To think it’s relaly not nice to post unflattering photos of others on fb

[LardLizard]

A friend has been tagged in on a awful photo, by her sister
This friend is one of those people that does always like to post nice photos of herself and others
She gets a good angle etc and and does post a lot
Anyway her sister has posted a photo of her
Looking awful, face all screwed up so she looks wrinkled and old and she’s not
Sweating and pulling a dreadful face
With a comment about auntie drinking on duty.....
Friend jut replied With thanks for this awful photo of me
I’d just changed a horrendous nappy and needed a drink
So I think she may me upset

Then the girls dad chimes in that friend was being a good auntie doing the horrible nappy and looking after the baby during the lunch
You can clearly see friend is trying to eat lunch in said awful photo whilst holding the baby too
Her sisters baby

It’s like some people woke delight in finding an awful photos and get some sort of enjoyment out of embarrassing the personninguess
Just seems so bitchy
Esp when your sister is clearly looking after your baby at a family gathering during lunch

I always cringe when you see photos where the poster look fabulous but it’s a terrible photo of their friends and they’ve tagged them in it. Real friends don’t do that.

It’s not very nice though I suppose not the end of the world. Actually a friend of mine stopped speaking to her bridesmaid as she took photographs of the bride getting ready and posted a photo of her getting into her dress...she was wearing massive nude coloured Spanx and was utterly mortified

I agree OP. Some people like making others feel like shit to make themselves feel better. I would put money on the Sister being a less attractive, less confident/successful sibling of your friend and this is how she tries to 'one-up' her! Jealous biatches!! (yes I have had this done to me and it sucks) Hugs to your friend

This is why I have my settings so that people can't tag me in or write on my wall without approval. They can actually write or tag and then I get a notification and it won't post until I click saying it can. Highly recommend this.

Yeah I've had friends do this. I'm extremely self conscious of my appearance anyway and hate being tagged in photos where I look horrible. I always think it's a really bitchy move.

Yeah some people do it on purpose, they know it’s a bad picture of their friend but usually the poster of the photo is in it too and, of course, looks good. Wanky thing to do.

I've had to ban my dad's partner from doing this

she is lovely, but is the kind of person who facebooks her breakfast

I haven't been able to stop her posting dreadful mugshots of me, but she has stopped tagging me. So at least people I like don't have to look at them.

I too have my settings set so that I approve every tag before anyone on my friends list sees. It’s the smartest thing I’ve ever done on FB.

In your friend’s case the photo would still be on her sisters wall but at least not on her own wall.

Deliberately posting an unflattering photo of someone else is such a nasty thing to do.

I went on holiday with a friend and a friend of hers. The friends-of-a-friend is a keen photographer and took photos of everything... When she posted candid photos of me on the beach in my swim suit I cried, they were so unflattering. I don't think she meant it maliciously but she just likes taking photos and didn't really think I wouldn't be so pleased with the photos being online.

I do have the Facebook setting where things don't post on my wall until I've approved them... But that didn't stop them being visible to all of her friends.

My sister always post awful, awful photos of me on fb whilst putting up endless flattering, glamorous pics of herself Drives me mad!

my sister does this to me too - i did it to her once, she never did it again.

Glad it’s just not me being over sensitive, I’d actually say her sister is prettier but perhaps she’s envious for other reasons
Seems like their dad has her number though

One person I used to know as well posted a horrible pic of a bride on her hen night, she was a larger lady and photo taken from side while she was sitting down eatting so looked awful mouthful of food etc
The bride to be replied oh what an awful photo worha sad face and the poster replied oh I like it with a 😂face
Why would you spoil someone’s special occasion like that
It seemed a bit fat shaming somehow

I thought even if you had tag review it will still show up in your friends news feed just not on your wall

Isnt it massively subjective though? I've had friends ask me to take photos down which I genuinely thought they looked lovely in! And I've had friends ask for photos putting up that I thought they looked bad in

She can remove the tag so it doesn't appear in her feed/ profile if that helps.

What a mean thing to do.

It’s sad people care so much what they look like in a fb pic.

I’d have far more respect for someone who was ok with having hideous pics of themselves online (and probably also posts them themselves if it’s going to get a laugh) than someone who needs to look perfect all the time. It screams insecurity.

I agree with ribbons. I've had people ask me to remove pics of them because they had a slight double chin but what I saw was a lovely pic of them laughing. I think it's a bit of a shame that people only want pics of themselves looking perfect. I mean if it's really awful and looks nothing like them then fair enough. Personally I dont care if i look less than perfect in pics. It's usually because I'm pulling a stupid face or whatever. It's nice to look back at funny pics I think.

I have far more respect for people asking the photo subject if they can post said photo on FB.
Not everyone wants their photo plastered all over FB.

@ribbonsonabox I totally agree. People don’t like the photos of themselves that they look best in. They like the ones where they look slim and stylish and their good physical features are apparent. But the genuinely good ones are the joyful ones where you are doing something silly or laughing or smiling and showing some personality

I have a friend who never smiles in photos. She is such a lovely person but honestly in group photos she looks like a miserable bitch who has come along to ruin everyone’s day. It’s a running joke now.

A relative of mine has a picture of me, in swimwear, weeks after giving birth, as one of the permanent pictures at the top of her page. I literally don't know why you would do that to a person. I'm too much if a wuss to say anything but I hate it.

It's horrible. A friend put some up of me deliberately that were awful from years ago because she thought it would be funny. I rarely use FB anyway and even more rarely post photos of myself on any social media. I sent her a polite PM asking her to take them down and she just sent one back saying "Nope, tough, I like them".

Seems to be a fairly common thing then eh

Just thought what A piss taker espnad her sister was clearly helping her with her baby during a family meal which adds to the cheekiness

This is why I have my settings so that people can't tag me in or write on my wall without approval

It also stops people tagging you in that “post your five favourite book covers/albums/images of motherhood” nonsense that comes around so regularly.

I have someone who does this, if you comment, it's all "but I love this photo of you, you look fantastic" when it's genuinely the most unflattering pic ever. It's very difficult to argue without looking like a narcissistic twat.