I'm probably going to get flamed for this and told not my circus not my monkey but I heard something today that's got my back up.
I just found out that someone within my "family" is expecting another baby. This woman has two kids already and a sd, one child allegedly has severe additional needs (though I do wonder if they are real as nothing has been confirmed and suspect she has munchenhausen by proxy tbh) and a Down syndrome little baby boy.
Their sd is having a really rough patch and there's now court dates and all sorts because of her difficult relationship with her step mum.
This person very nearly died numerous times during their pregnancies and have some severe emotional and physical issues themselves. They also heavily rely on my mil who, in turn, ends up having to sacrifice time with our kids, her gc to help out.
Mil is now quite poorly from stress and other issues but gets strong armed into constantly helping out when these people just turn up and let themselves in the house.
I am TRYING to not get cross but after many ruined anniversaries/birthdays/valentines date etc where this woman has ended up in hospital/having some sort of psychotic episode (all shortly after discovering we had mil babysitting for us 
) my stocks of giving a fuck and being sympathetic have crumbled. My dh effectively wants to go nc with his mum sometimes because of this additional interference.
We have now kindly said to mil we won't ask her anymore because this person ALWAYS gets wind of it and decides that it's an opportune time to have a drama. I'd be more sympathetic if it hadn't happened 100% of the time.
My kids are gutted and miss their gm and spending time with her but last time they went to her house to play these relations turned up with one of the kids infected with chickenpox and the other with viral pneumonia.
Thankfully my kids didn't catch either somehow but the kids mother didn't think that it was an issue at all.
So, despite all this and the fact she has been told to get sterilised because there's a more than 50% she will die if she got pregnant again, they've decided to have another baby. The chances of the baby also having severe needs is high and their justification is that need someone who will be able to look after their SEN children when they get older and die (!!!!)
Is this not utterly insane? I have had long frank discussions with my mil about this and she tries to not get involved but they just show up and her partner won't turn his family away obviously.
Sorry, just needed to rant. When my dh finds out he's going to go absolutely spare and I will be surprised if he lets his mum see the kids anymore. Such is the bad feeling that this situation has created.