quality time at the weekend and she gets all the day to day stuff

I'm thinking.. maybe she should know about this? Maybe it's just in dv court cases but i know in some instances this could be illegal or defamation..

He's taking with friends saying she needs sectioning and other things

I'd ask her if she knows he's doing it.

I would definitely tell her, he is well out of order there.

I would tell her.

I don't know her at all btw.. but wary of getting involved in some big drama but I just feel bad that this stuff is being shared and stuff being said when her full name is there too

Don’t get involved

Tell her if you want to, but make sure you've cropped any images so that you can't be identified by your friend list. She can pop on to AIBU to ask what she could or couldn't do with the information as a separate question. It's kind of nice when somebody lets everyone know so publicly that they're a prize knob though, gives clarity for other friends.

Whether or not I'd tell her I do think he should be called out on his behaviour. He probably thinks that he's presenting his view point and might not have any idea of how much of a dick he's coming across. Maybe if enough people point it out to him he'll back off.

Definitely tell her, he's a total twat and he'll be making her feel guilty, this will hopefully remove any guilt she may have felt!

Yeah.. it's a difficult one..

He's done it before and I kind of ignored it but it feels like it's crossing a line now. To share messages with all your friends and then make those comments I highly doubt she knows he's doing that

But If I told her it could probably upset her and start off a big thing?! And I'd have to say don't tell him it's me.. what if she told him?

I'd need to do some detective work to find her profile

He sounds like an arse, call him out on his stupid behaviour on fb, hopefully others will agree.

I've messaged the most likely looking profile so far to enquire if they're the right person.. struck me that she might not even be on fb

Tell her if you can

What if it has big repurcussions or causes a big argument though.. he's just had a baby with new gf so may be a sensitive time

What if it has big repurcussions or causes a big argument though.. he's just had a baby with new gf so may be a sensitive time*

Well he should have considered the repercussions from his actions before he behaved like a prize cunt.

Personally, I am a coward so I would have created a fake FB account and then sent them to her from that

But you are doing the right thing in telling her, if that is what you decide

That's a good idea.. maybe i should use a fake account.. worried about it coming back on me as he's quite vocal and aggressive about it all

Oh bollocks I can't do that if I've already messaged the correct woman

My ex did this to me, someone told me what he was doing. All our texts proved was how uncooperative and vicious he was, and how fed up I was.
I told him that I'd been tipped off and that Id be asking for police advice about it (they'd already paid him a visit due to threatening texts previously)
He stopped doing it immediately

This really is cowardly, vile behaviour and Ive no doubt this guys new girlfriend will get the same treatment eventually.

Given the recent defamation case poste don here (woman said ex had strangled her, he claims defamation, she’s having to pay 200k court costs) I’d say tell her. He sounds like a twat but could probably do without the 200k potential court fees.

Ok I'm sure I have the right person but they've not replied yet.

I feel bad about potentially upsetting them as I know how it feels when you find out what your ex has been saying

I would want to know. What a nob.

Tell her. And your ‘friend’ is a prick. Let me tell you, he will have slagged you off behind your back too - obviously in his nature to be nasty. Find better friends. Don’t give a shit what he thinks.