Goodness me! <fans self>

[NoMoreMarbles]

It's not an AIBU but...

I'm married and all...

I work in a very male-centric environment and there's a new manager who started a week or so ago and oh sweet Moses he's beautiful!

Tall (6 feet plus region) slim but well built, dark hair, brown eyes

I'm all a-flutter like some sort of damsel and I've got to be professional (he's one of my main stakeholders!) so need an outlet...

Anyone fancy joining me in some entirely lighthearted, slightly objectifying, appreciation of the opposite sex?

Are you American OP?

What a bizarre and slightly creepy thread.

No why would I be American from my post?

Creepy? Why? Genuinely asking...

If a man had posted a similar thread directed at a woman, would you find it creepy?

Not really... have you never seen someone who you thought was good looking in your life? I'm not wolf whistling at him in the corridors...

It just read like a southern american drawl to me.

Sweet moses and all!
Y'know?

I have a bit of a man crush on my manager. He has the most beautiful eyes that make me go gooey.
I’m married but I can look and enjoy. Would never tell him or act on it of course but he is utterly lovely!

I expect the sweet Moses reference was to signal lightheartedness?

Nope... funnily enough though I was laughing at myself earlier for basically stumbling through my conversation with the new guy and running off and I imagined it all in my head as a much much less graceful gone with the wind situation so southern not that far off haha

Oh yes i know it was. It was just a question. I just wondered if OP was american.

Lol I also read this in a southern American accent!

My ex boss, spends his days in breeches and riding boots...swoon

I used to think of Michael Praed like that, but he's left the romantic light and shadows of Sherwood Forest and now he's plodding about in Emmerdale.

I'll join in.

Not sure what's up with all the Pearl clutchers above

I do think this is a bit creepy and objectifying. I guess that’s mitigated by the fact that it’s anonymous but it still weirds me out.

Partly why I literally said slightly objectifying in my OP though to be fair... still not sold on the creepy bit but you're entitled to your opinion...

It's been many many years since I had anything resembling a crush! I remember meeting someone when I was on a night out (pre-DH) and it was a total over the top swoon moment and it still mortifies me 15 or so years later!

We had a problem with heating/air con at my workplace just before Christmas. The guy from the company that deals with our issues is quite ruggedly handsome (and built like a brick shit house). Seeing him just sends me into teenage girl mode. But on this occasion it was a very wet and blustery evening he came out. Shamelessly said to my colleague I would offer to wrap my legs around his neck to keep him warm!
I pray to be in work when the system is due for a service

@Lovebeingmama exactly... that's what I mean... can look but it's not something I would act in a zillion years on plus I'm not exactly super-model-esque and doubt very much that he's writing the male version of this about me elsewhere

@CrazedWaitress all of my previous jobs have been almost exclusively women with the odd man dotted here and there so it's been a bit of a culture shock to be managing 130 men now... my other clients/stakeholders on my site are in general a lot older than me or women so the new guy is quite a surprise!

I’m also married and my husband is lovely and gorgeous and I’d never do anything but a good friend of mine she is extremely beautiful and I’d have to be devoid of feelings not to realise it.

As people often say I’m married not dead. It’s only when it becomes more than a harmless attraction that it’s a problem

Nothing wrong with appreciating a good looking man (or woman)! Not creepy at all. Enjoy OP

Finding someone attractive is "objectifying" them? FFS. How utterly ridiculous.

My thoughts exactly @FirmlyRooted

he's definitely a marvel to behold though!

I'm sort of secretly hoping he's a bit of a wet lettuce to take the shine off a little bit... being ridiculously attractive as well as firm and authoritative may be too much and I'll seriously southern-belle swoon

I discovered late on that I'm demisexual, which explains why I had to pretend as I grew up that I fancied various male pin ups.

I genuinely don't get it. Except I do get what I think would be referred to as a /sort of/ crush occasionally.

Jason Momoa.

I'm not into muscles or anything like that. But his personality online, in interviews, the way he types about his family all the time. That, coupled with his cheeky/ sexy/ IDK grin.

That makes me want to meet him.

That's the closest I think I can ever get to feeling what you lot do. It's 110% bot sexual, not lust, not unrequited love....

Wow what's up with everyone tonight.

Mimicking wanking in a chocolate advert= Okay.

Thinking someone is attractive= creepy and objectifying.

Anyway OP there's a Dr at work who is stunning and he walks into a dept and staff/patients fall silent and just look. It's hilarious.
I have to speak to him and I just stutter and giggle. It's ridiculous but oh my he's beautiful.