Weddings.

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Myself and dp have been engaged jay over 2 years and get married this summer. Wedding will have been booked 2 and a half years by time we get married. We have saved every penny to make our day what we want and with it on the horizon we are excited and can't wait.

This weekend his younger cousin got engaged. Genuinely delighted for her and her partner. However we had decided to get married very quickly, this April in fact. Our stag and hen nights are about the same time as the would be wedding. We are both a tad miffed. We feel she is trying to beat us to the alter. She's never wanted for anything and even brags how she the most qualified member of the family.
AIBU

OP (because obviously you're still reading these replies even if you're not posting) why don't you re-ask the question in the weddings section? Everyone there is in the same, er, "focused" frame of mind and you might find a more receptive audience.

(YABVVVU, sorry.)

Too funny. Whhhaaaaa nasty MN posters don't agree with me so I'm going to delete this thread. So pleased I was in before the flounce

You are still being ridiculous and a bridezilla.

So she's getting married in April and you're getting married in "summer" (so June? July?)

Unless you have lots of friends and family in common who will choose her hen do over yours, YABU to expect her to meld her wedding plans around yours to the tune of not being able to get married within a couple of months of each other.

Honestly, weddings are lovely and I really enjoy seeing people who are near and dear to me getting married...But they aren't that much of a big deal to anyone outside the immediate wedding party TBH

You need to find a way to get over this (it sounds as if you are resentful of your cousin anyway, long before the wedding stuff?) and not let it ruin either her day or yours

The whole wedding thing is sad, people want different things. Why not just plan a marriage instead of a wedding? Sorry but yea you are unreasonable

Sorry, choose her wedding over your hen do

Yabu you chose when to marry and how, they have avoided your wedding date by a wide margin - why should they even consider your stag and hens? Having them 3 months before the wedding sounds pretty ridiculous to most people anyway.

Ps I "beat" my cousin to the altar because unlike their 2 year engagement, we decided only 6 beforehand why wait - there had been a cancellation at the church in August and we grabbed it. They married the following feb as planned

I know of siblings whose weddings were two weeks apart. No one gave it a second thought.