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To buy my DD's stepmum a present?

44 replies

CrumpBrunette · 14/01/2019 21:39

My DD's stepmum has a big birthday next week and I'm wondering if it would be weird if I bought her a little gift? She's brilliant with my DD and a really lovely stepmum. We're not 'friends' as such, above and beyond friendly chit chat on pickups and if we bump into each other. Would a little gift (nice bottle of something or the likes) say "thank you for being a good stepmum" OR would it scream "weird ex wife"? 😂

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BigusBumus · 14/01/2019 21:40

I think it would be lovely and show you appreciate her. Wing there for your dc.

Monst3ra · 14/01/2019 21:40

That is a lovely thing to do. YANBU

WoodlandOaks · 14/01/2019 21:40

I think it’s a lovely idea.

MiddleClassProblem · 14/01/2019 21:41

Genuinely lovely

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livvymc · 14/01/2019 21:42

Lovely idea! I'm sure she'll really appreciate it Smile

Withasideofbeans · 14/01/2019 21:42

You sound lovely OP, I think it’s a really kind and thoughtful idea! If I was the recipient I’d be very touched by that.

Pk37 · 14/01/2019 21:42

No that would be lovely!
If my ds’s “Step mum” was nice I’d have given her something for her birthday but as it stands she was a nasty, spiteful cock womble so she got nowt!

FortyFacedFuckers · 14/01/2019 21:42

Another one who thinks that’s a lovely idea.
For what it’s worth you both sound lovely OP

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 14/01/2019 21:42

Nope, not weird at all, it's a lovely idea. Fostering a positive, mutually respectful relationship with a step parent is an incredible thing to do, particularly for your DD.

Matilda15 · 14/01/2019 21:43

A lovely thing to do. How lovely for your DD to see you all being friendly too.

GlasgowWorrier · 14/01/2019 21:43

No, it would be kind and thoughtful.

RLABC · 14/01/2019 21:43

Do it, it's a lovely thought and I'm sure it will be much appreciated

rainbowlou · 14/01/2019 21:44

I think it’s a lovely thing to do and not weird at all x

Original poster
CrumpBrunette · 14/01/2019 21:45

Aw good thank you all, I'll definitely buy her something then. I first thought about getting her something from DD but her dad will be doing that with her anyway. I just was worried about her feeling weird and I definitely wouldn't think she had to get me something back for my birthdays Grin

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PurpleCrazyHorse · 14/01/2019 21:45

A lovely thing to do.

As a child of divorced parents, it has been amazing to grow up in a friendly and positive environment, where my parents got on and everyone was nice to each other.

Tiredeyes21 · 14/01/2019 21:46

As a step mum myself lovely gesture and I’d really appreciate it!

Aquamarine1029 · 14/01/2019 21:47

Such a lovely thing to do! Your daughter is very lucky to have such a caring step-mom, and it's wonderful of you to show her how much she is appreciated.

TheRedFox · 14/01/2019 21:48

What a lovely thing to do.

More importantly you are setting a great example to your daughter which will have a long lasting positive impact on her.

Waddsup12 · 14/01/2019 21:48

I think she'd be chuffed if she knew how you felt, it's lovely.

CaptainCarp · 14/01/2019 21:52

I think that's a lovely gesture & it's nice to hear such a positive story about seperated parents / family. You sound like a great mother & role model to your dd.

Hanab · 14/01/2019 21:52

Go for it OP .. what a lovely gesture 🌷

x2boys · 14/01/2019 21:57

To echo pp,s I think that.would be a lovely thing to do and it's nice to see all adults behaving amicably which I know from personal experience isn't easy at times.

RachelRosie · 14/01/2019 22:00

Absolutely lovely idea. If only there were more people like you and the step mum. Your lucky daughter!

IconicWaffle · 14/01/2019 22:00

You should both be very proud of the amicable relationship you have, not all step/ex/blended families manage this. Your DD is very lucky.