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To be furious over what has just happened?

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 09:46

Out Walking our dogs and my 6 month old baby in carrier. I have four dogs and look after one of my friend's dogs while she's at work occasionally. My four are quite large, the biggest being big German shepherd size and the smallest is a pug (friend's dog).

Before I get flamed for having too many dogs, two were mine, two my DH's before we met, so obviously we now have four. We aren't the kind of people to get rid of dogs just because we had a child - dogs are family too and we treat them as such.

We live in the countryside, very quiet rural area.
Coming to the end of our walk over the fields (where I never usually see any other walkers) I see another dog approaching - muzzled Siberian husky with a bloke.
At this point I already have four on leads ready for the road back to our house and bent down squat position to put pug on a lead.

I thought man would stop when he saw me bent down but he carried on approaching. I was struggling to get wriggly pug back on lead so I called out to him "can you just wait there a sec so I can get this one on the lead?" - No response and continues towards us.

Still trying to get dog on lead and my dogs are now getting a bit twitchy and unsettled that this bloke is approaching them, so one of mine barks.
Just to add here, our dogs are all very well behaved but they are protective over me and DD and will act accordingly if they feel threatened.

Man takes no notice, I call out again and say "can you just give me a second?" Ignores me completely.

He decides to squeeze by my dogs and I with a stupid smirk on his face. He can clearly see I'm struggling and baby is now crying and the others are pissed off. One of mine pulled forward and I dug my heels in and sat back so as not to land on my daughter.

I shouted at him and called him a fucking arsehole.

If he could have waited one second, I'd have been out the way and that wouldn't have had to have happened.

FFS Angry I just despise people at times.

OP posts:
ILoveMaxiBondi · 15/01/2019 19:09

Perhaps we need a.... DIAGRAM! Grin

Streamside · 15/01/2019 19:18

I'd be careful of carrying the baby like that while walking large dogs. My rotweiller/lab cross once unexpectedly jumped on me from behind and knocked me completely of my feet.I wonder would a pushchair be easier and admire you trying to walk so many dogs whilst looking after the baby. Was the man not just being a typical macho 'I know my dog's sort of character.To be fair maybe he does know his dog and felt it was safe.

Dahlietta · 15/01/2019 19:40

This thread seems to me the equivalent of "I was walking out of a shop today struggling a bit with my bags. There was a man in front of me who could have held the door for me, but didn't".

It would have been nice of him to wait a second, but it's not worth all this fuss that he didn't!

ChinnyReckonn · 15/01/2019 19:49

What a massive fuss over nothing. This whole incident warrants an eye roll if that. Some hysterical replies on this thread too!

JeremyPacman · 15/01/2019 19:56

"At this point I already have four on leads ready for the road back to our house and bent down squat position to put pug on a lead.

I thought man would stop when he saw me bent down but he carried on approaching."

I have a dog and wouldn't have stopped at this point; if the pug was at the back behind four other large dogs how would I have known you weren't doing shoelaces or something?

Your friend is taking the micky expecting you to walk her dog btw.

dustarr73 · 15/01/2019 20:16

@Dahlietta thats nothing like this thread.

Dahlietta · 15/01/2019 20:45

dustarr73, well thank you for setting me straight! Would you like to hear my reasoning or is your mind made up? Grin

onemorego2019 · 15/01/2019 21:01

@bigredmachine perhaps you'd like to re read my comment. You will find I said 'many of them'

Although qualification seems to be very easy to identify on this thread.

I'm at an absolute loss sometimes seeing how people behave. Would you honestly speak as you do to people in real life?

I expect @DippyDiplodocus is off snuggling her baby now or perhaps one of those big dogs 😂

I think you said your baby was 8 months @DippyDiplodocus if that's the case try back carrying your baby I found it easier to balance when they got a bit bigger. Baby will be able to see more too x

Senioritafamiglia · 15/01/2019 21:12

Good lord.

What a bun fight over a total non event.

'person walks a lot of dogs with a child, another person walks past'

Hmm
BlimeyCalmDown · 15/01/2019 21:26

OP you haven't addressed everyone's suggestions of he may had had cordless earphones in or not spoken English (if I've missed that then apologies).

Personally taking on a friend's dog meaning you had 5 with a baby and were indeed unable to manage means for me YABU.

On a very sad note I heard today a staffie mauled a tea cup chihuahua in my local area, ran up behind him and the owner of chihuahua didn't manage to grab him up on time as it happened so quick, poor wee mite had to be put down he was in that bad a state, makes me sick.

