To buy a baby sleep nest?

[sleepymummy2019]

Baby is 12 weeks old and just won’t sleep - I’m so tired I don’t know what else to try!

She sleeps OK for 2-3 hours at the start of the night, then is awake either every hour. During the day she used to fall asleep quite easily either in the breast, in a sling or in her pram, but now none of these work every time. Some days she’ll nap but today she’s slept for about 30 minutes in the car and that’s all.

We’ve tried a bedside crib, but she sleeps better in her bassinet. Ewan the sheep is perhaps a little helpful to get her off to sleep but white noise on my phone doesn’t seem to make a difference. We’ve even tried co-sleeping, which sometimes works OK, but often just means I can’t sleep because I can’t get comfortable. DP gets up early with her in the morning before work so I can get an hour or two, but once he’s gone to work she’s awake and full of energy.

Some days I’m so tired I just feel like I’m going through the motions, which I feel terrible about. I love my baby and want to have the energy to give her all the attention and love she needs.

We haven’t tried a sleep pod, because all the guidance says it’s not safe. But AIBU to try one, if it might help to get me some sleep? It feels so selfish. Or does anyone have any other ideas?

Sorry to ramble on

Gosh I was completely unaware of the potential risks of sleepyhead, I used it with DD and fully intended to use with my next one. 🤔 I found it incredible

The sleepyhead has been amazing for us, we had the deluxe, graduated to the grand (thank you. Generous Granny & Grumps). I’m sorry to say I chucked DH into spare room (no point in us both being tired) and co slept with the sleepyhead next to, HV was very thin lipped about it but it’s been marvellous and was a vast improvement. DS seems to be starting to show signs of trying to roll in it at 5 months so we might look to move to the cot on its own next month. xx

@MrsPatrickDempsey Can you link to this info?

Not questioning it, just wondered if it's published. Google doesn't show any evidence.

Another vote for sleepyhead. The issue stemmed from deaths in the states related to nests that secured baby in place.

You have to do the research and make a decision.

I’ve had the sleepyhead deluxe and now have a larger nest the purflo maxi.

Sleepyhead all the way. I know there are risks, but to me the risk of falling asleep with my baby on the sofa and crushing him or killing us all in a car crash due to sheer exhaustion seemed more of a worry.

I bought one online in a desperate sleep deprived haze at 3am. Best purchase ever.

Though I probably should add I wouldn't use a sleepyhead if baby was in a separate room to me, only when he was in with us.

Sleepyheads are called “dockatot in the USA- entirely the same company/product

They don’t even sell it as suitable for overnight sleep in Canada/the US, which is so disingenuous given they do market that way here

I didn't realise swaddling was heading towards the 'no' pile as well. I've got a couple of groswaddles ready for arrival of first baby as I'd thought they looked a lot better option than the risk of sheets getting kicked off, tangled up etc. but now not so sure?

Discussion of the rationale as to why Sleepyheads and similar are not recommended can be found here:

www.madeformums.com/baby/are-baby-sleeping-pods-and-nests-safe/43734.html

@cocoajumbo
This is what PP is referring to www.theguardian.com/society/2017/oct/06/uk-retailers-halt-sale-of-baby-sleep-positioners-after-us-warning

It was huge in the news just over a year ago and was written about by most newspapers I think, but as you say, a quick search doesn't really throw much up now. It's old (but still relevent) news. Retailers stopped selling them and those who didn't were criticised. I suspect they're back on sale because the media attention has died down. The sleepyhead manufacturer doesn't have standards to adhere to, hence the lullaby trust getting involved.

Although I'd never use a sleepyhead I wouldn't judge anyone who did. I would always say to do your research on any product and make sure you're happy with it. Personally I think that as with all advice from the lullaby trust you should try to implement as much advise as possible to reduce risk but if you can't reduce all risk then you can't. I have been there with the sheer exhaustion and sometimes you have to do what you have to do. One way around it would be to buy the sleepyhead for daytime use only and then watch them like a hawk.

Interestingly when DD3 was in hospital at a week old they put towels in a sleepyhead shape under the bed sheet so that she felt comfortable and secure. They also swaddled her.

That article doesn't refer to sleepyheads; it refers to sleep positioners. They are different things. The latter has indeed been associated with infant death and is (rightly) no longer recommended.

Sorry that was in response to @MaverickSnoopy's post.

I swear by the amby nature's nest. Best thing ever. Don't have time to explain, but definitely worth a google! (3 kids all used it, including multiple allergy kid) . Bought it when dc1 wouldn't sleep except in my arms. Bliss....