To buy my DD's stepmum a present?

[CrumpBrunette]

My DD's stepmum has a big birthday next week and I'm wondering if it would be weird if I bought her a little gift? She's brilliant with my DD and a really lovely stepmum. We're not 'friends' as such, above and beyond friendly chit chat on pickups and if we bump into each other. Would a little gift (nice bottle of something or the likes) say "thank you for being a good stepmum" OR would it scream "weird ex wife"? 😂

I think it would be lovely and show you appreciate her. Wing there for your dc.

That is a lovely thing to do. YANBU

I think it’s a lovely idea.

Genuinely lovely

Lovely idea! I'm sure she'll really appreciate it

You sound lovely OP, I think it’s a really kind and thoughtful idea! If I was the recipient I’d be very touched by that.

No that would be lovely!
If my ds’s “Step mum” was nice I’d have given her something for her birthday but as it stands she was a nasty, spiteful cock womble so she got nowt!

Another one who thinks that’s a lovely idea.
For what it’s worth you both sound lovely OP

Nope, not weird at all, it's a lovely idea. Fostering a positive, mutually respectful relationship with a step parent is an incredible thing to do, particularly for your DD.

A lovely thing to do. How lovely for your DD to see you all being friendly too.

No, it would be kind and thoughtful.

Do it, it's a lovely thought and I'm sure it will be much appreciated

I think it’s a lovely thing to do and not weird at all x

Aw good thank you all, I'll definitely buy her something then. I first thought about getting her something from DD but her dad will be doing that with her anyway. I just was worried about her feeling weird and I definitely wouldn't think she had to get me something back for my birthdays

A lovely thing to do.

As a child of divorced parents, it has been amazing to grow up in a friendly and positive environment, where my parents got on and everyone was nice to each other.

As a step mum myself lovely gesture and I’d really appreciate it!

Such a lovely thing to do! Your daughter is very lucky to have such a caring step-mom, and it's wonderful of you to show her how much she is appreciated.

What a lovely thing to do.

More importantly you are setting a great example to your daughter which will have a long lasting positive impact on her.

I think she'd be chuffed if she knew how you felt, it's lovely.

I think that's a lovely gesture & it's nice to hear such a positive story about seperated parents / family. You sound like a great mother & role model to your dd.

Go for it OP .. what a lovely gesture 🌷

To echo pp,s I think that.would be a lovely thing to do and it's nice to see all adults behaving amicably which I know from personal experience isn't easy at times.

Absolutely lovely idea. If only there were more people like you and the step mum. Your lucky daughter!

You should both be very proud of the amicable relationship you have, not all step/ex/blended families manage this. Your DD is very lucky.