I know I’m being selfish and I know I am being unreasonable but is it ok to be feeling a little hurt about nan offering cousin money.

[Lonelyheart2020]

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So back ground

• my daughter has been in hospital in and out for 5 years longest admission was 20 months without going home once !

She has had mutiple surgeries ( over 20 ) 7 bouts of sepsis, is attached to a iv line for 12-16 hours a day we have lost her nearly more times than I can count. No one has ever really bothered with her tbh have had very little help. Anyway last year we got hit by a huge financial crisis ( really long story ) my friend set up a fundraiser and not one memeber if family offered to help. In fact I got trolled by others over it being quite cruel about me and daughter ( this wasn’t family ) Anyway so my cousin who lives across the world son was diagnosed with a tumour about 3 years ago, he is doing well now and he has had chemo so absolutely deserves to be treated. He is now no evidence disease and finished treatment a while ago. As a celebration they are raising money for a specific holiday ( again absolutely deserved ) But what shocked me was my aunt ringing me to ask me if I had her direct number as her and our nan would like to give them the money for the holiday. Apart of me broke down Last year I could barely afford to keep daughter at home safwwith the flat and gas etc we haven’t been on holiday in 5 years but not once have any of them despite me making it clear that we were seriously in need at the time. So yes I know I’m being unreasonable, I know no one has to help me but I just felt a little like wtf ! Which probably makes me a awful person.

Some families are not very good (understatement) at accepting disabled family members as part of the family and treating them accordingly. And that's shit. I wouldn't work too hard at hiding your hurt tbh and even less should you feel guilty about it.