Am I the only one who doesn’t get hen party invites?!

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There’s been loads of posts about hen party angst. Some people are saying they get invited to several a year costing lots of money.

I must be living in a different universe! I’m 30 and I’ve been to one hen party for which I was also a bridesmaid. My “hen party” would basically be two long-standing friends I’ve known for years and a newish friend from a previous job.

Do most people have huge groups of female friends as I’ve never been able to manage it - not that I want to but just curious...

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I’ve only been to one and it was a relative. I’m always just on the outside of things

I've never been to one :) (35)

I’ve been to 4 EVERnand I was moh at 2 of them.! And they were all lively single night out affairs...

Ive been to about 3/4 (never abroad though) I don't have a huge circle of friends. I'm 34.

I've never, ever been to a hen party, not even for my own wedding. I don't have any friends though so that might have something to do with it...

None of my friends are married yet so I have veen to none. However, I only have 4 female friends (2 I went to 6th form with and 2 I went to school with). Those 4 are VERY close friends. I don't actually have any female friends outside of those, i.e. no female 'friends/acquaintances'

I've been to 4 hen parties since I was 25 (over a decade ago and bit including my own!) - two for friends and two for relatives. My other friends were either married when I met them or aren't married. I guess it's just circumstances; I have a small group of friends and only a few relatives I'm close to, so I can't expect many invites. But of a shame really, I'd love to go to more!

Never been to one either. None of my closest female friends had them - most of them aren’t married TBH. I had a rowdy pink champagne-swilling lunch at work but it was a gender neutral affair. I have been to a stag do (not the sort with strippers) when I accidentally crashed a mate’s one and got invited along.

It’s one of my life’s regrets actually - they sound like great fun, either the drunk and lairy trips round down-market night spots or the afternoon tea, Prosecco and bunting-sewing sort. As long as you actually like the company of your friends that is.

Nope, never been to one. Before my wedding I had an evening out with my best friend.

My older sister had a night out with about five friends, I think they went to a restaurant for a nice meal.

I've only been to one my own lol it was lovely a zoo where I got to feed penguins then cinema and a movie x

3 invites from uni friends.
1 was at her house- marquee and Beauty therapist.
1 night out in London. I was pregnant, tired and bored.
1 night out with a stay in nearby cottage. Had a babe in arms so joined them for lunch the following day.

Can’t see me being invited to any more.

If I were you I would see it as a blessing! They are slowing down for me now that I’m on the other side of 30, but between the ages of 27 and 30 I was invited to 12 hen parties and 21 weddings. It was exhausting and expensive - very happy that part of my life is settling down!

I've never been to one either except for my own.

I'm the same. I'm 30 and haven't been to one. The only weddings I've been to were as a child.
The next wedding I'll attend will likely be my own next year!

Thank god, have only been to three civilised ones—dinner/show.

I've been to one, my sisters, 14 years ago. I don't really have any close friends so wouldn't expect to be invited any.

No never been invited to a hen ‘do’
Didn’t have one myself when I got married- mind you that was centuries ago when they weren’t really a ‘thing’
It goes in waves tho
Everyone gets engaged
Loads of weddings
Christenings follow
‘Milestone’ birthday parties
Lots of divorces

It’s a natural cycle imo

I've been to 8 over the years, ranging from a meal out to a wknd at center Parcs. Never been to an abroad one. Only one was a night out with sashes, dares etc. 2 involved spa days. All totally different and I've enjoyed them all.

I've only been to two besides my own, and I'm in my 40s.

They were all modest events consisting of a meal out and a few drinks.

I was thinking the same. I've been to 3 plus my own and declined 2 (one I was heavily pregnant and really sil was being polite inviting me. They did a treasure hunt style pub crawl activity which at 7.5 months pg didn't seem like a good idea. Other decline was a weekend away but I was breast feeding dd1. Neither brides were rude or offended.

Most of my friends I've made as an adult are already married and my teenage year friends are either unmarried or male so I wasn't invited to stag do.

Sorry, meant to say that all were under £100, great fun and drama free.

I've never been part of a big group of friends and as a result am the same as you OP. My 'hen' was shared with DH and was just our wedding guests essentially as it was the night before at a destination wedding. Not everyone's cup of tea but it really helped welcome everyone and get us all excited.

I'd be screwed if I had to find enough people for a hen weekend'

I think it depends on how extrovert and sociable you are.
I was bridesmaid 6 times in one summer alone! That was excessive but it just happened that all my closest friends decided to get married that summer.
I have friends from school, university and several jobs over the years who I’ve remained close to, plus friends I’ve made through these friends.
But I go on at least 1 hen do a year, invited to more but I can’t afford to go on them all.

Don’t worry OP, you aren’t missing much!

I’m an introvert and they’re my idea of hell. Amazes me that everyone else says what a great time they’ve had

I haven't been to any and didn't have one myself. I'm very relieved to hear I'm not the only one - I'd hate to have to admit it in real life!