To buy a baby sleep nest?

[sleepymummy2019]

Baby is 12 weeks old and just won’t sleep - I’m so tired I don’t know what else to try!

She sleeps OK for 2-3 hours at the start of the night, then is awake either every hour. During the day she used to fall asleep quite easily either in the breast, in a sling or in her pram, but now none of these work every time. Some days she’ll nap but today she’s slept for about 30 minutes in the car and that’s all.

We’ve tried a bedside crib, but she sleeps better in her bassinet. Ewan the sheep is perhaps a little helpful to get her off to sleep but white noise on my phone doesn’t seem to make a difference. We’ve even tried co-sleeping, which sometimes works OK, but often just means I can’t sleep because I can’t get comfortable. DP gets up early with her in the morning before work so I can get an hour or two, but once he’s gone to work she’s awake and full of energy.

Some days I’m so tired I just feel like I’m going through the motions, which I feel terrible about. I love my baby and want to have the energy to give her all the attention and love she needs.

We haven’t tried a sleep pod, because all the guidance says it’s not safe. But AIBU to try one, if it might help to get me some sleep? It feels so selfish. Or does anyone have any other ideas?

Sorry to ramble on

Sleepyhead grand. Amazing thing!

Buy one they're great. 12 weeks is old enough I would say. We had a sleepy head and it went between us in the bed.
It's co sleeping without the worry!

Sleepyhead is amazing! Used for both my lg.

Sleep head deluxe works wonders for both of mine, but only nighttime for dd so bought a swing chair to save my knees that are throbbing from all the swaying only had it one day but I've been able to put her down today so fingers crossed.

Depends on what actually sends your baby to sleep.

Is it being cuddled? Or the lotion of being rocked?

We have a Joie Serina 3 in 1 baby swing which our dc used to fall asleep in really well, some night we actually used the cradle in our room and left her in it as it was the only way she would sleep!

she still naps in it during the day.

I wouldn't considering the SIDS risk. The Lullaby Trust very strongly recommends against using them. It isn't worth the increased risk IMO.

Have you tried swaddling?

I recommend swaddling, DS loved being snug and wrapped up, he thought I was holding him.

Has she always been like this or is it just the past few weeks?

Regardless you are probably better of posting on the "Sleep" part of the forum under the "Being a parent" section.

Swaddling also isn't advised due to Side. Can you speak to your health visitor?

We tried swaddling which worked really well until she was too big for it. Also have you tried putting the top that you've worn in the day on top of the sheet in the crib?Makes it smell like you and they feel more comfortable, this worked like an absolute dream with my dd.

My DS was the same until I discovered swaddling, we literally had to warp him as tight as we could possibly and he slept so much better.

Definitely get a Sleepyhead. Best baby purchase ever!

We had a similar issue and put ds in his own room when he was just a few weeks older than your dd. Instant better sleep all round, even for naps!

The Lullaby Trust can't recommend any sleep pods because they haven't done enough testing (and the ethics around testing and SIDS is obviously a minefield) but they have been tested for breathability. I used one until DD started rolling at which point I didn't feel comfortable and took her out (she hardly notified to be honest). She definitely slept better with it.

Thanks for the replies, I appreciate your advice.

She has always been a poor sleeper but has had brief periods of slightly longer sleeps, which has kept me going so far; she’s been going through this current bad patch for a couple of weeks and I’m getting desperate!

She likes to sleep while being cuddled. We tried swaddling as a newborn which didn’t work too well, partly because she wriggled out of the blanket, though I have since been given a big muslin blanket which I could try. But then that’s not really recommended either as Patty says.

I haven’t spoken to my health visitor about it since she was tiny, I will though.

Sorry if this isn’t the best forum, thanks for signposting to the sleep board. Does anyone know if it’s possible to move a thread or do I need to start a new one?

Thanks again, I’m grateful for the tips

Sleepyhead!! Best thing ever invented and only one safe for overnight sleeping!
Lullaby Trust just doesn’t recommend anything at all as it’s too open to interpretation, there’s been zero accidents linked to the Sleepyhead.

Sleepyhead! A great help in this house, and friends who've used one have also loved it

I can't comment on the sleep pod things as we never had one but can recommend the sleep boards for support when you are up all night with a non sleeping baby. Also a white noise machine that plays all night, about £15 on Amazon. I also put a mattress on the floor by the cot for a while as a sort of half way cosleeping. That was when DS was older and the cot was fully lowered so he was about 2 inches from my face but separated by bars and I could roll away.

We’ve just attended our antenatal classes and the guidelines are now that any kind of sleepy head or padded mattres style pod are not recommended due to the increase risk of sids. They also don’t recommend swaddling or for bumpers for that reason to.

This is on offer:

www.camotrend.store/collections/the-baby-store/products/issababy%E2%84%A2%EF%B8%8F-portable-baby-bed

Have you considered allergies/silent reflux etc? Just because my daughters main symptom of cow's milk protein allergy was the sleep pattern you describe.

U can give sleepyhead a try. I know many mums who swear by it.

I personally didnt go for it. Because the same mums decsribed how their DC cant sleep without it. Id hate to be in a situation where id foegotten to take it with me when traveling etc.

Also they are not recommended due to SIDS risk.

But do what you think is right for u and what u are happy using.

I stopped swaddling as a newborn also but have started using swaddleme or gro swaddle, they're amazing, also have a Sleepyhead Deluxe but it's the swaddling that's most important. I'd try a swaddle

Just to correct a pp there have been 12 deaths in the USA directly associated with sleepyhead use.