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To think DH drinks too much?

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bottleitup · 22/01/2019 21:29

Just this. I'm prepared to be flamed for being unreasonable.

I feel like in recent years DH's drinking has increased and not sure whether it's "normal" - just know it bothers me.

We both work full time and have a toddler DS.

If there is beer in the house, he will finish it all drink it, so we seldom stock any beer at home.

If there is a bottle of wine in the house he will usually want to have some wine on any given evening when we're at home - and if we decide to open it, he will inevitably end up drinking most if not all of it within the same day/evening as I tend to have only one or two glasses. When I point out to him that he's had this amount to drink, he gets annoyed or defensive.

When we are out, he will have at least a couple of beers with a meal if it's a restaurant. This is whether it's lunch or dinner, and even if DS is with us.

It's the weekday evening drinking at home that bothers me. He is a bit of a lightweight in that he is noticeably 'looser' after he's had 2 or 3 beers.

In the last year or so there have been maybe 2-3 times when he's come home from a (rare) night out and been slurring/stumbling/sick. It's 2-3 times too many for me, to be honest.

So as not to drip feed - I grew up in a household where my mum disapproved of my dad drinking (he did a lot of business entertaining). I fear I'm becoming my mum?

Would appreciate some independent perspective on this.

OP posts:
Kittykat93 · 23/01/2019 12:04

Sorry I think you're being totally unreasonable. He's a fully grown man and can have a couple of beers when out for a meal if he wants to. Ffs.

thecatsthecats · 23/01/2019 12:17

The lack of self control thing as annoying with my husband tbf. Not with alcohol - we have lakes of that at home, and we both rarely touch it.

But the biscuits/crisps/cake... Sweet Jesus I wish he'd just have a couple. I've been dieting and exercising and have lost 4st, but am very good at regulating to one or two biscuits a day. He eats the. Whole. Lot.

He wants to lose weight, but just loses it with sweet things. Pisses me off, because I can't keep biscuits in the jar.

Oblomov19 · 23/01/2019 12:19

YABVU

femidom12 · 23/01/2019 12:24

Put this on the relationships board and you will get a totally different response. Your husband would be branded an alcoholic and you would be advised to ask him to leave....

Bluntness100 · 23/01/2019 13:43

Being unable to enjoy yourself without a drink is not a good sign

I'm sure he enjoys himself plenty without a drink. As quite frankly he hardly drinks. And let's be honest here there is nothing whatsoever wrong with enjoying a few drinks occasionally .

She also not only understates what she drinks, she makes no reference to if she has a glass or two of wine if she goes out for dinner.

Personally I suspect the op is controlling, she says I/we don't keep it in the house, indicating she thinks it's her decision and putting herself first, she comments he's the same with ice cream and I'd guess she's had a go at him about that too, she is pissed off he gets annoyed or defensive when she has a go at him, simply expects him to do as he is told, so I think thr signs are in her posts, although she's trying to hide them, she's controlling.

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