To not let DD have the same haircut as me?

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I've got an undercut - less of a style statement of any kind, rather that I have really thick long hair and this means there's less of it to deal with.

DD (who's 11) has very thick long hair too, and wants the same for the same reasons (she loves her long hair but there's so much of it to wash and dry which I completely sympathise with).

I don't have an issue in principle with her having it, but think we'll look a couple of idiots walking down the street with the same hair if we both have it done? I'd never consider us wearing the same clothes so AIBU in saying no to this?!

Let her have the same haircut, and wear a hat.

Definitely not.

Are you all honestly saying if you saw us walking down the street next to each other you wouldn't judge??!

Seriously you're more concerned about what others think than your own child's comfort? You can't put her first and nor are you willing to grow yours out and take the discomfort instead?

I would think you were the one trying to make her look like a mini you. Sorry I would think it looks a bit silly.

Yabu really. You yourself say thick long hair is a pain.

What's the difference between you both having long hair and both having long hair with an undercut.

Who cares what other people think? They probably think nothing of it!

Be a bit kinder to your daughter.

I spent my youth with an undercut and cybergoth hair extensions, my partner has a high and long undercut, and I had one u til a few days ago when I shaved my entire head to a grade one.

My eldest has such thick hair it's matting where she can't look after it. She rocks a grade one all over, but now we're in a posher area and she's started secondary, that's not an option. So we are looking at undercutting it. She looks amazing when her hair is looked after, but she has possible dyspraxia and just can't brush her hair properly. When she remembers.

Who cares what others think?

When my daughter is older, if she wants the same haircut as me I’d just think it is cute and let her do it. No big deal.

Are you all honestly saying if you saw us walking down the street next to each other you wouldn't judge??!

I don't think I'd even notice... matching outfits I might, but hair? No.

One of you could wear it up and the other down?

But it doesn't show, does it? I think you should let her have it - no one will notice. My DD and I have the same coat - I love it when we both wear them out.

And I am very envious of your thick hair!

You wouldn’t notice when it’s down, but don’t school require it tied back for PE? So the ‘extreme cuts’ rule might still be a problem?

Yes, school might definitely come back and say no so that will solve it...

I take it none of you that know what an undercut is know what Google is either...

Not the point of the thread at all but I wish I had this problem! My hair is so thin and fine, I can’t do any nice styles with it

I think it’s a bit weird that you think that people seeing a woman and a child would notice that you have the same haircut. Totally different age, size, shape, build bodies...and not an extreme hair colour...I doubt anyone will notice.

That aside. The school can’t stop her having an undercut, just don’t get it quite as close cut.

I'd let her.

Let her have an undercut, cut your hair shorter so you don't look the same.

If you can’t see it when hair is down, why would anyone judge?

I also wouldn’t worry about anyone judging me. I wouldn’t bat an eyelid at matching mums and daughters.

I have thick long hair and there are so many ways to make it more manageable. I’d take her to a decent hairdresser to discuss her options. If she is struggling to manage it, you need to let her do what she needs to do with it, no matter whether you will feel judged or not.

Get a grip

I would of course let her get it. Who cares what random passers by think?

I wouldn't think anything of it. I think you're being a little bit selfish here to be honest. If she wants it for practical reasons then let her.

Myself and my youngest daughter have exactly the same hair colour, texture and curl and we used to have the same hairstyle. I didn't think twice about it and no one ever commented. She looks just like me in her features as well! I wouldn't give it a second thought, OP. I would be more concerned that the school would have a problem with the undercut. I have very thick hair too, and I get it thinned regularly. When it was long I also used to get layers cut underneath so it kept its curl and bounce but was a lot more manageable. Perhaps this would help your daughter manage her long hair and keep the school happy at the same time?

This is an undercut goo.gl/images/n8VuUQ Doesn’t show at all when hair’s down...

So presumably your and DD's hair already look the same?

Does your hair currently look the same when down? Do you always wear it up in a pony tail like her?

You're being silly imo

If s hook say yes, let her. It must be cooler when hair is down and it's far neater when hair is up

They wouldn't let her have an undercut at most schools so if she needs to wear it up for PE she would get into trouble.