Notwiththeseknees · 15/01/2019 21:26

Unbelievable the bile & know it allness on this site, especially when it concerns dogs. Thank god there are so many amazingly trained dogs in the hands of these Mumsnetters than can stop on a sixpence, 5 miles away, not blink and teleport back to their handler who is carrying every single atom of their shit in a small plastic bag.

OP, the guy was an arse, your dogs sound fab & well-behaved and the pug - little sod Grin but that's what they do best!

dustarr73 · 15/01/2019 21:32

dustarr73, well thank you for setting me straight! Would you like to hear my reasoning or is your mind made up? grin

Go on then @Dahlietta

joanmcc · 15/01/2019 21:41

Unbelievable the bile

You seem to produce plenty of it yourself.

Wordthe · 15/01/2019 21:46

The staffordshire eats chihuahua episode sounds horrific, I have heard similar accounts of small dogs or young dogs being killed by Staffordshires or similar types of breeds

I also witnessed an attack on a Jack Russell by Staffordshire once, it was horrific, the screaming, I doubt the Jack Russell survived
must have been so horriblely traumatic for the owner

Wordthe · 15/01/2019 21:49

Then again I suppose the owners of the fighting breeds are pleased when this sort of thing happens after all dogs have the right to run about and do their own thing, expressing it's true nature enjoying it's doggy lifestyle, doing its doggy thing
It's a dog eat dog world
Predators gotta do what a predators gotta do

Stickmanslittleleaf · 15/01/2019 22:20

OP please don't walk so many dogs (even 2 is too many IMO) with your baby in a sling. What if the man wasn't there but a dog had got loose from a garden/ was lost/ abandoned and was aggressive towards yours? A fight took place instigated by the other dog and you have no way of safely stopping it? You need an off road pram, anything so you could put the brake on and leave at a distance. The man in your OP could have stopped, maybe should have but he didn't and wasn't obliged to. It will be a lot harder to walk 4 dogs with a pram but if something goes wrong it'll be a damn sight harder to stop 4 dogs in a fight without.

Productrecall · 15/01/2019 22:26

I assume they can see a raised hand and eye contact and someone's mouth moving too.

And still with the sarcasm.

This thread is crazy. At the heart of the matter OP is making negative assumptions about the man calmly walking his leashed and muzzled dog, yet is completely unable to accept that he may have also have made assumptions ie that a hand was raised in greeting, it only takes a moment to clip a lead on, he was doing the best thing to get past quickly, as her dogs were starting to get aggressive at him and his lone dog, etc.

And for that alone, YABU.
And YABVU for shouting abuse after him.

Yabbers · 15/01/2019 23:11

If he didn’t respond to you being vile and rude to him, it’s almost certain he was unable to hear you.

The smug twat you are describing would have reacted to that.

TwitterQueen1 · 15/01/2019 23:16

I would like to thank the OP for keeping me highly entertained today. I've learned a fair bit about deflection techniques, avoidance of responsibility, projection, denial and red herrings.

Additionally, all dog walkers need to be made aware of the potential menace and dangers posed by East European music listeners wearing ear buds walking one muzzled dog on a lead and with an inability to mind read, who deliberately refuse to do what someone else expects them to. Grin Grin Grin

Smallhorse · 15/01/2019 23:23

Everyone thinks their own dogs are well behaved !

How rude you sound

MaybeMaybeNotJ · 15/01/2019 23:24

Nah he’s a knob! He would have seen you speaking and putting your hand up which is pretty obvious sign language!

If you’re crouched down with a baby, regardless of the situation, he shouldn’t have squeezed by.

Bahhhhhumbug · 15/01/2019 23:56

TwitterQueen Grin

Stressedout10 · 16/01/2019 00:14

Op could you please explain why your husband can't walk his own dogs in the dark I do this atleast twice a day more in the winter.?
Also I'm glad you realize that your demand was ott

FinnegansWhiskers · 16/01/2019 01:11

Op could you please explain why your husband can't walk his own dogs in the dark I do this atleast twice a day more in the winter

My DH walks ours at 6am before work too. I do the afternoon walk and we both/me/DH do the evening walk.

In the scenario described there is no valid reason why OP has to walk 5 dogs, altogether, whilst having a baby strapped to her. It's an accident waiting to happen.

Charlie97 · 16/01/2019 06:43

So OP has not come back, I'm not going to get my question answered. She clearly could read all the other posts but not that one....... oh well I think that maybe an answer in itself!

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