AIBU

[LottieLou90]

So, I’ve been on Maternity leave for the past few months. Due to return to work in May.

I take care of all the child care during the night, taking oldest to school etc and doing the main share of home chores. Tidying, dinner, washing up etc.

So tonight, my DH worked 9am-1pm. I did the food shop, went to the park, came home, tidied up. I cooked dinner.

I just came into the kitchen and found out my DH has done the washing up. Very nice. Really lovely. But stood there expecting a thanks. I asked him what was wrong. He replied “well I’ve done the washing up”.

I said “ok, so are you expecting a medal?”

He said “no, but a thanks would be nice”

WTAF.

Told him I’m posting on here for the general consensus.

I’m so taken aback. He’s never said anything like this before. We’ve been together for 5 years.

What would your reaction be?

TIA x

My reaction would be, am I the only one who used the dishes then?? Arsehole.

He’s an idiot

Ask him when the last time was that he thanked you for doing any household chores?

Thank you for your replies.

Don’t know what’s going on. He’s never been like this. Now it’s like he wants me to thank him every time he does something.

Big shock coming when I go back to work!! X

And my reaction would have been the same as yours. ‘Do you want a medal?’

He's a twat! A thanks for doing the dishes... aye here op I've got some potty training gold star stickers left, do you want one for him?

My dh does the dishes everynight, manages to never whinge bout it.

He's a twat. Does he say thanks every time you get up in the night, make tea, iron, cook, clean, dust, hoover, and so forth?

KNOB.

My reaction would be to laugh my head off and say 'so washing up is MY job is it, and as you've so kindly done MY job, I have to thank you? Stop being such an arse.' And he wouldn't do it again.

I would probably thank him in general for doing that as I would see it as more of a 'my job' thing. But for him to stand there expecting a thanks...he can go fuck himself.

Did he say thanks for his dinner? No? Then he’s a twat.

My dh does the dishes everyday. I'm on maternity leave but I'm running round after 4 dc and doing pretty much all of the other jobs in the house. He knows he's getting off lightly and certainly doesn't expect a thank you

Did he say thank you to you for doing the shopping, tidying up or cooking dinner? If not, why not? Surely it works both ways?

@TheCanyon might need them apparently!! It’s so odd. He’s normally ok with household stuff but over the past few weeks he’s been almost wanting a ‘thanks’ very odd. X

@Iloveacurry doesn't everyone say thank you for their meal? Everyone I know certainly does.

He wants a thank you for things he should be doing anyway? Why not a blow job every time he takes out the rubbish? Where's YOUR thanks for the shit you do day in and day out?

What a massive bellend.

General consensus so far. You are being a plank OPs dh - buck up.

Thank you all. I will be showing him this thread!!! X

I’ve gotta be honest, I always say thanks if my husband does the dishes if he knows I was about to do it. And he always tells me to fuck off, and stop saying thanks! I’d be pissed off if he expected it!!
I always get a thanks for making tea and if he comes home to the house lovely and tidy haha think that’s just the way we are tbh, but as I say, if he expected to be thanked for doing his own housework I’d tell him to fuck right off!!

Did he not eat off those plates too then? Does he not use clean crockery and cutlery when he’s at home? Is it just you who uses clean mugs for tea?

Why would you need to say thanks to him for cleaning the dishes you provided his dinner on?? My DH washes up every night.....in our house the one that cooks doesn't wash up!

I'd make him a sticker chart 😂

Make yourself one too and see who gets more rewards

He's got used to you being his servant. Stop.

I didn't do all the extra during my mat leaves so that I wouldn't be taken for granted.

Make sure this isn't the default setting.

So he thinks it’s super special that he made such an effort - does he want praise for wiping his arse too?

I’d be writing out a list of all the jobs you do daily that you’ll be needing thanks for. You know the whole putting your career on hold to raise your child whilst still doing all the additional “wife work.” Not fair. This is 2019 isn’t it?