To tip of this mum that her ex posts her texts on fb?

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Old friend of mine, not a new thing that he complains about his daughters mum but he's up to it again.

Posting screenshots of their conversation with her full name for all his friends to see and then slagging her off.

I don't think she's being unreasonable he's basically asked to have his daughter for extra time and she's said no, then explained how he gets the fun quality time at the weekend and she gets all the day to day stuff

I'm thinking.. maybe she should know about this? Maybe it's just in dv court cases but i know in some instances this could be illegal or defamation..

What did you say in the message?

I'm going to go against the grain here and say they are both being unreasonable

I think they are both being unreasonable, her for complaining that he gets all the fun stuff and she gets all the day to day stuff...yet if she would allow him more access, he would get to have all the day to day stuff too...she can't say no and then complain about it

And he is unreasonable for posting the texts publically on social media and airing his business online...but then again maybe he might be feeling frustrated ( about her complaining that he gets all the fun weekend stuff and she gets all the day to day stuff...yet she won't let him experience the day to day stuff with more access, so how can she complain at him about not doing something when she wont allow him to)

I would tell her and then I would dump the loser friend.

Tell her. And your ‘friend’ is a prick. Let me tell you, he will have slagged you off behind your back too - obviously in his nature to be nasty. Find better friends.

^This

Well i don't know the full story obviously but found his last rant about her, with messages again and he's talking about her lying in court and making up stuff., he's very much fathers for justice, complaining about csa type

Atm I've just messaged her saying this is pit of the blue and may be wrong person but do you have an ex called * *

I'm not sure where the police stand on things like this I know courts take a very dim view .. if I was her I'd want to know.. but maybe he has a right to vent?

To the pp saying she's unreasonable that's neither here nor there IMO.. it's posting their conversation with her full name and then saying she needs sectioning etc that I think is out of order

Venting on Facebook putting all of her details out there is purely for spite. Usually this level of rage is spewed out by lying, controlling types

There are also children who will be affected by the permanent evidence of the fights between their parents.

If I were her I would want to know.

@SuchAToDo I assumed he was asking for every weekend instead of alternate weekends which would make more sense.

And I'd have to say don't tell him it's me.. what if she told him?

So what?

Why do you refer to him as a friend? Why not call him out and bin him off as a "friend"? What is stopping you doing this?

Tell her and stand up and be counted if he does find out its you. If more people did that instead of playing nice to his face then he wouldnt do it.

What a pig. Thank you for caring about this woman. Are you screenshooting the messages for her? It could be useful. Good luck on speaking to her.

The bit I don't understand is how you are seeing these messages. Are you "friends" with him? Why?! Either delete him or call him out on it. These things only work if others collude. You are kind of colluding by watching and doing nothing.

I think as you don't even know if you've messaged the right woman. You clearly aren't friends with her (or even know her very well) I would keep out of it.

My ex used to do that. Not really much I could do to stop it. He even posted inappropriate photos of the dc's on facebook. I complained to facebook because it was children involved, but nothing was done. Best this woman can do is go NC so there are no texts to post.

I think you are doing the right thing by letting her know x

So you hardly know him at all, and do not know her, but somehow you think you can seek some weird justice in this. Who are you to judge the whole story? Just remove him as a friend and stay out of it. You do not know what harm you may be doing. You sound like someone wanting to interfere to get praise or attention.

Why not just tell your “friend” that you think he’s being a dick?

I’m not condoning his behaviour but acting as though you are his friend and then tracking down his ex-partner behind his back to tell her what he’s posting is also a pretty shit thing to do.

I don't know her and he's a Facebook friend.. we used to do a hobby together a few years ago, we have a lot of mutual friends and I don't want to start a big drama

Your friend is the one starting the drama imo.
You've already started the ball rolling by messaging who you suspect his ex is, so I would leave it at that for now. I couldn't be his friend after this though. Hes clearly a nasty piece of work.