I know I should ignore it but I can’t

[Wonkydonkey44]

My narcissistic mother in law has given my ex directory phone number to my husbands ex wife and I am fuming . I know I can’t ring her and have a go because that’s just feeding into her weirdness so give me some great ideas to get back at her please!

Alternatively, you could be an adult and rise above all the nonsense?

Surely she’s given her sons ( your husbands) number rather than your personal number? What’s the problem with the ex wife having it? Is there harassment going on?

Really? You wouldn’t be slightly annoyed? They’ve been divorced 20 years ....

Did the ex need to get in touch for some reason? Are things amicable between your husband and his ex?

Ex wife a nitemare . Very messy divorce i just would expect an ex directory number to be private unless we give it out.

No they’ve not spoken for 11years and we’ve not spoken to mil for 7 years .

Unplug the landline. Do people still even use them?

‘Get back at her’ - you’re not a child, are you?

Are you my mil ?

Change your number, and don't give it to MIL?

Why would you want to get back at her? She's obviously after a reaction and you'd be playing right into her hands. Change your number and don't give it to her since she can't be trusted knowing it.

YANBU, if you haven't spoken to either of them for years and the divorce was messy Mil is clearly being malicious in giving the number out. You're right you shouldn't feed into her by reacting - take consolationg in the fact your lack of reaction will piss off MiL. If the ex actually calls just block the number.

I don't think anyone here is your MIL Wonkey.

If you think people saying 'don't be childish' is akin to how your MIL might respond, then you're possibly not coming off in the best light, out of the two of you...

P.S. I don't think you're going to get many 'great ideas' to 'get back at her'.

Do you think she is going to call you now?

Did MIL give you a reason as to why she'd given it to the ex? I'd be very annoyed it's not her number to give out and she's clearly trying to stir! Love how high and mighty some of these replies sound!

Just stop using your landline.

Unplug the phone and change your phone number. Don't give the new one to MIL.

Why would she have given it? Is this your home number, so not yours but joint? How did you find out? Did the ex call you and if so why? Are there children involved?

How do you know this if you’ve not spoken to either of them for years?

Get back at her??

I wouldn't even do anything about it, it's not a big deal.

Yes, hue go you know?? Has the ex phoned?

I don't think it's gonna affect your life in any way so let it go.

How do you know? Has she called you? (Is there a way to block numbers from calling a landline? Do you even use your landline?)

If she’s narcissistic, don’t do anything. Just completely ignore. She’s looking for a reaction; the best way to “get back at her” would be to deny her that.

I would be annoyed too (obviously?)
Get a phone with caller display then you don’t have to answer if it’s someone you don’t want to speak to. I do the same on my mobile and only answer if I know who it is or am expecting a call. If I don’t know the number I google it after it’s stopped ringing, and it’s usually PPI or something.

Do people even have landlines these days lol.