Bullied out of my job

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I've been bullied at work for the past 3 years. I raised a formal grievance which proved this. I'm now off work with work related stress. It's all got to much and the anxiety has taken over my life.

Yesterday I met with my manager who basically said they can't change the bullies behaviour and I need to change how I react to it! There isn't a way forward for me now and it looks like I will have to leave a job that is perfect for me and I really enjoy it. I'm shocked at the lack of support I have received from my managers. It all feels very wrong. What would you do in this situation?

Acas.

It sounds as though the management are afraid to tackle the bullying behaviour. Don’t waste any more energy in trying to resolve this situation. You deserve better. The job isn’t really perfect as you describe, if there is a bully and unsupportive managers. Of course it is wrong that you should have to leave, but your health and happiness are much more of a priority.

They are hoping you will leave. Often happens that bully stays & victim gives up. Less hassle for them. Contact Acas. A one pager from a solicitor might concentrate their mind. Also put in writing the gist of the meeting where they said it was you. Title it 'Notes of Meeting' and ask them for any amendments they may have etc so you have in writing what was said & their agreement with your notes. Again that will make them think twice. They think sending you the leaflets covers their arse Duty of Care wise for your MH.

Try Citizen's Advice as a first port off call.

I'm not at all surprised that this is in a school. My school and LA managements were absolutely hopeless. It was all 'Let's start afresh' etc ( I was in a senior position to the problem member of staff) and he was never properly dealt with.

In the end he left so that solved the situation for me. You have my sympathy. I'm sorry I have no constructive advice.

Have you raised this grievance with the Board of governors? Or are you in Scotland?

Yesterday I met with my manager who basically said they can't change the bullies behaviour and I need to change how I react to it!

Thats a ridiculous response, you shouldn't have to change your behavior because someone else is a cunt.

I've just been offered an interview for a similar role somewhere else. Not sure how I feel about it.

That's good news isn't it???
Or do you think it's a set up?

It's good news. But It's hard to let my current workplace get away with treating me so badly.

Go to the interview. Take the job.
Don't let the bully spoil your chances of a job you love. Good luck!

Go to the interview, get the job and remember it will be their loss.

It's good news. But It's hard to let my current workplace get away with treating me so badly.

You can cite the bullying in your resignation letter. Consider CC to Chair of Govenors.

Not the same as the bully getting comeuppance but you'll have had the last word.

Good Luck with your interview