To be annoyed at my flatmate showering at 2am?

[Bananafritter]

So for a bit of context, in a flatshare with a few other people. Get on well with most of them but one of them has always been quite shy and seems to avoid the rest of us. Can occasionally come across rude but I’ve always put it down to shyness/social awkwardness and it doesn’t bother me much.

She often comes home at midnight midweek. Generally I don’t pay much attention to peoples comings or goings but regularly coming home late at night seems a bit off to me as the doors are heavy and all of the other flatmates have been woken up by her on a few occasions. Not a massive deal though as it’s fairly easy to go back to sleep - if she stays in her room.

However she regularly has showers at night, any time from 2am-5am. The whole process of this is loud. The fan from the shower is loud, it’s quite a small flat and again, all other people in the flat have been woken up by her doing this at least once.

I don’t want to cause any bad blood so I’m not sure if it’s worth tackling. If she was more social I would probably just mention it casually but even then, is that unreasonable to constrict her shower times? I don’t want to make things awkward but it is quite annoying being woken up in the middle of the night when I’ve got to be up for work the next morning.

You can always turn the fan off too if that it the worse noise (switch it off or take the fuse out)

If she's waking you when she gets in, isn't that a good time to have a word with her?

I often have to shower and change clothes at 4am because I wake up with period leaks. There may be a reason for her showering late. Talk to her about it?

Irrelevant but how do 'a few' people live in a flat. It must be fucking massive.

Three bedroom flat converted. Could become four plus bedrooms if you remove the livingroom and split doubles into singles.

Irrelevant but how do 'a few' people live in a flat. It must be fucking massive.

Not sure if you're aware but there are these things called flats with multiple bedrooms. Lived in several as a student that had 5 bedrooms or more and in a couple in my 20s that also housed 4 or more. Incredible, right?

Of course YANBU!
You are sharing but tenants must be respectful of each other. An occasional middle of the night shower is fine but a regular thing that disturbs flatmates is not on!
You need to think about what exactly you hope, and what you can actually achieve in approaching your flat mate about this.
What’s in the contract? What do other flat mates want to happen etc etc?